Fire Your Therapist

Joe Siegler

Description

Build the life you want with the powerful alternative to therapy "This is a terrific book about you achieving peak performance, better balance, and success. Think of it as your own personal guide to getting from good to great in your life. Dr. Siegler actually does what many before have set out to accomplish-bright, ambitious people of all ages now have a proven path to transformation." —Stewart Emery, coauthor of the international bestsellers Success Built to Last and Do You Matter? "Dr. Siegler possesses the qualities of the best catalysts for profound change: clarity, compassion, and the courage to see each client with brand new eyes. This book is the essential guide for finding your way through the confusing thicket of self-mastery options." —Raphael Cushnir, author of The One Thing Holding You Back and Surfing Your Inner Sea "Finally, a new paradigm-that is refreshing, daring, cutting edge, and client-centric-that can yield the life and career you want. With Fire Your Therapist, Dr. Siegler ushers in a new era of self-improvement." —Josh Baran, author of The Tao of Now Feel like therapy isn't working for you? Wish there were a better way to achieve your goals? Fire Your Therapist introduces a new, holistic approach to creating the life you want. Based on Dr. Siegler's groundbreaking Spheres of Life Coaching Method, this book explains how to move beyond the "talking cure" of traditional therapy to a more creative, results-oriented way of achieving your goals. You'll be inspired by the experiences of clients who have benefited from Dr. Siegler's proven methods. Fire Your Therapist is the essential step-by-step guide for anyone who wants to create a more successful life.
Acknowledgments.

Introduction.

PART I: Deciding Whether to Fire Your Therapist.

1. Why Therapy Might Not Be Working.

2. What to Expect from Coaching.

3. Commitment, Accountability, and Responsibility.

4. Decide If Your Therapy or Current Approach Is Working.

5. Give Me One Good Reason to Fire My Therapist.

6. Transitioning: When You’re Thinking about Making the Switch.

7. Choose the Right Coach for You.

PART II: Build the Life You Want on Your Own and with Your Coach.

8. Applying the Spheres: The Key to Creating a Full Life.

9. The You Spheres: Self, Body, Spirit, Fun, and Home.

10. The Career Spheres: Work and Money.

11. The People Spheres: Love, Family, Friends, and Community.

12. Laser-Precision Outcomes.

13. Overcome Obstacles to Achieve Outcomes.

14. Approach Greatness.

15. A Better Life and a Better World.

Conclusion.

Index.

Sujets

• Santé et bien-être
• Développement personnel
• développement personnel
• Self-help
• Personal Growth

Informations

• Publié par: Turner Publishing Company
• Date de parution: 22 juin 2009
• Nombre de lectures: 5
• EAN13: 9780470461785
• Langue: English

Extrait

Table of Contents
 
Title Page
Copyright Page
Dedication
Praise
Acknowledgements
Introduction
How This Book Evolved
Respect for the Past of Therapy
Predecessors of Coaching: Solution— Focused Therapy, Cognitive Behavioral ...
Coaching as a Response to What People Need
The Center of the Coaching Universe: Lessons Learned and Shared
 
PART I - DECIDING WHETHER TO FIRE YOUR THERAPIST
 
CHAPTER 1 - Why Therapy Might Not Be Working
 
Coaching Meets an Emerging Need
Coaching Is for Normal People
How You Know You Are Ready for Coaching
 
CHAPTER 2 - What to Expect from Coaching
 
Less Stigma with Coaching
What Should a Coach Provide?
Seeking Greatness Rather than What’s Wrong
Coaching as a Holistic Discipline
Beyond the Talking Cure: Give People the Exercises to Work On between Sessions
When Coaching and Another Modality Are Both Necessary
Troubleshooting
 
CHAPTER 3 - Commitment, Accountability, and Responsibility
 
Why the Client Leads and the Coach Follows
Explode the Myth of Neutrality
Confront the Fear of the Unknown
Manage Bad Habits and Addictions
 
CHAPTER 4 - Decide If Your Therapy or Current Approach Is Working
 
The Story of Edwin: The Loneliness of the Enlightened
Outcome Assessment in Therapy
Why Your Therapy May Not Be Working
The Four Questions to See If Your Therapist Is Goal-Oriented
 
CHAPTER 5 - Give Me One Good Reason to Fire My Therapist
 
Six Reasons to Fire Your Therapist
Next Steps: Just because It’s an Alternative to Therapy Doesn’t Mean It’s a ...
 
