Routledge's Manual of Etiquette

George Routledge

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Project Gutenberg's Routledge's Manual of Etiquette, by George Routledge This eBook is for the use of anyone anywhere at no cost and with almost no restrictions whatsoever. You may copy it, give it away or re-use it under the terms of the Project Gutenberg License included with this eBook or online at www.gutenberg.net Title: Routledge's Manual of Etiquette Author: George Routledge Release Date: May 24, 2004 [EBook #12426] Language: English *** START OF THIS PROJECT GUTENBERG EBOOK ROUTLEDGE'S MANUAL OF ETIQUETTE *** Produced by Curtis Weyant, Leah Moser and the Online Distributed Proofreading Team, from scans provided by Case Western Reserve University's Preservation Department ROUTLEDGE'S MANUAL OF ETIQUETTE ETIQUETTE FOR LADIES ETIQUETTE FOR GENTLEMEN BALL-ROOM COMPANION COURTSHIP & MATRIMONY HOW TO DRESS WELL HOW TO CARVE TOASTS AND SENTIMENTS GEORGE ROUTLEDGE AND SONSCONTENTS. ETIQUETTE FOR LADIES. I. Introductions II. Letters of Introduction III. Visiting, Morning Calls, Cards IV. Conversation V. Notes of Invitation, &c. VI. The Promenade VII. Dress VIII. Morning and Evening Parties IX. The Dinner-table X. The Ball-room XI. Staying at a Friend's House—Breakfast, Luncheon, &c. XII. General Hints * * * * * ETIQUETTE FOR GENTLEMEN. I. Introductions II. Letters of Introduction III. Visiting, Morning Calls, Cards, &c. IV. Conversation V. Notes of Invitation, &c. VI. The Promenade VII. Dress VIII. Riding and Driving IX. Morning and Evening Parties X. The Dinner-table XI. The Ball-room XII. Staying at a Friend's House—Breakfast, Luncheon, &c. XIII. General Hints * * * * * BALL-ROOM GUIDE. I. How to organize a Ball II. Ball-room Toilette (Ladies) " " (Gentlemen) III. Etiquette of the Ball-room IV. The Quadrille V. The Caledonians VI. The Lancers VII. The Double Lancers VIII. Coulon's Double Quadrille IX. The Polka X. The Cellarius XI. The Mazurka Quadrille XII. The Polka Mazurka XIII. The Redowa, or Redova XIV. The Schottische XV. The Varsoviana, or Varsovienne XVI. The Gorlitza XVII. The Valse à Trois Temps XVIII. The Valse à Deux Temps XIX. The New Valse XX. The Galop XXI. The Cotillon XXII. The Spanish Dance XXIII. The Tempête XXIV. Sir Roger de Coverley XXV. Glossary of Terms used in Dancing * * * * *ETIQUETTE OF COURTSHIP AND MATRIMONY. I.—FIRST STEPS IN COURTSHIP. Advice to both parties at the outset Introduction to the Lady's Family II.—ETIQUETTE OF COURTSHIP. Restrictions imposed by Etiquette What the Lady should observe in early Courtship What the Suitor should observe Etiquette as to Presents The Proposal Mode of Refusal when not approved Conduct to be observed by a Rejected Suitor Refusal by the Lady's Parents or Guardians III.—ETIQUETTE OF AN ENGAGEMENT. Demeanour of the Betrothed Pair Should a Courtship be long or short? IV.—PRELIMINARY ETIQUETTE OF A WEDDING. Fixing the Day How to be Married: by Banns, Licence, &c. The Trousseau Duties to be attended to by the Bridegroom Who should be asked to the Wedding Bridesmaids and Bridegroom's-men, Duties of V.—ETIQUETTE OF A WEDDING. Costume of Bride, Bridesmaids, and Bridegroom Arrival at the Church The Marriage Ceremonial Registry of the Marriage Return Home and Wedding Breakfast Departure for the Honeymoon VI.—ETIQUETTE AFTER THE WEDDING. Wedding Cards: Modern Practice of "No Cards" Reception and Return of Wedding Visits VII. Practical Advice to a Newly-married Couple * * * * * HOW TO DRESS WELL. I. Introduction II. Taste in Dress III. Fashion in Dress IV. Expense of Dress V. Accessories VI. A Few Words More * * * * * HOW TO CARVE. Hints on the Dinner-table Carving FISH. Turbot Cod-Fish Salmon, &c. Mackerel JOINTS. Haunch of Venison or Mutton Saddle of Mutton Leg of Mutton Shoulder of Mutton Loin of Mutton Neck of Mutton Fore Quarter of Lamb Sirloin of Beef Ribs of Beef Round of Beef Aitch-bone of Beef Rump or Buttock of Beef Tongue Calf's Head Loin of Veal Fillet of Veal Breast of Veal Knuckle of Veal Shoulder and Neck of Veal Leg or Hand of Pork Spare-rib of Pork Ham Sucking Pig POULTRY AND GAME. Goose Turkey Fowl Duck Wild Duck Pheasant Grouse Partridge Woodcock or Snipe Pigeons Small Birds Hare Rabbit * * * * * TOASTS AND SENTIMENTS. Amatory Bacchanalian Comic Conservative Gastronomic English Irish Scotch Liberal Literary Loyal Masonic Military Naval Religious Sentimental Sporting Miscellaneous LatinRoutledge's Etiquette for Ladies. * * * * * I.