Gospel-Centered Marriage Counseling

PhD Kellemen Robert W.

Description

Pastors and counselors regularly minister to people whose marriages or families are in crisis. Tempers run high and feelings are brought low when a marriage is hurting or a family is in disarray. Pastors and counselors need practical, biblical help in order to connect their theological training to the reality of modern messy relationships. These how-to training manuals provide relevant, user-friendly equipping for pastors, counselors, lay leaders, educators, and students, enabling them to competently and compassionately relate God's Word to marriage and family life.

Informations

• Publié par: Baker Publishing Group
• Date de parution: 15 septembre 2020
• Nombre de lectures: 0
• EAN13: 9781493421435
• Langue: English

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Endorsements
“The beauty of Gospel- Centered Marriage Counseling is that it weds sound theology with practical explanations and applications to the actual counseling process. Dr. Kellemen is both a trained theologian and an experienced biblical counselor. In reading this book, you will be listening to words that are saturated with the gospel and characterized by case-specific wisdom. This will feel less like reading a book and more like watching an experienced biblical counselor in action, and then practicing the principles yourself under the direction of an experienced coach. Every pastor and biblical counselor should add this important work to their library.”
Dr. Steve Viars , senior pastor, Faith Church, Lafayette, IN; author of Loving Your Community
“Having served as a pastor and counselor for over thirty years now, I read marriage and counseling books like other people devour the sports page. So I can say with confidence that Dr. Kellemen has given us a book that addresses what has been missing for so long: a biblical, practical, and seasoned step- by- step way forward . As I read Gospel- Centered Marriage Counseling , I said, ‘Finally! This what we’ve needed.’ Bob has done the church and the biblical counseling world an enormous service in putting real feet on what marriage counseling looks like. He frames it up with hope and the gospel, and then provides clear and specific step-by-step guidance on how to do effective and biblical marriage counseling. If you’ve lost heart and felt overwhelmed at the prospect of marriage counseling, this is the book for you! Buy it. Read it. Tell others about it.”
Brad Bigney , lead pastor of Grace Fellowship (EFCA); author of Gospel Treason: Betraying the Gospel with Hidden Idols
“Marriage counseling presents some of the toughest situations that can be found. In Gospel- Centered Marriage Counseling, biblical counselors who desire to grow in their ability to provide help for marital issues will find what they have been searching for. This is not just another book on marriage counseling; it is a training manual . Bob’s writing is practical and biblical; he provides a step-by-step process, built firmly upon the gospel of grace, for learning how to help struggling marriages. I am so excited for this book to be published! It will be valuable for novice and seasoned biblical counselors alike. I highly recommend everyone get a copy and begin to put these soul-u-tions into practice!”
Dr. Julie Ganschow , author of Living Beyond the Heart of Betrayal ; coauthor of A Biblical Counselor’ s Approach to Marital Abuse
“If you are looking to be equipped in a discipleship-focused approach to marriage counseling, Gospel- Centered Marriage Counseling is what you’re looking for. Few people have the heart, mind, and experience to write a book on marriage counseling for pastors and lay leaders as Dr. Bob Kellemen has done. I have long admired Bob’s balanced emphasis on the need to address both sin and suffering in counseling. In Gospel- Centered Marriage Counseling , you will find a practical theology to address the hard things a couple faces (suffering) and the bad things a couple does (sin) with the hope of the gospel.”
Brad Hambrick , ThM, EdD, pastor of counseling at The Summit Church, Durham, NC; author of Romantic Conflict and Self- Centered Spouse .
“There are many excellent biblical books about marriage, but Dr. Bob Kellemen makes a unique contribution as he goes beyond teaching about marriage to equipping counselors to do marriage counseling. Reading this book is like sitting in and watching an experienced master biblical counselor apply the gospel to broken marriages. Bob includes many instructive counseling dialogues (or ‘trialogues’) that serve as a model for counselors who want to get to root problems and then apply gospel truth. The strengths of Gospel- Centered Marriage Counseling include its faithful practical exposition of Scripture, a God-centered perspective on marriage, and a practical training manual for marriage counseling.”
Dr. Jim Newheiser , director of the Christian counseling program and associate professor of pastoral theology at Reformed Theological Seminary, Charlotte, NC; executive director of IBCD
