Summary of Robert Weiss's Cruise Control

Everest Media

Description

Please note: This is a companion version & not the original book.
Sample Book Insights:
#1 Ed is constantly on the lookout for another man to have sex with. He is always rating the male body parts he sees in the locker room, and his prey is any desirable man who will look him in the eye long enough for him to get that feeling in his gut.
#2 Ed’s cruising produces a physical reaction. His heart races, he feels slightly dizzy, and his hands begin to sweat. He knows and easily recognizes all the signs of sexual interest. He can’t stop until he either finds someone for sex or masturbates to orgasm.
#3 Ed is a thirty-one-year-old man who has become more depressed and irritable over the past few years. He has been unable to figure out the source of his distress, and he is constantly late for appointments with friends and coworkers because he is out completing sex acts.
#4 Ed, an out gay man, is fully committed to open sexual choices and experiences. He does not discuss his sexual behavior with anyone, even good friends, because he believes that no one would challenge the wisdom of his late-night exploits or the danger inherent in his brushes with the law.

Sujets

• Sexualité
• sexualité
• Sexualité
• General
• Addictions
• Self-help
• General officer
• Substance Abuse

Informations

• Publié par: Everest Media LLC
• Date de parution: 14 mai 2022
• Nombre de lectures: 0
• EAN13: 9798822510302
• Langue: English
• Poids de l'ouvrage: 1 Mo

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Insights on Robert Weiss's Cruise Control
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#1

Ed is constantly on the lookout for another man to have sex with. He is always rating the male body parts he sees in the locker room, and his prey is any desirable man who will look him in the eye long enough for him to get that feeling in his gut.

#2

Ed’s cruising produces a physical reaction. His heart races, he feels slightly dizzy, and his hands begin to sweat. He knows and easily recognizes all the signs of sexual interest. He can’t stop until he either finds someone for sex or masturbates to orgasm.

#3

Ed is a thirty-one-year-old man who has become more depressed and irritable over the past few years. He has been unable to figure out the source of his distress, and he is constantly late for appointments with friends and coworkers because he is out completing sex acts.

#4

Ed, an out gay man, is fully committed to open sexual choices and experiences. He does not discuss his sexual behavior with anyone, even good friends, because he believes that no one would challenge the wisdom of his late-night exploits or the danger inherent in his brushes with the law.

#5

After years of addictive sexual behavior, aching loneliness, escalating depression, and the stressful life of living a double life, Ed was tired yet he wasn’t able to figure out what was wrong or how to fix it. He just wasn’t able to enjoy his life or be happy.

#6

The emotional experience that sex addicts experience when they think about or pursue a hot sexual or romantic connection is similar to the dissociative state that gambling addicts experience.

#7

The answer to the question of why so many attractive, intelligent, and wealthy people act out sexually is simple. Their intellectual and emotional selves can run on different tracks. When their unmet emotional needs become great enough to override their ability to make intellectual decisions, they act in really dumb ways.

#8

People who are addicted to substances or behaviors are addicted to the extremes of their own neurochemistry, which they themselves influence via fantasy and taking actions toward those fantasies. Like a boulder rolling down a hill, the closer any addict gets to their desired object or experience, the more they want to do it and the harder it is to stop.

#9

The powerful cocktails of distraction that sex addicts abuse are made up of naturally occurring chemicals in the brain like adrenaline, serotonin, epinephrine, dopamine, and endorphins.

#10

For sex addicts, the focus of all the ritual cruising, contacting, and engaging is not necessarily orgasm. While spending hours walking the floors of a sex club or cruising the Internet, they are unknowingly working to maintain an optimal level of emotional and neurochemical stimulation.

#11

Sex addiction is not always able to spend hours doing sex. Some sex addicts, having limited time or resources, will engage in quick, intense hits of sexual acting out then return to what they had been doing previously.

#12

All addicts go through a cycle of thought and behavior that leads them to acting out. The cycle of sex addiction typically begins with the addict feeling stressed or uncomfortable, which leads to him turning to sex to distract himself from his feelings.

#13

The sex addict’s cycle is composed of three parts: fantasizing, preparing for the act, and acting out. The addict experiences a sense of satisfaction through the release of the tension that had been building in his body and psyche. He may feel emotionally numb, ashamed, or anxious about the consequences of his actions.

#14

The New York City study, conducted in the mid-2000s, with over 180 gay and bisexual men who described themselves as being sexually out of control, found that their primary reason for their sexual behavior was due to internal triggers.

#15

The same risk factors that make up the addiction process in straight men make up the process in gay men. Unfortunately, for the gay sex addict, his increasingly destructive patterns of behavior take place against a cultural background of dramatically greater sexual and social freedoms than those enjoyed by straight men.

#16

Sex addiction is when you lose the ability to choose whether or not to be sexual. It is when your sexual activity becomes repetitive and compulsive, and you are unable to stop. While people without addiction can choose when and where to be sexual, sex addicts lose the ability to choose.

#17

Sex addiction can lead to isolation, broken trust, lost creative time, increased guilt and shame, physical health concerns, legal problems, and mental health concerns.

#18

To identify whether sex addiction is a problem for you, take a full, honest look at your sexual history.