Summary of Hilary Jacobs Hendel's It's Not Always Depression

Everest Media

Description

Please note: This is a companion version & not the original book.
Sample Book Insights:
#1 The Change Triangle is a tool that can help anyone feel better. It is a map to moving past your distress so you can spend more of your time in calmer, more vital states of being. Emotions are powerful forces that can instantly overtake us and make us feel things and do things that are often hurtful. But we cannot ignore them without consequences.
#2 Emotions are survival programs deeply embedded in the brain and not subject to conscious control. They are the core of human existence. They help us get things done, but they also hurt us because they are a source of chronic stress.
#3 We need to balance our emotions and thoughts. We must feel our feelings, but not so much that they overwhelm us, impair our functioning, and make us unable to be productive. We must think, but not so much that we ignore our rich emotional lives.
#4 I was born into a family of Freudians, and I was taught that I could control my feelings with intellectual insight. I was never bullied, but I felt separate and insecure. I developed the belief that if I worked hard, I would succeed and be recognized. With each success, I felt relief from insecurity.

Sujets

• Psychopathology
• Dépression

Informations

• Publié par: Everest Media LLC
• Date de parution: 09 mars 2022
• Nombre de lectures: 0
• EAN13: 9781669352693
• Langue: English
• Poids de l'ouvrage: 1 Mo

Extrait

Insights on Hilary Jacobs Hendel's Its Not Always Depression
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Insights from Chapter 1

#1

The Change Triangle is a tool that can help anyone feel better. It is a map to moving past your distress so you can spend more of your time in calmer, more vital states of being. Emotions are powerful forces that can instantly overtake us and make us feel things and do things that are often hurtful. But we cannot ignore them without consequences.

#2

Emotions are survival programs deeply embedded in the brain and not subject to conscious control. They are the core of human existence. They help us get things done, but they also hurt us because they are a source of chronic stress.

#3

We need to balance our emotions and thoughts. We must feel our feelings, but not so much that they overwhelm us, impair our functioning, and make us unable to be productive. We must think, but not so much that we ignore our rich emotional lives.

#4

I was born into a family of Freudians, and I was taught that I could control my feelings with intellectual insight. I was never bullied, but I felt separate and insecure. I developed the belief that if I worked hard, I would succeed and be recognized. With each success, I felt relief from insecurity.

#5

I was a staunch supporter of Freud’s theories, but after taking a feminist course in college, I realized that I didn’t actually believe in them. I had always imagined myself as a doctor because I wanted a certain lifestyle, not because I wanted to treat physical illness.

#6

I was a dentist, but I hated it and left the field a year after graduation. I was lost, alone, and afraid. I took a series of unfulfilling jobs to support myself. I rose up the corporate ladder to a management position at Maybelline Cosmetics, worked in the Garment District, and started a home-based business selling vitamins.

#7

I began to understand my emotions for the first time. I learned that I had to pay attention to them, listen to them, and take actions in accordance with what I was feeling. I decided to change my priorities and focus on a career based on my interests.

#8

The Change Triangle is a map of the mind that takes you from a distressed state to calm and clarity. It provides a logical, science-based path to follow for relief and recovery.

#9

The three corners of the Change Triangle are core emotions, inhibitory emotions, and defenses. Core emotions are our inborn survival emotions. Inhibitory emotions such as anxiety, shame, and guilt block core emotions.

#10

Core emotions are survival emotions. They are hardwired in the middle part of our brains, and they cannot be controlled by conscious thought. They are designed to inform us about our environment so we can live as adaptively as possible.

#11

Inhibitory emotions are a special set of emotions that block core emotions. They keep us connected to our parents and primary caregivers, and later to our peer groups, schools, partners/spouses, communities, religions, colleagues, friends, and the world at large.

#12

When we sense core emotions that we learned were not welcome, inhibitory emotions will rise up to stop the flow of the core emotion energy, causing muscular tension and inhibiting breathing.

#13

Defenses are mental tricks we use to avoid feeling uncomfortable emotions. They are anything we do to avoid feeling core or inhibitory emotions. Some common defenses are joking, sarcasm, smiling, laughing, worrying, ruminating, vagueness, and changing the subject.

#14

When we are not aware of what we care about and why, we lose the ability to create the life we want and to feel our best. We always do better when we are emotionally connected to others.

#15

The Change Triangle helps us know our emotions and process them, but it takes time to use it perfectly. It imparts immediate distance and perspective from our distress, and helps us figure out if we are in a defense, experiencing inhibitory emotions, or experiencing core emotions.

#16

The Change Triangle can be used to help you move through low points of distress. It can be used to help you understand and deal with your anxiety, and it can help you understand and deal with your depression.

#17

The Change Triangle is a tool that helps us identify our core emotions and learn how to work with them. It helps us understand what we’re feeling, and helps us decide whether we want to act on our fear and run away, or choose courage and have a try at writing that article.

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