I May Not Know What I'm Talking About but I'm Gonna Say It Anyway

Tara Ratney

Description

Wise advice imparted from a street savvy black woman, I May Not Know What I’m Talking
About But I’m Gonna Say It Anyway delves into man/woman issues where from time to time
a suggestion or two is thrown in along the way.
According to African-American Lifestyle Magazine (www.AA-LIFESTYLE.com), “While Tara concedes that she
isn't an expert in many areas, she can comfortably say that God doesn't bless mess. Often sassy and sometimes
crass, she invites readers to recognize themselves or their behaviors. No one escapes her scathing observations as
she generously heaps blame and shame on enabling parents, disrespectful children, nonexistent morals and marriages
which have no ground rules.”
Blue Ink Review (www.blueinkreview) comments that “The author relays fundamental Christian principles, using biblical passages relating to marriage and relationships, but they’re analyzed in a real-world manner, using colorful and somewhat salty language. It’s like hearing your favorite aunt tell it like it is. "Don’t get too comfortable with the idea that what’s between your legs is always going (to) save the day," Ratney writes…Ratney advises women that sexual, emotional and financial security are "at the bottom of our motives" in choosing a mate and that there must be consequences for bad behavior in life.”’ Overall, the book is a must read for anyone seeking to improve decisions and relationships.

Also available on amazon.com (kindle preferable for most updated version), with an introduction
of the book itself being available on my website: http://tratney.com, along with other
youtube links discussing various other topics from the text

Through God everything is possible

Sujets

• Christian Living
• Inspirational
• Philosophie et théologie
• Religion

Informations

• Publié par: Xlibris US
• Date de parution: 12 novembre 2010
• Nombre de lectures: 0
• EAN13: 9781456801786
• Langue: English
• Poids de l'ouvrage: 1 Mo

Extrait

I May Not Know What I’m Talking About But I’m Gonna Say It Anyway
Tara Ratney

Copyright © 2010 by Tara Ratney.
Library of Congress Control Number:
2010916577
ISBN:
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978-1-4568-0177-9

Softcover
978-1-4568-0176-2

eBook
978-1-4568-0178-6
 
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Rev. date: 12/08/2022
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
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Contents
I n th e beginnin g   .   .   .  . Th e star t o f wher e som e of ou r problem s began
Changing Environment, how we are raised, preparing for relationships, and parents no longer being self-employed or having the opportunity to pass on workable skills to their offsprings
Effects of a Changing Environment, the industrial revolution
Sexual foolishness and delayed marriage, puberty didn’t stop because we decided to focus on other things
Women and th e Games w e play
Get it together girl, your desperation is showing . . . .
Our progress, how’s it working for you?
Respect me please, the consequences of getting our hustle on
Why people continue to be a pain when they have been clearly been given their walking papers
We stay we pay, again the importance of taking responsibility
Question to whomever is in this situation, why do we think that ignorance is bliss
Taking advantage of somebody else’s assets for the purpose of self-gain
Is it him or you, I mean after all he is your husband
On the flip side of the above section, if I can’t trust you when you are not in my face I certainly can’t trust you when you are
The Black perspective, loving each other ain’t always so easy to do
The Black Experience Continued, I’m Your Mother, not your lover
The Black Experience continued, cleaving versus respect, it’s not a competition you know
The Black Experience continued, from welfare to the new way of getting paid, my baby’s daddy
Last Round, before you let go
Men Issues
Introduction, why don’t you get it!
Understanding Your Purpose
Who am I, the man in the mirror: Examples you grow up under and why you need to get it together before repeating the same mistakes
Lust vs Insecurity, Just Be a Man About it: Why Honesty is the Best Policy
Me n Issue s Continued Th e Datin g Game Tel l M e Wh y D o Yo u Pla y th e Wa y Yo u Play
Introduction
Yes Again, why can’t we be friends?
Waiting on Yah
The Importance of being one with oneself
Ego Issues
What you Got is What you Get
The Ones you Marry and the One you Date
Part Two, Who you Bring Home What are you Basing it on?
How Double Standards Can Hurt You and Don’t Ask What You Can’t Afford to Lose
Blac k Me n Issue s Continued Th e Problem wit h Men i s Sex
Introduction
Ok here we go, all the issues I can think of
Blac k Me n Issue s Continued Wh y i s bein g a blac k ma n suc h a n issu e fo r you
Understanding Why You Can’t Continue Keeping the Good Man Inside Of You Down
Gay Issues
Hey, just had to ask . . . .
UTHOR’S V@ICE
After coming into my own at the age of 40, I have, over the past several years, been able to sit down and reflect. Something which in some ways has brought me to writing, with me desiring to tell stories that reflected not only my own personal experiences but others as well. Initially starting off with screenplays, I thought if people actually saw an illustration of the day to day journeys of life, a light bulb would go off in their heads, where they might not only see themselves in the characters that I’ve created but that of those involved as well; with them getting a better perspective of the other person’s point of view. However what I found was when people did read my manuscripts, they only looked at them for the entertainment value they brought (something which was great from the standpoint that they did indeed enjoy them) and not the lessons I was trying to convey; which for me created a problem since that was the real purpose for writing it in the first place. Hence explaining my partial motivation in creating this drama of words properly titled what it is; where through it a lot of straight to the point observations and self-discovery tidbits are passed on. Though I consider myself fortunate to been blessed with great insight, at least that is what I have been told, I by no means consider myself an expert, with me quickly advising the reader to look at this text as a firestarter only; from which I hope will motivate the person to do some serious soul searching, something in turn causing them to talk to those who do have the proper credentials to assist them further in their quest to a more fulfilling life.

