100 Ways to Love Your Daughter

Matt Jacobson

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You love your daughter--but that doesn't mean you always know the most effective ways to show that love, ways that will connect with her heart and stick with her no matter what life throws her way.This practical book by the authors of 100 Ways to Love Your Wife and 100 Ways to Love Your Husband gives you 100 specific, actionable ideas you can implement to show love to your daughter, no matter what age she is. The best part? The short, bite-sized readings make it easy to start right now!Whether you felt a lack of love growing up and long to do things differently with your own kids or you feel like you're constantly competing with the culture for your child's attention, these books will help you show your daughter that you care, helping you forge a bond of love that lasts a lifetime.

Informations

• Publié par: Baker Publishing Group
• Date de parution: 05 mai 2020
• Nombre de lectures: 0
• EAN13: 9781493423248
• Langue: English
• Poids de l'ouvrage: 2 Mo

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Other Books by Matt and Lisa Jacobson
100 Ways to Love Your Husband
100 Ways to Love Your Wife
100 Words of Affirmation Your Husband Needs to Hear
100 Words of Affirmation Your Wife Needs to Hear
100 Ways to Love Your Son
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© 2020 by Faithful Families Ministries, LLC
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Contents
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Introduction
1. Ask her real questions.
2. Get up early and watch the sunrise together.
3. Give her a warm hug.
4. Write her a letter.
5. Be ready to happily serve her.
6. Arrange for a father-daughter date.
7. Give her opportunities to serve others.
8. Prove to her that you’re her biggest fan.
9. Take a walk together.
10. Make yourself available to her.
11. Be ready to say I’m sorry.
12. Be patient with the maturing process.
13. Take the time to fully listen to her heart.
14. Introduce her to a new skill.
15. Encourage your daughter in her individual fashion choices.
16. Celebrate her victories.
17. Spend time on your knees for her.
18. Demonstrate your loyalty to her.
19. Infuse hope into your daughter’s life.
20. Fill her head with life-giving words.
21. Be her good friend—but not necessarily her buddy.
22. Tell her you are proud of her.
23. Love her enough to have the hard conversations.
24. Hike together.
25. Speak patiently to her.
26. Make her believe you like to be with her.
27. Inform her of God’s incredible design for her feminine body.
28. Take a big trip together.
29. Surprise her with a no-occasion gift.
30. Take time out to laugh together.
31. Show her how to prepare delicious food.
32. Communicate your loving approval.
33. Love her by being a person she can safely share her emotions with.
34. Take her out for ice cream.
35. Be her champion when she stands up against the crowd.
36. Tell your daughter, “I will provide for you.”
37. Let your daughter know you’ll always be by her side.
38. Bake a batch of homemade cookies together.
39. Pursue her heart more than her good behavior.
40. Give your daughter new responsibility.
41. Encourage confidence in her appearance.
42. Assure her of your protection.
43. Go to a concert or performance together.
44. Praise her for a job well done.
45. Throw a party with or for her.
46. Give her a vision for the woman she is becoming.
47. Consider getting healthy together.
48. Arrange for a picnic in the park.
49. Take note of what bothers your daughter and then stop doing it.
50. Be gentle with her mistakes.
51. Set aside a specific time to focus on her.
52. Teach her the proper value of money.
53. Be interested in her interests.
54. Encourage her to value the views of others.
55. Move in close if she feels far away.
56. Show her the wisdom in walking humbly.
57. Give her grace in growing up.
58. Dress up and take her to dinner.
59. Value her thoughts and perspective.
60. Take a meal to someone in need.
61. Calm her fears and anxieties.
62. Head out to a farmers market together.
63. Learn your daughter’s love language and speak it often.
64. Show your daughter how to work hard and cheerfully.
65. Help your daughter develop healthy friendships.
66. Teach her to respect herself.
67. Never, ever give up on her.
68. Frame and display a picture of the two of you.
69. Take a moment to enjoy a cup of tea together.
70. Welcome her questions on sexual topics.
71. Embrace her transition to womanhood.
72. Tell her, “You are beautiful.”
73. Believe your daughter is an overcomer.
74. Volunteer together.
75. Listen to your daughter’s dreams—no matter how crazy!
76. Encourage her many gifts.
77. Seek her out.
78. Use a kind tone when speaking with her.
79. Look for music to enjoy together.
80. Enjoy her unique personality differences.
81. Help her be flexible.
82. Buy her favorite chocolate.
83. Guide her with wise instruction.
84. Invite her into your world.
85. Cook a gourmet meal together.
