Moving Beyond Betrayal

Vicki Tidwell Palmer

Description

National Top 25 market drive-time radio tour

Advance readers copies available

Advertising in Counselor magazine, Publishers Weekly, Library Journal, Ingram, B&T, and New Leaf catalogs

Promotion targeting behavioral health publications in Renew, Counselor, Psychology Today, Behavioral Health magazines

Promotion and social media community engagement on the publisher's website;
http://centralrecoverypress.com

Publicity and promotion in conjunction with the author's speaking engagements AT NCAD, Journal Training, APA and other addiction treatment professional events. Booksigning at 2016 ALA trade convention.

3 to 6 percent of the population struggles with out of control sexual behavior or sex addiction. In the United States alone, as many as 19 million people are affected by sex addiction

Unlike currently available material that introduces the concept of boundaries in a general way, HMPSA will be the first book written specifically for partners of sex addicts to present readers with clear, detailed, and easy to follow instructions on how to identify, communicate, and set boundaries with a sex addict partner

Unlike any of its competing titles, HMPSA will address, in detail, what to do when boundaries are violated, and how to use boundaries to determine whether a relationship can be saved

The 5-Step Boundary Solution is applicable to boundary work in relationships of all kinds, including partners of all addicts, individuals struggling with codependency, or anyone who wants to learn more about effective boundary work

The only addiction-focused book on boundaries in the marketplace.

The only sex-addiction focused book on boundaries in the marketplace.

The only boundaries book written by a Certified Sex Addiction Therapist.

One of only a few books in the marketplace about boundaries accessible to a broad audience that is neither Biblically nor faith-based.

Table of Contents

A Word about Pronouns
Acknowledgments
Introduction

Chapter One: Your Future Is Not Your Past
The Courageous Journey
The Transformational Power of Boundaries
The Fog of Addiction
Partners of Sex Addicts: Co-Addicts or Trauma Survivors?
The Way Out

Chapter Two: Not All Forms of Addiction Are Created Equal: What You Need to Know About Sex Addiction
The ABCs of Addiction
What Sets Sex Addiction Apart
The Sex Addiction “Excuse”
Basics of First-Year Sex Addiction Recovery
Recovery “Slips” and Relapses
How Partners Are Impacted
Your Self-Care in Early Discovery

Chapter Three: First Things First: How to Recognize a Good Boundary When You See One
The Human Urge Toward Safety
Boundaries Are Everywhere
Common Misconceptions and Myths about Boundaries
The Five Boundaries
Boundaries at the Extremes
What Are Boundary Violations?
Non-negotiable Relationship Boundaries
What Good Boundaries Can Do for You
Common Boundaries Set by Partners of Sex Addicts

Chapter Four: Boundary Solution Step 1: Knowing and Owning Your Reality
Why You’ve Struggled to Know Your Reality
How Deception Creates Trauma and Distorts Your Reality
How to Identify Your Reality in Three Steps
What About Intuition?
Reality Checking
EXERCISE: Boundary Solution Step 1

Chapter Five: Boundary Solution Step 2: Getting Your Needs Met
Knowing Your Needs
The “Honesty Problem” in Early Recovery from Sex Addiction
Tolerating the Intolerable
A Partner’s Bill of Rights
Creating a Vision of Needs Fulfilled
EXERCISE: Boundary Solution Step 2

Chapter Six: Boundary Solution Step 3: Identifying Your Power Center
Power, Authentic Power, and Power Over
How Partners Lose Power
Vanish the Victim
Collaborative Transparency
Your Higher Power
Identify Your Power Center
EXERCISE: Boundary Solution Step 3

Chapter Seven: Boundary Solution Step 4: Creating and Implementing Your Action Plan
The Four Possible Actions
Contracts and Expectations
Demands, Ultimatums, and Requests
How to Make Effective Requests
Best Practices for Presenting a Request
Partner’s Challenges to Taking Action
Implementing Your Action Plan
Examples of Requests Made by Partners of Sex Addicts
Your Partner’s Rights when Receiving a Request
EXERCISE: Boundary Solution Step 4

Chapter Eight: Boundary Solution Step 5: Evaluate Your Results: Mission Accomplished . . . or Not: When Boundaries Are Broken
Celebrate Your Success!
When You Don’t Get the Outcome You Wanted
The Boundary Was Broken . . . What Now?
Your Options for Handling Broken Agreements and Boundary Violations
Self-Care, Consequences, and Punishment
Commit—with Confidence—to Your Consequence
EXERCISE: Boundary Solution Step 5

Chapter Nine: Speed Bumps, Roadblocks, and Crash Landings: Hidden Barriers to
Boundary Work and What to Do about Them
Esteem and Worth
Difficulty with Emotional Regulation
Family and Financial Considerations
Addiction or Untreated Mental Health Concerns
Overvaluing the Relationship or the Addict (Love Addiction)
Family of Origin and Preexisting Adult Trauma
Secrets
Situations of Domestic Abuse

Chapter Ten: Burning Is Learning: How Your New Boundary Muscle Will Keep
You Strong and Serene for a Lifetime

Chapter Eleven: Partners Beyond Betrayal: Trust, Gratitude, and Forgiveness
Will I Ever Trust Again?
Gratitude
Forgiveness

Appendix
5-Step Boundary Solution Clarifier
Boundary Evaluation
How to Take a Relational Time-Out in Six Steps
Listening Format
Needs Inventory
Overview of the Boundary System
Stages of Healing for Partners of Sex Addicts
Suggested Recovery Check-In Items for Sex Addicts and Their Partners
Talking Format and Request
Adverse Childhood Experiences (ACEs)
Love Addiction Test

Recommended Reading
Additional Resources
Author Resources and Programs

Sujets

• Santé et bien-être
• Santé mentale & traumatisme
• Santé mentale
• Santé mentale
• Sex
• Addiction
• Self-help
• Psychopathology
• Compulsive Behavior
• Interpersonal Relations
• Pornography Addiction

Informations

• Publié par: Central Recovery Press, LLC
• Date de parution: 16 mai 2016
• Nombre de lectures: 0
• EAN13: 9781942094159
• Langue: English

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