Sex180

Chip Ingram

Description

Young adults are fed up with our sex-saturated culture. They realize that there's more to sex than what the media feeds them, and they realize that there's more to responsibility that "just wait until you're married." Youth want to have God's perspective. Not only that, they want to show their peers there's a better way to relate to the opposite sex. It's time for a revolution. A 180-degree turn is underway.Sex 180 is a guide to that revolution. It's more than a book that preaches abstinence before marriage. Sex 180 shows teens what's wrong with the way people talk and think about sex and challenges them to think differently. With solid biblical teaching, interactive sidebars, and real-life stories, teens, parents, and youth leaders will start to think about sex in a whole new way.

Sujets

• Philosophie et théologie

Informations

• Publié par: Baker Publishing Group
• Date de parution: 01 octobre 2005
• Nombre de lectures: 0
• EAN13: 9781441202130
• Langue: English

Extrait

© 2005 by Chip Ingram
Published by Baker Books a division of Baker Publishing Group P.O. Box 6287, Grand Rapids, MI 49516-6287 www.bakerbooks.com
Published in association with Yates & Yates, LLP, Attorneys and Counselors, Orange, California.
ISBN 978-1-4412-0213-0
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Ebook edition created 2012
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Unless otherwise indicated, Scripture is taken from the HOLY BIBLE, NEW INTERNATIONAL VERSION®. NIV®. Copyright © 1973, 1978, 1984 by International Bible Society. Used by permission of Zondervan. All rights reserved.
Scripture marked KJV is taken from the King James Version of the Bible.
Scripture marked Message is taken from The Message by Eugene H. Peterson, copyright © 1993, 1994, 1995, 2000, 2001, 2002. Used by permission of NavPress Publishing Group. All rights reserved.
Scripture marked NASB is taken from the New American Standard Bible®, Copyright © 1960, 1962, 1963, 1968, 1971, 1972, 1973, 1975, 1977, 1995 by The Lockman Foundation. Used by permission.
Scripture marked NLT is taken from the Holy Bible , New Living Translation, copyright © 1996. Used by permission of Tyndale House Publishers, Inc., Wheaton, Illinois 60189. All rights reserved.
Emphasis in biblical quotations is added by the authors.
Permission was granted for use of materials from the following sources:
Quotations in chapter 2 reprinted from What (Almost) Nobody Will Tell You about Sex , copyright 2001 by Youth Specialties, Inc., 300 South Pierce Street, El Cajon, CA 92020. Used by permission.
Quotations throughout the book from student interviews and from YouthWalk website ( youthwalk.org ) are reprinted with permission.
Quotations in chapter 13 reprinted from Rebecca Grace, “Activism: Letter from 11-Year-Old Gets Attention of Retailer, Media,” American Family Association Journal 28, no. 11 (November–December 2004): 11. Copyright 2004 by American Family Association Journal , P.O. Box 2440, Tupelo, MS 38803. Used by permission.
The internet addresses, email addresses, and phone numbers in this book are accurate at the time of publication. They are provided as a resource. Baker Publishing Group does not endorse them or vouch for their content or permanence.
To Annie and all her friends for living out sex180 in the most amazing and authentic way I’ve ever seen. Chip Ingram
To Jennifer: Your love and the love of Christ that flows through you amazes me. Tim Walker
contents Cover Title Page Copyright Page Dedication acknowledgments 1 disclaimer 2 sex180 3 over it! 4 who, me? the revolution: one 5 heart of the revolution 6 extreme makeover: inside edition the revolution: one + one 7 relationships180 8 real friends, real benefits 9 acting like you’re related 10 getting (and giving) something out of it 11 what abouts the revolution: one + the world 12 revolution gear 13 one + the world 14 daily revolt 15 worldwide revolution notes About the Author Other Books by Author Back Ads
acknowledgments
[ From Chip ]

To Tim Walker: Thank you for taking up the mantle to get this truth into the lives of teens. It has been a privilege working with you on this project.
To Vicki Crumpton and the Baker team: Thank you, Vicki, for seeing the potential of this project to help teens. You and the Baker team took the initiative to make a good idea a reality.
To Walk Thru the Bible: Thank you all for your support and encouragement all along the way.
[ From Tim ]

