How to Get the Best Out of Your Man

McKinney Hammond Michelle

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Bestselling author Michelle McKinney Hammond (more than 1.5 million books sold) draws on the book of Esther to help women create strong and fulfilling love relationships. Most women dream of romance with their men, but even the best couples encounter rocky shores now and then. Through a thoughtful and insightful study of Esther's life, Michelle shows women biblical principles for building and enhancing unity and passion. Married and single women will discover:how women can bring joy and wisdom into people's livesageless beauty secrets to promote and maintain attractivenessGod's unique design for women in male/female relationshipsa better understanding of how men think and behaveideas for inspiring and encouraging the men in their livesThe wisdom God offers in His Word can make every relationship more satisfying-especially when it comes to love. By helping their men become all God created them to be, women will also be powerfully blessed.

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• Publié par: Harvest House Publishers
• Date de parution: 01 mars 2013
• Nombre de lectures: 0
• EAN13: 9780736942669
• Langue: English

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HOW TO GET THE BEST OUT OF YOUR MAN
Copyright 2013 by Michelle McKinney Hammond
Published by Harvest House Publishers
Eugene, Oregon 97402
www.harvesthousepublishers.com
Library of Congress Cataloging-in-Publication Data
McKinney Hammond, Michelle.
How to get the best out of your man / Michelle McKinney Hammond.
pages cm
ISBN 978-0-7369-3790-0 (pbk.)
ISBN 978-0-7369-4266-9 (eBook)
1. Single women-Religious life. 2. Christian women-Religious life. 3. Man-woman relationships-Biblical teaching. 4. Man-woman relationships-Religious aspects-Christianity. 5. Bible. O.T. Esther-Criticism, interpretation, etc. I. Title.
BV4596.S5M3447 2013
248.8 435-dc23
2012036122
All rights reserved. No part of this publication may be reproduced, stored in a retrieval system, or transmitted in any form or by any means-electronic, mechanical, digital, photocopy, recording, or any other-except for brief quotations in printed reviews, without the prior permission of the publisher.
To every woman who has a heart for God and for her man-may you be reassured there is power in doing things God s way .
To my long-term examples that God s principles are not only true but workable

William and Norma McKinney-what wonderful parents you have been! What a solid example of love and marriage you have shown me over the years. You set the bar high and proved it s possible to have an amazing friendship and marriage with the partner of your dreams .
Frank and Bunny Wilson-your marriage has always been a beacon of light to countless others and an oasis of sweet reassurance for me. Frank, you are sorely missed, but you left a legacy of love behind for us to treasure .
To all the others-you know who you are! Watching you do love and marriage has been a pleasure as well as a confirmation that marriage can be a happy place and a real partnership .
Acknowledgments
To my Harvest House family. One thing about a good house is no matter what the weather in our lives, the house is still standing. So happy to be in the family after all these years, looking forward to many more.
To Barb, my trusty editor, thank you for hanging in there with me through all my various transitions. You remain the voice of reason .
To Dave Koechel, thanks for making my babies look pretty on the shelves.
To all those who work tirelessly to help me get the word out, Thank you!
Contents
Acknowledgments
Part 1: Who Is He?
1. Male by Design
2. What a Man Wants
3. What a Man Needs
4. The Problem with Submission
Part 2: Who Are You?
5. Will the Real Queen Arise?
6. Set Apart for Destiny
7. The Real Treatment
8. How to Be Chosen
Part 3: Who Is Your Enemy?
9. The Power of Identity
10. Revealing the Enemy
11. Understanding Your Position
12. Unwavering Faith
Part 4: Where Is Your Power?
13. Set Apart
14. The Company You Keep
15. Dressed for the Part
16. The Right Approach
Part 5: What Is the Purpose of Your Relationship?
17. Knowing Your Calling
18. Understanding the Season
19. The Voice of Reason
20. Picking Your Battles
Part 6: Where Is the Battle?
21. Knowing Your Enemy
22. The Heart of a True Man
23. Reaping What We Sow
24. The Power of Vulnerability
Part 7: What Is True Victory?
25. The Secret of Authority
26. Unfinished Business
27. Celebration of Love
Final Thoughts
Things to Remember
Contact the Author
About the Publisher
Part 1
Who Is He?