“I have to be honest, when I heard that another book on marriage was coming out, I had my doubts that it would add anything new to what currently exists. What a pleasant surprise Gospel- Centered Marriage Counseling turned out to be. Not only is the book easy to digest and implement in my counseling ministry, it is one of a kind , aimed at training pastors, counselors, students, and interns to become effective marriage counselors faithful to God’s Word. Claiming that Gospel- Centered Marriage Counseling is a game-changing resource might sound cliché, but for those engaged in the practice of marriage counseling, as well as those training in the classroom, this resource does indeed offer what other marriage books simply cannot—comprehensive, practical, hands-on equipping.”
Dr. Ben Marshall , pastor of counseling at Canyon Hills Community Church; board president of The Damascus House
Title Page
Copyright Page
© 2020 by Robert W. Kellemen
Published by Baker Books
a division of Baker Publishing Group
PO Box 6287, Grand Rapids, MI 49516-6287
www.bakerbooks.com
Ebook edition created 2020
All rights reserved. No part of this publication may be reproduced, stored in a retrieval system, or transmitted in any form or by any means—for example, electronic, photocopy, recording—without the prior written permission of the publisher. The only exception is brief quotations in printed reviews.
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ISBN 978-1-4934-2143-5
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Italics added to direct Scripture quotations reflect the author’s emphasis.
The names and details of the people and situations described in this book have been changed or presented in composite form in order to ensure the privacy of those with whom the author has worked.
Contents
Cover 1
Endorsements 2
Title Page 4
Copyright Page 5
Acknowledgments 7
Foreword by Dr. Jeremy Pierre 9
Series Introduction 13
Introduction 15
Part 1: A Theological Primer for Biblical Marriage Counseling 21
1. Marriage God’s Way 23
2. Marriage My Way . . . or the Highway! 39
3. Marriage Christ’s Way 53
Part 2: Practical Training for Biblical Marriage Counselors: How to Develop 22 Marriage Counseling Relational Competencies 73
4. Mapping Biblical Marriage Counseling: Our Marriage Counseling GPS 75
5. Infusing HOPE in the Midst of Hurt: Resurrection-Focused Marriage Counseling 91
6. Comforting Each Other with Christ’s Comfort: Sustaining in Marriage Counseling, Part 1 113
7. Clinging Together to Jesus in the Storm: Sustaining in Marriage Counseling, Part 2 129
8. Interpreting Life from a Faith Perspective: Healing in Marriage Counseling, Part 1 143
9. Tuning into the Bible’s Faith Story: Healing in Marriage Counseling, Part 2 161
10. Dispensing Grace: Reconciling in Marriage Counseling, Part 1 179
11. Superabounding Grace: Reconciling in Marriage Counseling, Part 2 199
12. Discipling Disciple-Makers: Guiding in Marriage Counseling, Part 1 217
13. Growing in Grace: Guiding in Marriage Counseling, Part 2 233
Commencement 249
Gospel-Centered Marriage Counseling Commencement: Marriage Counseling Prayer and Praise 255
Notes 259
Resources for Marriage and Marriage Counseling 260
Back Ads 269
Back Cover 273
Acknowledgments
My motivation for writing Gospel- Centered Marriage Counseling began while I was serving as counseling pastor at Bethel Church in northwest Indiana. Many pastors, ministry leaders, and lay leaders from Bethel journeyed with me as we counseled, discipled, and shepherded many couples. I want to thank each of them for their co-ministry, encouragement, and friendship: Pastor Steve DeWitt, Pastor Brad Lagos, Pastor Mark Culton, Pastor Dexter Harris, Pastor Dan Jacobsen, Pastor Jared Bryant, Pastor Chris Whetstone, Pastor Gary Butler, Pastor Dustin Rouse, and ministry leaders/lay leaders Ken Barry, Lauri Mollema, Gail Morris, Skye Bryant, Jennifer Culton, Laura Sauerman, Caitlin Marsee, Joy Katts, Amanda Wilson, and Melissa Anderson.
Before, during, and after I wrote Gospel-Centered Marriage Counseling , I’ve been serving alongside the ministry team at Faith Bible Seminary in Lafayette, Indiana. Thank you for your ministry in my life: Pastor Steve Viars, Pastor Brent Aucoin, Pastor Rob Green, and Kirk Fatool.
Foreword
The book you’re holding in your hands is unique—and uniquely helpful. As you read through its pages, you will find at least two ways Gospel- Centered Marriage Counseling is not typical, and neither is its author, Dr. Bob Kellemen.
First, this book is not typical in how it approaches marriage. So many marriage help books convey a view of marriage that doesn’t include much beyond the couple’s own interests in the relationship. They don’t go any further than trying to offer solutions to the problems a couple is aware of. Yes, in this book you will find guidance for approaching the problems a couple presents to you in the counseling room. You will read suggestions for addressing the specific dynamic that exists between this couple, the history of their interactions, and the goals that they can set for their