Summary of Whitney Goodman's Toxic Positivity

Everest Media

Description

Please note: This is a companion version & not the original book.
Sample Book Insights:
#1 Toxic positivity is the belief that everything is great, and you can’t imagine anything ever being worse. It has now entered the building.
#2 Toxic positivity is the idea that you’ll have more time off now, and while things could be worse, you’ll likely learn some lessons from the experience. However, you’re not there yet. You’re still worried and upset.
#3 Positive thinking is not all bad, but it has become so integrated into our culture that it feels strange to challenge it. We have been taught that positive feelings like gratitude, contentment, optimism, and self-confidence are the keys to happiness, and we force these feelings on ourselves because society tells us to.
#4 The shame spiral of toxic positivity occurs when we get mad at ourselves for having a feeling, and then we tell ourselves that we shouldn’t be feeling it. We then get mad again when a couple of just smile platitudes don’t bring us endless positivity.

Sujets

• Santé et bien-être
• Confiance en soi et estime de soi
• Confiance en soi
• Confiance
• Personal development
• Self-esteem

Informations

• Publié par: Everest Media LLC
• Date de parution: 20 mars 2022
• Nombre de lectures: 0
• EAN13: 9781669355984
• Langue: English
• Poids de l'ouvrage: 1 Mo

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Insights on Whitney Goodman's Toxic Positivity
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Insights from Chapter 1

#1

Toxic positivity is the belief that everything is great, and you can’t imagine anything ever being worse. It has now entered the building.

#2

Toxic positivity is the idea that you’ll have more time off now, and while things could be worse, you’ll likely learn some lessons from the experience. However, you’re not there yet. You’re still worried and upset.

#3

Positive thinking is not all bad, but it has become so integrated into our culture that it feels strange to challenge it. We have been taught that positive feelings like gratitude, contentment, optimism, and self-confidence are the keys to happiness, and we force these feelings on ourselves because society tells us to.

#4

The shame spiral of toxic positivity occurs when we get mad at ourselves for having a feeling, and then we tell ourselves that we shouldn’t be feeling it. We then get mad again when a couple of just smile platitudes don’t bring us endless positivity.

#5

The most fulfilling lives are those that can experience challenging emotions. When we know that our emotions are meant to be experienced and that they’re not something we need to run from, it becomes easier to move into a place of optimism.

#6

When it comes to using positive language, the impact depends on your timing, your audience, and the topic being discussed. Most positivity lingo lacks nuance, compassion, and curiosity. It comes in the form of blanket statements that tell someone how to feel and that the feeling they’re currently having is wrong.

#7

It's important to remember that people process things at different speeds, and they get to decide where they are in their healing process. When someone is crying about something or clearly in the midst of experiencing a difficult emotion, it's best to let them experience their feelings.

#8

When providing support, it’s important to consider your audience. They get to decide how they would like to be supported, and you get to decide if you’re willing and able to provide that support.

#9

The following are topics that are particularly distressing and heavy for many people: infertility, pregnancy loss, grief, illness, disability, romantic relationships, breakups, family estrangement, career trouble, and physical appearance.

#10

Positive thinking is often a Band-Aid on a bullet wound. It is ineffective, and it leads to emotional suppression, which is destructive to our bodies, minds, relationships, and society.

#11

Positive thinking has been sold as a cure for years. It began when white Calvinist men landed on the New World and found themselves lacking any sort of spiritual salvation in the form of God or the church. They turned to the New Thought movement, which promised them hope and a better life.

#12

Positive thinking continued into the twentieth century with the mind-cure movement and emphasized the healing power of positive emotions and beliefs. However, this new religion completely sidestepped the reality of tragedy.

#13

The field of psychology also began to shift toward the pursuit of happiness. The prevailing belief was that people could think themselves out of emotional states and ultimately control their destiny through their thoughts.

#14

The pressure to be happy and look happy has never been greater.