86. Show her how much God loves her.
87. Take her somewhere special for an overnight.
88. Teach her to care about others.
89. Together, make something beautiful with your hands.
90. Let your daughter know you admire her intelligence.
91. Begin praying for her future husband.
92. Encourage her to do the right thing, no matter how hard it is.
93. Be grateful for your world-changer.
94. Applaud her individual choices.
95. Show appreciation for her strengths that are different from your own.
96. Tell her that you value what and how she thinks.
97. Communicate that you have faith in her future.
98. Enjoy your daughter for who she is today.
99. Be willing to let her go when the time comes.
100. Always kiss her goodnight.
About the Author
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Introduction
How can you cultivate and keep a close, loving relationship with your daughter? Whatever her age, how can you reach and hold on to her heart through the years? Perhaps she’s young and you already have her heart, but how will you keep it as she grows older? You desire the best for her, but how do you translate that love into a relationship that will endure?
This book is a resource for what to do, what to say, and how to treat daughters of all ages. For you to maintain a continuous, growing relationship with her, she needs to know and experience your love—and that is the reason for this book. Just read one entry per day, consider it, and then apply it to your relationship with her.
Sometimes we need to change what we think. Sometimes we need to change what we say (and how we say it!). And sometimes we need to change what we do. For some parents, it’s a minor adjustment. For others, it will be a dramatic reform. But for all parents, it’s the journey of loving your daughter better each day as you are learning to love her well—the foundation of a meaningful, trusting relationship that will stand the test of time as she becomes a woman.
We are the parents of eight awesome children, including four girls ages nineteen to twenty-four. We’ve walked this journey and are still making it with you. We haven’t always done it right and hope you find us to be transparent about our mistakes, but we are grateful to enjoy close, loving relationships with our girls. Wherever you are on this journey, learning to love your daughter well is the path to all that’s best in your relationship with her today and in the future.
Matt & Lisa Jacobson
1 Ask her real questions .
Close. That’s how our friend describes our relationship with our daughters. And it’s true, we are close. We laugh and hug and talk about most everything. So how did we get there? How did we grow so close?
This kind of closeness comes from seeking—from seeking their hearts and pursuing a relationship. It comes from being interested in their thoughts, fears, hopes, and dreams.
And it comes from asking questions.
We ask our daughters questions most every day. We wonder how they’re doing, what they’re thinking about, and how they’re feeling.
Our girls need us to ask them about these things. They won’t necessarily volunteer what’s on their hearts and minds. They need us to ask, and they need us to care about their answers.
Your daughter needs you to ask her too.
2 Get up early and watch the sunrise together .
Another week begins. It’s time to get to work, the gym, that event. The demands won’t lighten up and neither will the speed of your daughter’s growth and maturity. Time will race by, and she’ll be out the door and off to the next phase of her life with lightning speed. There will never be a convenient time to slow down and just “be” with your daughter. There’s just too much to do.
And yet, somehow, busy, wise parents find the time.
How? If we’re honest, every one of us has time for those things that are truly important to us. In fact, that’s what we’ve already done, whether we’re the parent who pauses to enjoy God’s handiwork with our daughter or the parent who never takes the time. Both types of parents have prioritized what is important. Which one are you?
Love your daughter by elevating her over the demands of your schedule—by anticipating the natural beauty of a sunrise or sunset or some other scene that says, “Let’s take a few minutes to share God’s creation together.”
A close relationship with your daughter is built by finding and sharing those moments together.
3 Give her a warm hug.
She walked into the room, and since I’m her mom, I could tell she was worked up before she even reached me. It probably had nothing to do with me, but I sensed that I would suffer the brunt of it all the same. Before she really got going, however, I had the sudden inspiration to reach out and give her a hug—not a quick obligatory hug either, but a slow, deliberate, no-agenda embrace.
I think we were both somewhat surprised at that moment. But the impact on her spirit—and on our relationship—was undeniable. Whatever it was that had been eating at her seemed to slip away.
Sometimes your girl doesn’t need words or instruction or correction as much as she si