Single Wife Trapped Husband

Freda Milton

Description

A couples guide to identifying and addressing toxic issues that destroy relationships.

Sujets

• Santé et bien-être
• Développement personnel
• développement personnel
• Self-help
• Inspirational
• Motivational

Informations

• Publié par: eBookIt.com
• Date de parution: 15 août 2014
• Nombre de lectures: 0
• EAN13: 9781456622619
• Langue: English

Extrait

Single Wife Trapped Husband
The go-to snapshot of actions that kill the libido and how to overcome them
 
by
Freda Milton
 
Copyright 2022 Freda Milton,
All rights reserved.
 
 
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ISBN-13: 978-1-4566-2261-9 (ebook)
 
 
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Table of Contents
Acknowledgements
Introduction
Prelude
Scenario 1
Scenario 2
Scenario 3
Scenario 4
Scenario 5
Scenario 6
Scenario 7
Scenario 8
Words of Encouragement
 
Acknowledgements
I am very grateful God has given me the gift of wisdom to serve others through coaching and writing. I also thank my mother, Margaret Wooten, my daughter, Destiny Graves, my customers, and my sisters and friends for sharing their time and personal challenges with me. My big sister, LaTosha Milton Brown deserves a special thank you for using her gift and time to design the book cover.
Introduction
Many individuals present their best selves while dating in hopes of securing a life partner. Going to the movies, skating, bowling, or hiking becomes the norm. Some couples look forward to going on nature walks through the park and vacationing. Regardless of the activity, the intimacy that dating creates can lead individuals to commit to someone in hopes of sustaining a life of love, fun, and sex.
The puzzling question is what happens to all the actions of love, fun, intimacy, and sex within a few years of commitment? There are little to-no dates, the butterflies fly away. and the walks through the park become a distant memory. There are a variety of reasons why couples break up/divorce. Single Wife, Trapped Husband provides a snapshot of the common issues that destroy relationships. No two people are exactly alike, which means no two couples are exactly alike. However, there are basic communication skills each of us possess that either help us maintain meaningful relationships or destroy them.
Communication falls into two categories, verbal and non-verbal. Verbal communication involves our words/sign language while facial expressions, gestures, eye contact, and body language constitutes our non-verbal communication. We will discuss verbal communication and its impact through various scenarios. Effective communication or lack thereof is worth discussing as evidenced by the study, Reasons for Divorce and Recollections of Premarital Intervention: Implications for Improving Relationship Education - PMC (nih.gov) . The study reported 57.7% of individuals cited too much conflict and arguing led to their decision to divorce. Our word-choices, tone, and body language impact our responses and expectations more than we may realize. I propose implementing improved communication to significantly lessen the frequency and intensity of conflict in our relationships.
During my professional and personal experiences, I concluded many women often feel single because their partners do not meet many of their needs and they ’ re left to please themselves. Men report feeling single because they do not receive the support they desire and they ’ re unsuccessful in understanding how to meet their partner ’ s needs. I believe men and women are aware that sharing life with another person can be one of the most rewarding, yet challenging experiences of human existence. Hence, I created this snapshot of actions that can kill the libido and our interest in spending quality time with our significant others. But I also explore ways to overcome said actions.
It is my hope that each individual or couple reading this book is inspired to honor their commitment. I believe we can prevent, manage, and ultimately overcome many of our problems once we truly understand ourselves and the best way to communicate with our partners. I speak to you and with you, utilizing anonymous scenarios from clients, family, and friends. All scenarios may not pertain to your experience, but the categories of scenarios are relevant in all our lives. Therefore, it is wise to take the opportunity to dialogue about each scenario as it relates to your relationship. Ask one another if you can relate to one or both partners feelings. Are there other solutions that address the issues? How would you all handle the problem? Asking one another such questions creates awareness of one another ’ s interest and needs, as well as increases the line of communication.
Please note the names are fictitious and the information is presented using general information. The goal of the coaching commentaries at the end of each scenario is to gain insight regarding the importance of understanding our partner ’ s thought process and emotional needs.
Do you desire to be a part of one of the greatest experiences of all time? Marriage, a union that involves sharing, loving, respecting, forgiving, servicing, and sacrificing for one person we CHOOSE to love unconditionally. If so, do not give up! You are on your way to a beautiful, loving, and supportive relationship.
 
Prelude
(And this is how some of us imagine meeting our mates.)
Butterflies
David: My God! Who is that lady? I must ask her out immediately before someone else captures her attention . She is so beautiful! My heart pounds with every stride she takes. She's so assertive and direct , yet gentle and sweet. Her locks are like that of a queen. She dresses like royalty and blooms like a flower. I must find my way to her.
Jillian: Why do I feel compelled to go near that man? I must place myself in his presence before someone else captures his eye. He is so courageous! Look at him demand the attention of the audience . I admire his confidence. Wow! His audience stands on his every word as he tends to each of their individual needs.
Coaching Commentary
You guessed the next step. David asks Jillian for a date, she gladly accepts, they marry, and live a life of happiness, right? After all, they experienced such amazing chemistry and friendship. But love does not conquer actions rooted in fear, resentment, anger, hopelessness, et cetera. All of which are exposed while trying to relate to someone else. Initially, David and Jillian struggled to survive their differences. Let's look at several common scenarios which hinders intimacy from operating at its best.