Let's Talk

PhD Watson Canfield Michelle

Description

Many great father-daughter books highlight the benefits of being an engaged father, cite statistics about the impact fathers have on a daughter's life, and give practical advice about how to foster such relationships. But once the stage has been set, many dads don't know what to say or how to approach conversations with their daughters. Using her decades of experience in counseling young women and coaching fathers, Michelle Watson has created a step-by-step template for having conversations that build a stronger bond through laughter, vulnerability, honesty, and self-disclosure. Let's Talk is filled with dozens of scripted questions that walk fathers through the levels of creating a heart-to-heart connection with their daughters by communicating the right way. Through this easy-to-read guide, dads will learn how to listen and build trust as they move from get-to-know-you chats to deep discussions that dive into their daughters' struggles, hurts, and hopes.

Informations

• Publié par: Baker Publishing Group
• Date de parution: 04 août 2020
• Nombre de lectures: 0
• EAN13: 9781493425013
• Langue: English
• Poids de l'ouvrage: 3 Mo

Extrait

Endorsements
“Dr. Michelle Watson has spent years and years helping men and women overcome some of the hard stories that hinder their joy and sabotage their relationships. Now she’s homing in on a primary source of those hard stories—working to coach dads to enable them to write good stories for their own daughters. Brilliant! Bold! And so very brave!”
—Phil and Diane Comer, cofounders/teachers of Intentional Parents
“Research shows that dads have a profound impact on their daughters’ lives. Michelle has created the kind of resource that will help build stronger father-daughter bonds by opening communication in a way that fosters deeper trust and understanding.”
—Shaunti Feldhahn, social researcher, speaker, and bestselling author of The Kindness Challenge , For Women Only , and For Parents Only
“My father and I were incredibly close when I was young, I was ‘Daddy’s girl,’ but when puberty hit, the whole relationship turned bizarre and painful. I became rebellious, his control issues took front stage, and as a result of the strife, he disowned me. For any daughter or father who wants a deeper and sweeter relationship, this book is a good road map helping you to reach that destination. A great read for dads and daughters regardless of your age!”
—Delilah Rene, radio host, author of One Heart at a Time
“As a father of three girls, this book is a game-changer. So many dads grew up without a dad and need counsel on how to love and cherish their daughters, and show them how they should expect to be loved and treated by a man. With practical and wise advice, Let’ s Talk can change your life and legacy as a dad. Every dad with a daughter needs to read this book!”
John Finch, storyteller and creator of The Father Effect movie
“Dr. Michelle Watson’s new book, Let’ s Talk: Conversation Starters for Dads and Daughters , offers sage advice to equip fathers to pursue the hearts of their daughters. Michelle offers insightful scripts to help your daughter open up, trust, and deepen her bond with you—her dad, the most important man in her life. Michelle’s childhood, professional training, and experiences working with dads has uniquely gifted her to help us have life-changing conversations as we guard and guide the hearts of our precious daughters!”
—Stephen Kendrick, founder of Kendrick Brothers Productions, co-writer of War Room and Facing the Giants , and coauthor of the bestseller The Love Dare
“I’m a ‘step-up’ dad to a seventeen-year-old daughter whose father stepped out of her life. Building trust with her was like climbing Mount Everest. I eventually made it to the top, but the climb would’ve been so much easier if I’d had Let’ s Talk as a guide years ago.”
—Dr. Joe Martin, host of the Real Men Connect podcast
“Every father wants to connect with his daughter(s). But we often struggle with what to do and say. Dr. Michelle makes things easy for us—laying out fifty easy-to-follow conversation starters that will get you talking, laughing, and understanding each other better.”
—David Murrow, director, Church for Men
“This is a must-read book for dads. Communication between dads and daughters can be so challenging; this book will help you overcome that challenge. Michelle is one of the top experts in the nation who is helping dads tackle the highest calling men have: to be a dad! Get this book, read this book, read it again, and just when you think you understand it, read it again!”
—Jason Noble, pastor, motivational speaker, author of Breakthrough to Your Miracle
“My daughter is thirteen. I’m desperate to know how to ask questions that get us further than ‘fine.’ Let’ s Talk is exactly what I need. Dr. Michelle is compassionate but also direct. On every conceivable topic—even hard ones—she handed me a game plan. There’s no fluff here, just practical and immediately usable guidance. I’m so grateful.”
—Marc Alan Schelske, pastor and author of The Wisdom of Your Heart
“With Let’ s Talk , Michelle Watson Canfield gives us the gift of years of clinical research and in-the-trenches experience coaching men to become better dads to their daughters. Her work is fresh, accessible, practical, and proven. Every dad will benefit from this book, and every daughter will benefit from having a tuned-in dad.”