THANK U(S)
To Yah for speaking to me daily, helping me to garner words of wisdom to share, because as those who do believe know through you all blessing flow and what I hope one day to be to others (a blessing that is) with you saying well done my child, well done . . . .


I n th e beginnin g   .   .   .  . Th e star t o f wher e som e of ou r problem s began

Changing Environment, how we are raised, preparing for relationships, and parents no longer being self-employed or having the opportunity to pass on workable skills to their offsprings
Education, being not as important during the formative years of our elders as it is now, allowed those desiring to marry right out school ( or even before, if they chose not to finish ) the ability to do so; giving way to a more family oriented and less promiscuous society. Young ladies were able to focused their attentions on becoming wives and mothers as well as acquiring other skills that contributed to the household such as canning, sewing, etc. that could be sold at the market ( and/or for the purpose of bartering goods and services with others in the community ). Young men would work with their fathers learning how to hunt, farm or whatever skills the father had that allowed them to become b readwinners ( see the working together part where then the nurturing presence of a father was more evident ), so by the time the young man and lady reached what was then considered a proper age for m arrying ( something which could easily be before 20 ), they were, for the most part, ready to step into the roles of being husband and wife. And for those getting on their feet, staying with one of the partner’s families created not only a great bond for all concerned but also allowed the two to further get on board by working with those particular elders. However because of the industrial revolution first taking fathers out the home altogether, leaving the primary raising of children to the mother, then the educational system coming into play in a much greater way with all kids being required to finish high school and beyond ( something attributing to marring much later ), as well as , changes in dating customs ( where things like chaperones being no longer part of the picture), created not only a greater desire to have sex outside the union ( you know from raging hormones with nowhere to go ) but an opportunity to do so. Where back in the day it was more acceptable to get married at an earlier age, also less children out of wedlock occurrences, along with less exposure to different sexual experiences, because usually a person’s first love was the only one they shared this kind of intimate bond with. However now, under this new environment, bigger problems have been created, ( from society not providing the kind of educational tools that could’ve aided in giving our youth a better understanding of consequences ( allowing them to see why they should keep themselves until a more appropriate time ) with us instead choosing to just throw rules at them, something resulting in rebellion ) leaving us with what we have now, sexual foolishness; a situation that has been going on for the last 60 years. (Side Note: the difference between the former (educational tools) and the latter (rules) is one has the ability to teach through dialog and illustration where the other doesn’t; depending only on scare tactics as a way of getting the message across, and what I feel has failed misery based on the fact that once kids were able to get out from being under the supervision of their parents they chose to run amuck, ignoring all that was instilled; an outcome no doubt resulting from the lack of true examples of madness to heed to (with any indiscretions that did occur being swept under the rug) with things coming off as only hearsay. A circumstance that no one today can say with there being plenty to base things on.) At one time it use to be men who looked at women as sexual objects, only seeing those they date as something to jack off into until they were ready to settle down. But now with women being more open minded, they taking a similar stance, are doing the same thing as well, which was never the intention of sex; something that was meant to create life should’ve never been looked upon as just being casual. Marriage is a covenant between man, woman and Yah, the one who created it, for two to become one, loving and serving each other with all that comes from it ( meaning children ) being valued in the highest regard. However over t