Sweet Sleep

League International La Leche

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• Publié par: Pinter & Martin Limited
• Date de parution: 01 janvier 0001
• Nombre de lectures: 0
• EAN13: 9781780661582
• Langue: English
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Sweet Sleep

la leche league international

Sweet Sleep
nighttime and naptime strategies for the breastfeeding family

diane wiessinger, diana west, linda j. smith, and teresa pitman
No book can replace the diagnostic expertise and medical advice of a trusted physician. Please be certain to consult with your doctor before making any decisions that affect your or your baby s health, particularly if you suffer from any medical condition or have any symptom that may require treatment.

Sweet sleep: nighttime and naptime strategies for the breastfeeding family

Published 2014 in the UK by Pinter & Martin Ltd.

Copyright 2014 by La Leche League International

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Published by arrangement with Ballantine Books an imprint of Random House, a division of Random House LLC, New York, NY, USA. All rights reserved.

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To you. Listen to your heart. Rest on the research. Sweet sleep to you and your little ones!
contents
Foreword
Preface
Introduction
Part I: Sleeping Better
Chapter 1 Quick Start: Ten Minutes to Better Sleep Tonight
Chapter 2 The Safe Sleep Seven
Part II: Mothers and Babies Together
Chapter 3 Attached and Attuned
Chapter 4 Normal Sleep
Part III: Sleep and Bedsharing Practicalities
Chapter 5 Naps
Chapter 6 Nights
Chapter 7 Sleep Personalities and Places
Chapter 8 Working
Chapter 9 Alternate Routes
Chapter 10 Your Own Sleep Needs
Chapter 11 Gentle Sleep Nudging Methods
Chapter 12 Sleep Gadgets
Part IV: Sleep Ages and Stages
Chapter 13 The First Few Days
Chapter 14 The First Two Weeks
Chapter 15 Two Weeks to Four Months
Chapter 16 Four Months to Toddlerhood
Chapter 17 Toddlerhood and Beyond
PART V: Safe-Sleep Science
Chapter 18 Sleep-Training Concerns
Chapter 19 Suffocation and SIDS: Reality and Risks
Chapter 20 Bedsharing Controversies and Common Sense
PART VI: Help
Chapter 21 Defusing Criticism
Chapter 22 Your Frequently Asked Questions (FAQ)
Chapter 23 Getting Help, Giving Help
Appendix: Tearsheet Toolkit
Acknowledgements: With Our Thanks
Notes
Picture Credits
Index
foreword
What if?
What if everything we did as mothers wasn t under constant scrutiny? What if every natural decision our bodies and our hearts led us to wasn t cause for a Facebook frenzy? What if every time we took our breastfeeding babies to bed with us it wasn t seen as irresponsible parenting? What if we didn t have to follow someone else s notions about sexuality, nurturing, and where our babies should sleep?
What if we could parent organically, without criticism, following our biologically programmed instincts, honouring the hormones that hundreds of thousands of years of mammalian parenting have placed in our bodies, brains, and, yes, breasts?
What if you had the education, resources, and support to make your nighttime choices with confidence, not fear?
I know how it could start: with the courage and devotion of a group of well-informed researchers and writers who speak up on behalf of safe bedsharing for breastfeeding families. It would take a book rooted in science, born out of love, and driven by a passion for helping mothers care for their breastfeeding children at night. That s the book you hold in your hands.
Sweet Sleep is all about understanding and responding to your baby s nighttime needs, understanding the challenges of the sleep decisions you make, and learning to parent safely and securely so that you all sleep better and grow stronger: baby, mother, family, and community.
Mayim Bialik, PhD, Certified Lactation Education Counsellor
preface

