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Publié par | AuthorHouse |
Date de parution | 28 mai 2023 |
Nombre de lectures | 0 |
EAN13 | 9798823008303 |
Langue | English |
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LOST AND LIVED IN
Michelle Ray Prellz
AuthorHouse™
1663 Liberty Drive
Bloomington, IN 47403
www.authorhouse.com
Phone: 833-262-8899
© 2023 Michelle Ray Prellz. All rights reserved.
No part of this book may be reproduced, stored in a retrieval system, or transmitted by any means without the written permission of the author.
Published by AuthorHouse 05/26/2023
ISBN: 979-8-8230-0831-0 (sc)
ISBN: 979-8-8230-0832-7 (hc)
ISBN: 979-8-8230-0830-3 (e)
Library of Congress Control Number: 2023908774
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CONTENTS
Intro
Chapter 1 Before the Storm
Chapter 2 Foreshadowing
Chapter 3 Becoming Noticeable
Chapter 4 College
Chapter 5 Trigger Warning: Self Harm
Chapter 6 Trigger Warning: Eating Disorder Behaviors
Chapter 7 Resisting Treatment
Chapter 8 Treatment
Chapter 9 Unwilling
Chapter 10 Trying for the Wrong Reasons
Chapter 11 A Setback with Grandpa
Chapter 12 Trigger Warning: Alcoholism and Suicidal Ideation
Chapter 13 Navigating Suicidal Ideation
Chapter 14 Special Occasions
Chapter 15 Grandpa’s Passing
Chapter 16 Trigger Warning: The Effects of my eating disorder
Chapter 17 Trigger Warning: Sexual Assault
Chapter 18 The Breaking Point
Chapter 19 Treatment- Take 2
Chapter 20 Values
Chapter 21 Trust
Chapter 22 The Intervention
Chapter 23 The Real Start
Chapter 24 Preparation
Chapter 25 Guilt
Chapter 26 Working Through the Trauma
Chapter 27 Disconnected
Chapter 28 All of the Moving Parts
Chapter 29 The Final Pieces
Chapter 30 We Forget How to Play
Chapter 31 Breaking the Seal
Chapter 32 Meant to Be
Chapter 33 Blessed
INTRO
I have always had this need to organize my headspace. If I could, I would have laid out all my thoughts, big and small, across the floor. Millions of them. And took the time to piece them together into a finished puzzle. I wanted to understand what I was going through and how to explain it to others. Mental illness was just a word. I wanted it to be tangible, more than a word. Something to grasp.
Writing was my way to make sense of it all. It was the platform in which I communicated this part of my life to family and friends. I could let people into my mind without having to speak it or be in the same place for that matter. They could take or leave what they wanted.
Once I started recovering, I could see more clearly how I got to my rock bottom, foreshadowing events, why I thought a certain way, why I did or didn’t do certain things that me or no one else understood at the time, why I gave up and got worse. I can now identify what I needed in those moments, even though I didn’t know in the midst of them.
This book is my first hand account of the wrath of mental illness. A tour inside my mind while I developed and lived with major depression, an eating disorder, anxiety/OCD, alcohol abuse, trauma and sexual assault. It’s not going to make beautiful something that destroyed me and my loved ones. It’s the completely raw, unfiltered journey that I walked for about ten years of my life. My thoughts and feelings before I knew something was wrong, during the darkest struggles, two times in treatment, and a recovery I wouldn’t trade for anything. It’s everything I learned throughout, and how I got to a place where I can maintain recovery.
It’s dark, uncomfortable, and possibly heart breaking. But it’s real. I wrote this in hopes that someone out there who is trying to understand for a struggling loved one can open this book and walk with me through the darkness to gain clarity, but also hope. I want to start much needed conversations and spark ideas around support.
I stopped trying to fight after so long. That lack of motivation bled into most other areas of my life. Rock bottom became my baseline. It took years to start fighting for myself again. I hope I can be a voice for those who aren’t ready to ask for help or talk about it yet. Although no one else could save me from my mental illness, having people who held my hand while I saved myself was crucial.