To God: For reminding me every step of the way that I need you not for words or time or anything else I just need you.
To Chip Ingram: Thanks for giving me the opportunity of a lifetime and entrusting to me a message so close to your heart. It has infiltrated my heart as well, and I find that I’m a lot more revolutionary than I ever thought I was.
To Jennifer: I’m supposed to be a master of words, but somehow they just seem inadequate when I think of all you are to me. I love you very much. Thanks for walking on this journey with me. It’s crazy. It’s wonderful. It’s scary. But I’m glad you’re here every step of the way. Thank you for entrusting your life to me and allowing me to entrust my life to you.
To Grayson, Hamilton, and Bryce: You are my three favorite little superheroes in all the world. I’m so blessed to be your dad. I love all three of you very much.
To the revolutionaries for inspiring me and living this out Annie, Bobby, Audrey, Bo, Mike, and Amy.
To Dad and Mom: For giving me a foundation so clear and so real that even though I strayed at times, I never went too far. Thanks also for providing a quiet place to write this book.
To my family, whose love for me has never wavered: You may not have known all the details of my life, but you always saw who I really am, even when I couldn’t. Thank you, Marc, Donita, Cory, Sharon, Steve, Lynne, Stephanie, Steve B., Janet, Bob, Grandpa Olin, Grandma Cerny, Aunt Shorty, Charles, Martha, Hanyaw, MeMaw, (can you tell I’m from the South?), and my Walker/McCook/Ray/Olin/Cerny families.
To all my friends who prayed for me when I needed to know that what looked impossible to me wasn’t to God and gave me much-needed encouragement along the way: Joey Smith, Lare and Amy McCreary, Joe and Anda Barnett, Mark and Gwen Brague, Don Munn, Chris Rogers, Jim and Laura Hunter, Mary Ledford, Buck and Pam Dyer, Laurin Makohon, Travis Stoneback, Jim Gabrielsen, Paula Kirk, Chris Tiegreen, the Walk Thru the Bible staff, the Next Exit Youth Group at Restoration Church of God, NXAM Sunday school, Fern Nichols and the Moms in Touch, Tim Brenner, Crystal Kirgiss, Jim Hancock, and Robert and Sarah Mullins.
To Vicki Crumpton, the Baker publishing team, and Curtis Yates: Thanks for walking me through the process of writing a book and for helping me communicate both my heart and God’s.
And if I forgot anyone, I’m sorry. Maybe I’ll get to write another book and can mention you then!
You picked up this book because . . .

you wanted to know what in the world “sex180” means. We’ll get to that in a minute.
you thought the cover looked better than the other books about sex (yep, Tim totally judges a book by its cover too).
you liked the word revolution .
your mom/dad/grandma/youth pastor gave this book to you.
Whatever the reason, you’ve made it this far. You opened the book to this page. We’ll definitely try to live up to your expectations for the rest of the book. (By the way, we’re really impressed that you’re reading the introduction.)
But before we start, you need to know a few things.
First, who are we? We have a confession. We’re both married guys with kids. Yeah, we know. We may have just lost some cred with you. After all, we’re married. We have sex. And we’re dads, so you might be thinking we have some kind of ulterior motive or that your parents asked us to write this book. BTW, they didn’t.
The truth is, we’ve both made some mistakes along the way when it came to sex. This book isn’t penance. And we’re not expecting you to be perfect. But if we had both seen God’s heart behind what he says about sex earlier in our lives, we would have made some different choices. We might have ended up with a few less scars.
We’ve seen up close what happens when we think about sex completely on the outside when it’s all about what we can and can’t do and totally miss God’s heart and plan. We’ve also seen how the wrong view of sex can mess up a lot of other people’s lives too.
And we’re not off the hook here. It’s just as important for adults to understand what God thinks about sex as it is for students. It doesn’t take much looking to see proof of that in our culture or maybe you see proof in your own family.
We live in the same world you live in. We have to click the remote, delete the emails, and try to remind ourselves that what God says about sex isn’t what we hear and see every day.
But we don’t have to deal with rainbow parties, friends with benefits, “are you hot” websites, and all the other junk you deal with.
Our generations have really messed up the world for yours. We don’t want you to make the same mistakes or worse. We believe there’s a better way to think about and do sex God’s way.
We know who you are. One thing that draws people to what our culture says about sex is the fact that it seems to acknowledge something most Christians ignore: we’re sexual. It’s part of how God made each one of us. God made sex. He created it to bring two people together in a binding way that is both mysterious and awesome. To ignore the fact that you have desires and are curious about sex is about as real as reality TV. We believe God made those desires a part of each one of us, and we want to get to the heart of why he did. Then we can better understand what it means to explore and live out that part of our lives in a way that is both honoring to him and beneficial for us.
One-word answers don’t cut it anymore. We definitely want to give props to organizations and people who have worked hard over the years to get students to start thinking about sex in a way that’s different than what our culture has been feeding us. They’ve done a great job of challenging people to talk about sex when most people preferred to remain mute. They’ve shown people what it means to connect your beliefs to your sexuality. They’ve even shown teenagers who want to wait that there are a lot of teens out there who are just like them. But the reality is that some teens with pledge cards and promise rings are having sex. “No” and “wait” just aren’t good enough anymore we want to know why. Sex isn’t just about what you do or don’t do.
New math. We’re not offering a formula “Follow th