Sleep (or the lack of it) looms large for parents-in-waiting-and it is pointless to pretend that your sleep will not be disrupted by your new bundle of joy. His stomach is tiny, and he will need frequent feeds all around the clock-he cannot wait eight hours through the night to be fed just because you need to sleep. He doesn t know that you will come back once you leave his sight. If he feels abandoned, he will cry frantically-it s his only method to attract attention and bring himself to safety. If he cries frantically, it will take a long time for him to calm down and you will have to help him.
The experience of sleep, and of being left alone for sleep, is very different for babies than it is for adults. The quicker you can understand your baby s needs-for comfort, food, reassurance, contact, love-the less disruptive nighttime baby care will become, and the less anxious you will feel. Rigid guidance that insists the only place your baby should sleep is flat on his back in a cot with a firm mattress ignores the reality that most babies do not die unexpectedly during the night but that all babies need frequent feeding, tending, comforting, cuddling, and loving. How to strike a balance between risk avoidance and need fulfilment?
Baby care is about trade-offs-balancing your baby s needs with your own needs, and adapting official recommendations to your own situation rather than following every guideline at all costs. This book takes issue with some of the sleep guidance currently given to parents by official organizations and experts . It explains why, whom that guidance is meant to influence, and what it is intended to accomplish. If you are not the mother and baby the guidance is directed towards, if compliance would carry a greater risk in another aspect of baby care than non-compliance, you should make your own informed choice about which guidance to follow. This book gives you the tools to do so.
The dramatic departure that this book offers is to approach sleep safety via the management of risks to infants in different sleep scenarios. It offers a packaged method (called the Safe Sleep Seven) to help parents identify risks they should avoid, and to reassure those parents whose babies fall into the minuscule risk category. And as one would expect from La Leche League, this book takes breastfeeding and safe sleep sharing as normal facets of baby care.
It makes no guarantees: it doesn t guarantee that your baby will be a good sleeper (be wary of books that do) or that your baby will be absolutely safe. There are no guarantees in life, and tragic events sometimes happen even in the absence of observable risks. The authors do a great job of explaining the magnitude of different risks-those you take every day without thinking and those you agonize over unnecessarily. They also point out those instances where parents sometimes unwittingly increase their babies risk because the reasons behind key guidelines are not properly explained-and parents take a greater risk in trying to eliminate a lesser one!
This book is like having a wise grandmother in your pocket. It s an antidote to new-parent sleep anxiety and the scary tales that you may have been told. It carefully guides you through your options; it unpacks the sensationalist headlines about SIDS and the old wives tales about spoiling. It puts you in control and encourages you to make decisions that suit your family after carefully considering your situation, your baby, and your needs. It gives you permission to trust your instincts (although the only permission you need is your own).
It debunks many myths-some of which are held sacred in certain quarters. I have no doubt this book will cause controversy, and I know that its authors have therefore done their homework very carefully. They have consulted with numerous specialist researchers and read hundreds of research papers. The questions they have asked and the evidence they have amassed have caused them not only to challenge the one-size-fits-all approach to infant sleep safety recommendations but also to challenge the dominant cultural view-point about normal infant care in modern society. After many months of reading and discussing the issues with them, I feel a warm sense of satisfaction that they have reached conclusions very similar to my own, which are based on my training as an anthropologist, 18 years of first-hand research in this field, and my experience as a mother.
The fundamental fact embedded in this book is that breastfeeding mothers and babies bedshare, and do so whether they are advised against it or not. It is a baby care strategy that makes sense to breastfeeding mothers, and it works for reducing the disruption of frequent night feeds, maintaining breastfeeding, and meeting their babies emotional needs and their own sleep needs simultaneously. It s what women and babies have done for millennia, though we now do it in sleep environments very different from those of our predecessors. This book gives guidance not only on whether to bed-share but also how to bedshare as safely as possible. It firmly brings discussion about bedsharing into the open and provides an important resource for breastfeeding mothers in the 21st century. I could not be more pleased to introduce it.
Professor Helen Ball, BSc, MA, PhD
introduction

New-baby greeting cards joke about the 2.00 a.m. feed, but at 2.00 a.m., it s no joke. Too many of today s new mothers feel like zombies during the day, desper