Not everyone experiences mental illness in the same way, but unfortunately it’s often a familiar darkness that we experience. The world will tell you someone has it way worse. You’ll compare to the war stories others have, feeling like your story isn’t deserving of repair. You’ll get the idea that you have no reason to feel this way. The world will romanticize mental illness, putting you down for an uglier, less desirable story.
I was normal, untouchable. I lived a comfortable life with supportive family and my mind still broke me. Anyone and everyone can be effected by the wrath. It doesn’t matter what kind of story you have. If it hurts, it hurts. Your pain is valid. Don’t let society make you hide for fear of being real.
The story of how far someone has come is important to hear and celebrate, but I think a huge chunk of that story is often looked over. And that is acknowledging where it is we came so far from. To those listening, it’s just words, a story that can be closed in between two covers and set on a shelf for later. A story that is heard but taken by the wind when the conversation is over. To those of us telling our story, it’s more than a story, it’s our life.
Ten plus years later, I started figuring out who I was, what I liked to do, who I wanted to surround myself with, and what I dreamed of for my future. Before healing, I lost myself. I never thought of a future for myself. My identity became defined only by my pain. In order to find myself, I needed to get better and experience the world through clear eyes. I had to live life without looking through the lense of my issues to know who I truly was. It was only then that I could be present in my own life. And what I found was a beautifully imperfect world, created by God, with a plan for me.
Everything leading up to the day I chose recovery is just as much my story as the good stuff. It’s the standard I held my life to for so long. It’s what I thought I deserved. The quiet struggles that are now just the beginning of my story when they could have been the end. So many of the blessings we receive in life grow from the storms that bury us. The struggles in life always get worse before they can get better. It’s a messy fight, but it’s so worth the fight.
1
Before the Storm
I don’t like the concept of normal. It’s a label that makes me think of sheltered, comfortable, even privileged. I don’t know if normal actually exists in a world this diverse. Either anything at all or nothing at all is normal. I think we can all have our own definition of what we think it is, but each of our answers is relative to our personal view of the world.
I used to consider my life growing up normal. A nice kind of normal. I grew up with one brother and both parents in the home for much of my childhood. We lived in a normal sized house in a normal suburb of Columbus, Ohio. We went to a normal elementary school, and church on Sundays together. Our grandparents were a huge part of our lives as well.
My brother and I played outside with all our neighborhood friends every day until dark. Our yard was the headquarters where all the kids would come to play. A woman had told my mom once that she loved passing by our house because we were always up to something out there. Bikes and scooters littered the yard like fallen leaves. We ran around barefoot, played games we made up, and climbed trees. Our biggest worry was if Mom and Dad were going to make us take a bath that night.
Our parents provided us with all our basic needs, the average middle-class family. And although we weren’t the type to ask for the nicest and latest things, there were a few times growing up that mom or dad would let us pick out a toy at the store when it wasn’t even our birthday. We could eat out on weekends after church, and we never went hungry.
I sometimes wondered if the kids who couldn’t afford a baby doll from the toy store, or maybe didn’t have both parents were the normal ones and we were just lucky. In either case, it made me question how I could even claim that I got depressed with such a sound upbringing. Of course, things weren’t perfect, but things were good. I should have turned out fine considering I was well taken care of.
I was ashamed when I started getting help. Not because of embarrassment or fear of judgment. It was because I felt undeserving. I was sitting in front of a therapist I was fortunate enough to have. It felt like a pity party, with no origin or reason. I didn’t deserve to be worked on. There were people out there who were dealt a bad hand before they even had a chance. Those were the people who deserved help. I was dealt a good hand, but somehow screwed it up. That felt more like my own fault. I always thought a story like this would be better told by anyone else. The comeback story belonged to the one who started in a hole. Not someone like me who made something out of nothing.
Was I ungrateful? Was I blind to my blessings? Why did I feel so damaged? Normal felt like a place that coul