—Bo Stern-Brady, author of Beautiful Battlefields
“In a world where so many of us (fathers) were never taught even the basic skills of loving our daughters well, Dr. Watson offers an insightful, brilliant, and helpful strategy that gives me great hope for my own relationships.”
—Paul Young, author of The Shack , Cross Roads , Eve , and Lies We Believe About God
Title Page
Copyright Page
© 2020 by Michelle Watson Canfield, PhD
Published by Bethany House Publishers
11400 Hampshire Avenue South
Minneapolis, Minnesota 55438
www.bethanyhouse.com
Bethany House Publishers is a division of
Baker Publishing Group, Grand Rapids, Michigan
www.bakerpublishinggroup.com
Ebook edition created 2020
Ebook corrections 02.16.2022
All rights reserved. No part of this publication may be reproduced, stored in a retrieval system, or transmitted in any form or by any means—for example, electronic, photocopy, recording—without the prior written permission of the publisher. The only exception is brief quotations in printed reviews.
Library of Congress Cataloging-in-Publication Data is on file at the Library of Congress, Washington, DC.
ISBN 978-1-4934-2501-3
Unless otherwise indicated, Scripture quotations are from the Holy Bible, New International Version®. NIV®. Copyright © 1973, 1978, 1984, 2011 by Biblica, Inc.™ Used by permission of Zondervan. All rights reserved worldwide. www.zondervan.com. The “NIV” and “New International Version” are trademarks registered in the United States Patent and Trademark Office by Biblica, Inc.™
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Scripture quotations labeled WEB are from the World English Bible in the Public Domain.
Cover design by Greg Jackson, Thinkpen Design, Inc.
Cover photography by Joshua Ness
Baker Publishing Group publications use paper produced from sustainable forestry practices and post-consumer waste whenever possible.
Contents
Cover 0
Endorsements 1
Title Page 3
Copyright Page 4
Foreword 9
Why This Book? 11
Introduction 17
PART ONE: Laying the Groundwork: Preparing Yourself to Pursue Your Daughter’s Heart 21
1. You Have What It Takes 23
2. What You Gain by Engaging Your Daughter’s Heart 27
3. What Dads and Daughters Say about Using Scripts to Guide Their Conversations 33
4. Why Listening to Your Daughter Matters 37
5. How to Invite Your Daughter to Participate in This Process 41
6. Self-Evaluation with the Dialed-In-Dad Checklist 45
7. Road Map for Using This Book 49
PART TWO: Action Plans: Questions and Activities for Connecting with Your Daughter’s Heart 53
8. Lead Her to Laugh 55
Dad-Daughter Date
#1: Fun, Lighthearted Questions about the Present
#2: Fun, Lighthearted Questions about the Past
#3: Fun, Lighthearted Questions about the Future
#4: Questions about Firsts
#5: Ten Outrageous Things I Wish I Had the Nerve to Do
#6: Looking at Myself through a Different Lens
#7: Defining Myself
#8: Fun Questions about Movies (or Television Shows or Books)
#9: The ABCs about Your Daughter
#10: The ABCs of God
#11: Expressing Yourself, Expressing Your Style
#12: The Best Phone Photo of the Day Game
#13: The 24-Hour No-Phone Challenge
9. Lead Her to Love 77
Dad-Daughter Date
#14: Questions on Personality Profiles Inventory
#15: Questions on Love Languages
#16: Questions on Self-Esteem
#17: Questions on Body Image
#18: Questions on Her Clothing Choices
#19: Questions on Longing for Romance and Royalty
#20: Questions on Being Single
#21: Ten Things I Want to Do in My Life
#22: Questions on Closing the Dream Gap
#23: Questions on Becoming a World Changer
#24: Questions on a Volunteering Project: Taking It to the Streets Together
10. Lead Her to Look 111
Dad-Daughter Date
#25: Questions to Help Her Find Her Voice
#26: Questions on Standing Up, Standing Strong, and Standing Alone
#27: Questions on False Self and True Self
#28: Questions on Facing and Conquering Her Fears
#29: Questions on Anxiety
#30: Questions on Depression
#31: Questions on Substance Use (Drugs and Alcohol)
#32: Questions on Spirituality
#33: Questions on Boundaries with Smartphone Use
#34: Questions on Guys and Dating
#35: Questions on Sex
#36: Questions on Sexting
#37: Questions on Sexual Harassment and Sexual Assault
#38: Questions on Bullying and Cyberbullying
#39: Questions on Pornography
#40: Questions on Same-Sex Attraction
#41: Questions on Eating Disorders and/or Disordered Eating
#42: Questions on Cutting (Self-Injurious Behavior)
#43: Questions on Suicide and Suicidal Thoughts
11. Lead Her to Lament 177
Dad-Daughter Date
#44: Questions on Making Amends for Hurtful Words You’ve Spoken
#45: Questions on Her Father Wounds—from You
#46: Questions on Her Father Voids—from You
#47: Questions on Distracted Dads
#48: Questions If You or Her Mom Had an Affair
#49: Questions about Her Parents’ Divorce
#50: Questions on Having You as Her Stepdad
#51: Questions for Estranged Daughters Who Are Open to Talking
#52: Questions on Sibling Rivalry
#53: Questions on Being Adopted
#54: Questions about the Death of a Loved One
PART THREE: Flipping the Script: Questions for Daughters to Ask Their Dads 209
12. Lead Her to Listen 211
Dad-Daughter Date
#55: Questions about Your Life as a Kid
#56: Questions about Your Parents, Childhood, and Family Life
#57: Questions about How Your Relationship with Your Dad Impacted You
#58: Questions about Your History with Drugs, Alcohol, and Addictions
#59: Questions about Your Romantic History
#60: Questions about How You Relate to God
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