Engaging NLP for Tweens

Judy Bartkowiak

Description

This book fits neatly between NLP for Children and NLP for Teens, covering as it does that Tween 10-15yr age group which sees children develop into young adulthood. Children become independent, responsible and resourceful because they spend most of their time away from home and the family. They need to be equipped with confidence, motivation and good communication skills. This book will teach them NLP tools and techniques to manage: transition into secondary school; onset of puberty; growth of personal responsibility; relationships with boys/girls; schoolwork and exams; peer group pressure; weight issues; bullying.

Sujets

• Sociologie, société et politique

Informations

• Publié par: Andrews UK
• Date de parution: 26 septembre 2012
• Nombre de lectures: 0
• EAN13: 9781780922515
• Langue: English

Extrait

Title Page
NLP for Tweens
by
Judy Bartkowiak



Publisher Information
First edition published in 2012 by
MX Publishing
335 Princess Park Manor, Royal Drive
London, N11 3GX
www.mxpublishing.co.uk
Digital edition converted and distributed in 2012 by
Andrews UK Limited
www.andrewsuk.com
© Copyright 2012 Judy Bartkowiak
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Although every effort has been made to ensure the accuracy of the information contained in this book, as of the date of publication, nothing herein should be construed as giving advice. The opinions expressed herein are those of the author and not of MX Publishing.
Cover design by www.staunch.com



Meet Judy


You do not need to know anything about NLP to enjoy this book; in fact it probably helps if you’ve never heard of it before because I will explain everything as we go along.
This book is yours; write notes in it, underline things, answer the questions and generally get involved with it! Some parts will be relevant now and others may be more useful in a year or two as it’s for children aged about 10-13yrs.
It starts with a ‘getting to know yourself’ chapter with quizzes. Then we move on to some basics of NLP to show you how to use it for the situations you will experience during these tween years.
Then there are some specific chapters on confidence, motivation and goal setting, emotional ups and downs, body matters and relationships. These are full of questions and exercises for you to complete and learn from. Find out how to feel better about yourself, learn from your mistakes and get the results you want, both in school and out of school.
I am qualified and experienced in neuro linguistic programming (NLP) which is a collection of tools and techniques that companies have been using for years. They use NLP for leadership, sales and management training but I’ve adapted it to suit your age group and the sort of situations you will encounter.
As well as helping children and teenagers with problems, I am a writer of NLP and Children’s books.
I live in Burnham, Buckinghamshire with my husband Edward and our four children aged 11-24yrs, a dog and loads of chickens.



Engaging NLP
Did you know that every day around us there are millions of things to see and hear and loads of feelings we could have about them.
BUT
at any point in time we only notice 9 of them.
The funny thing is that each of us notices a different 9 things and that is what makes us unique.
What we pay attention to makes us different.
What we say and how we say it makes us different.
What we do and how we do it makes us different
Every day we make choices about what we notice, what we say and what we do.
Sometimes these choices make us happy and sometimes they make us sad.
I want you to learn about how using NLP can help you make choices that make you happy.



Chapter 1
Who Do You Think You Are?
This chapter is full of short quizzes which will help you get to know yourself better. What you find out here will help you to understand why you get on well with some people and not others and how you engage in some lessons but not others. Once you know this, you can apply it to how you make friends and how you learn best, making you more popular and giving you better grades.
Have you heard of Visual, Auditory, and Kinaesthetic? Do you know which you are already? Basically you are visual if you tend to notice what you see, auditory if you focus on what you hear and kinaesthetic when you focus on what you do or feel. Although you use all three at different times, there will be one that you prefer and feel most comfortable with. Here is a quiz to help you work out whether you are visual, auditory or kinaesthetic.
Q1. You’re watching a movie with some friends, what do you notice most? What the characters look like and what they are wearing The music, sound track and the voices What they are doing, the action
Q2. When you think about what you’ll be doing next weekend, you Can picture yourself doing it Want to chat about it with your friends You feel excited already
Q3. When you have an argument with your parents you ... Look angry and take an aggressive stance Shout a lot Can be quite physical
Q4. After a holiday you like to .... Look at the photos Chat about it Remember what fun it was and what you did
Q5. You’re off to a friend’s sleepover, do you think about What you will wear What you will talk about What you will do
Q6. On your mobile phone you spend more time Texting and looking at your photos Calling your friends Playing with the apps
Q7. Your favourite subjects at school are Anything arty Anything musical Anything physical like sport or dancing
Q8. When you’re feeling ill what concerns you most is What you look like What you sound like What you feel like
Q9. Thinking about your best mate... You look quite similar You talk about the same things You like to do similar things
Q10. You want a job one day that will be Arty or creative in some way Connected with music Physical
Visual


If you answered mostly ‘A’ then you are more visual. You think in pictures and images. You will remember what you’ve seen and will be observant. You notice body language and facial expressions and can know a lot about people before they’ve even spoken. Visual people tend to speak quite quickly. Do your friends tell you to ‘slow down!’? Your descriptions will be colourful and bright and your surroundings will be important to you as will your appearance.
You will (if you’re allowed) have pictures and photos all over the wall of your bedroom and you will have wanted to help choose the colour scheme. Your clothes will be important to you and you enjoy shopping for new clothes that capture the look you’re after. You’ll enjoy flicking through magazines for ideas about fashion and notice what the celebs are wearing. You’ll probably watch programmes on TV about fashion and makeover. You’ll spend ages getting ready to go out as you need to look perfect. You’ll certainly notice what your friends are wearing and be embarrassed if they look bad because you won’t want to be seen with them.
Boys, you too can be visual and you care how you look. Your emphasis may be on your body and muscles, building up that ‘six pack’ and impressing the girls with your physique and hair. You want to look your best and follow fashion, wearing the top brands. You can’t wait to drive and what your first car looks like will be more important than what is under the bonnet. Colour, lines and style will be considered and discussed with friends for hours.
If you are visual then you will learn best from seeing rather than hearing, so make notes in class because you’ll remember what you see in your notes much better than trying to remember what was said. You will find mind maps, flash cards and visual representations of facts helpful when you’re revising because it will stay in your head better like that. Tony Buzan has written lots of excellent books and has produced software that you can use to make your own mind maps. Use YouTube videos and BBC I player, DVDs and whatever else you can find that appeals to your visual senses.
When you’re trying to remember something look up to your left because that’s where the images are stored in your brain. If you’re trying to imagine something you haven’t seen before then look up to your right to find it.
B - Auditory


If you answered more B then you are auditory and probably love music, notice the sounds around you and prefer your friends to call rather than text or email. You tend to remember what people say to you or what you’ve heard better than what you’ve read. You might use expressions like ‘Listen up’ or ‘shut up’.
An auditory person usually makes and enjoys a lot of noise and sounds are important to them. They will like singing, musical instruments and noisy video games. Do you play a musical instrument or want to? Do you like listening to music? Perhaps you like a good chat?
Most auditory people speak quite slowly because they want to have time to choose the right words because the words are important just as it’s important to them that the listener understands what they are saying.
You learn best by listening to the teacher rather than looking at what they’ve written on the board or asked you to read. You learn best by saying things over to yourself in your head. When you’re revising, read out loud what you have in your notes and make use of any Internet sites that have sound.
Project work will suit you or having a revision buddy who can ask you questions rather than writing things down.


You could read your notes into the voice memo on your phone or use programmes like audacity to record MP3 files. Then you can transfer them to