CHAPTER 6 - Transitioning: When You’re Thinking about Making the Switch
 
Learn to Accept a New Kind of Help
Beat Inertia and Get Active in the Coach Selection Process
Recycling Therapists
 
CHAPTER 7 - Choose the Right Coach for You
 
The Qualities of an Effective Coach
A Coach Is Like a Private Investigator
The Four Steps in Choosing a Coach
Personalizing Your Search
 
PART II - BUILD THE LIFE YOU WANT ON YOUR OWN AND WITH YOUR COACH
CHAPTER 8 - Applying the Spheres: The Key to Creating a Full Life
 
Finding the Right Balance
New Methods for Life Optimization
An Example of How a Spherical Approach Works
 
CHAPTER 9 - The You Spheres: Self, Body, Spirit, Fun, and Home
 
Self Sphere
Body Sphere
Spirit Sphere
Fun Sphere
Home Sphere
 
CHAPTER 10 - The Career Spheres: Work and Money
 
Work Sphere
Money Sphere
 
CHAPTER 11 - The People Spheres: Love, Family, Friends, and Community
 
Love Sphere
Family Sphere
Friends Sphere
Community Sphere
The Spheres Quiz
How Coaching Applies a Multidimensional Approach to the Spheres
 
CHAPTER 12 - Laser-Precision Outcomes
 
Truth and the Fear Factor
Strengths and Weaknesses: Identify and Address Both
Establish Your Vision
The Achilles Plan: Generate Incremental Next-Step Goals
High-Energy Outcomes: Achieving Breakthrough Big Goals
Follow-up Steps
 
CHAPTER 13 - Overcome Obstacles to Achieve Outcomes
 
Assess Your Weaknesses with Honesty
Four Examples of Achilles Factors
Create Hypotheses for Understanding
Test Each Hypothesis and Transform Vulnerability into Power
 
CHAPTER 14 - Approach Greatness
 
Strive for Mission and Purpose
Pursue Passion, Playfulness, and the Pleasure Principle
Be Creative
Show Humility, Competence, and Integrity
Be Empowered
Live by Your Values
Manage Bad Habits and Addictions with Responsibility
Live Simply, Focus Intently, and Persist
Avoid Burnout and Build Resilience
Build Confidence
 
CHAPTER 15 - A Better Life and a Better World
 
Live in the Moment with a Plan
Universal Values and a Refusal to Judge
Optimize Organizations
Communities and Nations
Achieve Longevity
Cementing Outcomes
 
Conclusion
INDEX

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To my parents, Alfred and Rosemarie, who taught me that the heel of Achilles is the gateway to the sky, and To my clients, who are my best teachers.
I do not speak these words, Love speaks them This subject is something I know nothing about. You can only tell this story if you are a thousand years old. What can I know? I am a child of the present. Yet the child I am is a parasite on the Eternal One And my union with Him ages me centuries.
—Rumi
ACKNOWLEDGMENTS
My father, Alfred, smart, funny, generous, loyal, and always there. Creative and successful businessman. Thanks for being unflinchingly loving and supportive of our family and everything that matters. You are my role model. You are the strongest believer in Full Life Centers and this book. You are an amazing friend as well as a great father. The Florida nights out are the best.
My mother, Rosemarie, elementary school teacher, great mother, warm, forgiving, loving, laughing; Holocaust survivor, refugee from Freud’s Vienna, eternal optimist, organized, glowing, always there. You taught me never to forget my own idealism, that difference is good, and that working toward greatness is a worthy pursuit. You are the definitive mom. You are my role model.
My brother, Jack, who taught me the importance of managing one’s life, of compassion for mistakes, and of awareness that no one has “it” under control.
Bruce Wexler, my book editor and teacher from the beginning of this project. Bruce, it’s really all because of you. Years ago you told me there was a book in me. It’s now here because of you—your faith, editorial competence, friendship, and being there over the years!
Scott Hoffman, my agent, who invited this book to come into being. You are the best for believing in this book and helping to define its mission. Also thanks to the rest of the team at Folio Literary Management, including Ami Greko, Patty Marriott, Jeff Kleinman, Paige Wheeler, and others.
Christel Winkler and all those at John Wiley & Sons, my publisher, who trusted in me as a first time author and helped make this book better in so many ways. Christel, thanks for your constant support and encouragement.
I couldn’t achieve anything without my spectacular staff at Full Life through the years and now. Thanks to Malado Cisse, who came through Katrina, landed in Chicago to be an awesome multitasking office manager—thanks for being in “a good space” and for your friendship. Tons of thanks to the talented and terrific Full Life coaches Joel Neuberger (it’s seventeen years, Joel!), Jenny Koss, Rachel Bickenbach, Lara Polavieja, Michael Trammel, Ilysa Grossman, and others for their past service.
Thanks to all the friends and family who have helped me, Full Life, and this book. A book and a business do not come out of a vacuum and constantly need a circle of advisers and friends. Special mention of my sister, Lori Mausner, for helping in so many amazing ways through the years, helping make things happen that no one else could accomplish—thanks for your friendship and networking, and your invitations and printing business; Andrew Nibouar, for great and always-there friendship and for always encouraging the writing of this book; Gale Zemel, for being the first office manager of Full Life even before the center existed—you were there when no one else was, and I will never forget your contributions; Todd Puckett, for your years of dedication and friendship; Julie Krul, for years of service and friendship; Raman Chadha and April Lane at DePaul for appreciated support, networking advice, and their entrepreneurial rules! Joel Herscher for helping Full Life come into being; Scott Anderson, for prov