—INTRODUCTIONS. To introduce persons who are mutually unknown is to undertake a serious responsibility, and to certify to each the respectability of the other. Never undertake this responsibility without in the first place asking yourself whether the persons are likely to be agreeable to each other; nor, in the second place, without ascertaining whether it will be acceptable to both parties to become acquainted. Always introduce the gentleman to the lady—never the lady to the gentleman. The chivalry of etiquette assumes that the lady is invariably the superior in right of her sex, and that the gentleman is honoured in the introduction. This rule is to be observed even when the social rank of the gentleman is higher than that of the lady. Where the sexes are the same, always present the inferior to the superior. Never present a gentleman to a lady without first asking her permission to do so. When you are introduced to a gentleman, never offer your hand. When introduced, persons limit their recognition of each other to a bow. On the Continent, ladies never shake hands with gentlemen unless under circumstances of great intimacy. Never introduce morning visitors who happen to encounter each other in your drawing-room, unless they are persons whom you have already obtained permission to make known to each other. Visitors thus casually meeting in the house of a friend should converse with ease and freedom, as if they were acquainted. That they are both friends of the hostess is a sufficient guarantee of their respectability. To be silent and stiff on such an occasion would show much-ignorance and ill-breeding. Persons who have met at the house of a mutual friend, without being introduced, should not bow if they afterwards meet elsewhere. A bow implies acquaintance; and persons who have not been introduced are not acquainted. If you are walking with one friend, and presently meet with, or are joined by, a third, do not commit the too frequent error of introducing them to each other. You have even less right to do so than if they encountered each other at your house during a morning call. There are some exceptions to the etiquette of introductions. At a ball, or evening party where there is dancing, the mistress of the house may introduce any gentleman to any lady without first asking the lady's permission. But she should first ascertain whether the lady is willing to dance; and this out of consideration for the gentleman, who may otherwise be refused. No man likes to be refused the hand of a lady, though it be only for a quadrille. A sister may present her brother, or a mother her son, without any kind of preliminary; but only when there is no inferiority on the part of her own family to that of the acquaintance. Friends may introduce friends at the house of a mutual acquaintance; but, as a rule, it is better to be introduced by the mistress of the house. Such an introduction carries more authority with it. Introductions at evening parties are now almost wholly dispensed with. Persons who meet at a friend's house are ostensibly upon an equality, and pay a bad compliment to the host by appearing suspicious and formal. Some old- fashioned country hosts yet persevere in introducing each new comer to all the assembled guests. It is a custom that cannot be too soon abolished, and one that places the last unfortunate visitor in a singularly awkward position. All that she can do is to make a semicircular courtesy, like a concert singer before an audience, and bear the general gaze with as much composure as possible. If, when you enter a drawing-room, your name has been wrongly announced, or has passed unheard in the buzz of conversation, make your way at once to the mistress of the house, if you are a stranger, and introduce yourself by name. This should be done with the greatest simplicity, and your rank made as little of as possible. An introduction given at a ball for the mere purpose of conducting a lady through a dance does not give the gentleman any right to bow to her on a future occasion. If he commits this error, she may remember that she is not bound to see, or return, his salutation. * * * * * II.—LETTERS OF INTRODUCTION. Do not lightly give or promise letters of introduction. Always remember that when you give a letter of introduction you layyourself under an obligation to the friend to whom it is addressed. If she lives in a great city, such as Paris or London, you in a measure compel her to undergo the penalty of escorting the stranger to some of those places of public entertainment in which the capital abounds. If your friend be a married lady, and the mistress of a house, you put her to the expense of inviting the stranger to her table. We cannot be too cautious how we tax the time and purse of a friend, or weigh too seriously the question of mutual advantage in the introduction. Always ask yourself whether the person introduced will be an acceptable acquaintance to the one to whom you present her; and whether the pleasure of knowing her will compensate for the time or money which it costs to entertain her. If the stranger is in any way unsuitable in habits or temperament, you inflict an annoyance on your friend instead of a pleasure. In questions of introduction never oblige one friend to the di