W hen you look at your man, who do you see? The real man or the man you would like to see? Somewhere between a wonderful combination of both lies the true man, with all his hopes, fears, accomplishments, and disappointments. The man God created him to be, the man you hoped for, and the man he longs to be converge in different degrees in response to circumstances, stresses (real or imagined), love, rejection, fulfillment, and the search for what confirms his identity as a man. These things will affect his responses to you and the world at large on any given day.
It s been said that men are far less complex than women, and I believe that is true. When women understand the basics about men, we ll find it much easier to relate to them.
In the Beginning
In the Bible, the first time man is mentioned has him in a remote place being fashioned by God. No wonder so many men think they are God s gift to the world. They literally are. And later, God created woman for man, which makes us God s gift to them.
God created man in His own likeness. This creative move on God s part is our first telling hint for solving the mystery of a man s heart. If he is made in the image of God, then we must know that he will imitate God in unending ways, including emotionally and spiritually. He will be driven to reflect his maker from the core of his soul because he is an extension of the God who created him. (Yes, the same is true for women, but we are focusing on men in this book.)
God craves relationship, honor, worship, and victory-the same things a man craves. As we move through this book, we ll break these things down and deal with them one by one.
For now, keep in mind that God created us all for relationship. He doesn t need anyone other than Himself, yet He desires fellowship and a love relationship with us. He wants to know that He is appreciated and honored for all He has done and does for us. He delights in all His creation working well together and seeing His will accomplished in our lives. The ultimate tribute to His Lordship is the victory that is experienced when we submit totally to Him, forsaking all other influences and temptations.
Does that sound familiar? It sounds like all of us-including your man! We will be taking an in-depth look at what this looks like in our relationships as we move forward, but suffice it to say that a man looks to his woman to provide a lot of those good feelings. The rewards for fulfilling his desires can be above and beyond what we can even imagine.
When God created woman, she was fashioned to meet the needs of her man. You see, God made man with a very specific assignment in mind. He was created not just for fellowship but also to supervise and manage God s creation. He was created to be fruitful, to multiply, to subdue and have dominion over all that God had made. Small wonder man is driven to conquer in every area of his world. This stuff is in his genes by divine design. But guess what? He is only able to accomplish these things partially unless he has the help of a woman (and God, of course). Both man and woman were commanded to be fruitful, multiply, take dominion over every living thing and subdue evil, but this work would require a partnership between the man and the woman. These commands could not be accomplished alone. In this book, we will be focusing on the man as we move forward so we can better understand our men and their needs.
I ve said it before, and I ll say it again: Man is the starter , but woman is the finisher . She is the period at the end of his sentence. She brings completion to his world, along with a healthy dose of the support it takes for him to accomplish his tasks. In Africa one saying goes, Man is the head, woman is the neck. Wherever the neck turns, the head turns. Yes, it s true. God has given woman an amazing gift that can be more powerful than a man s authority. It is the gift of influence . When utilized well, everyone in that couple s world benefits from the fruit of their harmonious union. Couples that operate according to God s design positively impact and stabilize their world. The effects of what happens within their relationship can progressively improve relations and conditions in their neighborhood, community, and nation.
In every relationship-our relationship with God, our relationship with our man, our relationship with others-there are principles and protocols that help us achieve the results we want. As we bless God, He blesses us. When we bring pleasure to His heart, He goes out of His way to pour divine surprises from heaven into ours. He crowns us with His favor and opens doors that can t be shut before us. The same is true of man. A happy husband makes a happy wife.
As we focus on how to get the best out of your mate and your relationship, I will be sharing principles that were utilized by a very famous woman