Summary of Elaine Taylor-Klaus's The Essential Guide To Raising Complex Kids With ADHD, Anxiety, And More

Everest Media

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Please note: This is a companion version & not the original book.
Sample Book Insights:
#1 If you’re often walking on eggshells, then you might have a complex child. The first part of this book will demystify what it means to parent a complex child.
#2 It took several years for Sarah to admit that there was trouble in paradise. She and her husband, Jake, were grateful beyond measure for two healthy children, but by age 8, their oldest child was quirky and emotionally sensitive.
#3 Your child is intelligent, but they still struggle with school. They’re not reaching their potential, despite all efforts to help them get organized. School reports consistently say they could do better if only they would just try harder, pay attention, apply themselves, or turn in their work.
#4 Parents often struggle with raising a complex child. They feel frustrated, disappointed, sad, embarrassed, guilty, and/or aggravated. They’re exhausted.

Informations

• Publié par: Everest Media LLC
• Date de parution: 08 mars 2022
• Nombre de lectures: 0
• EAN13: 9781669351078
• Langue: English
• Poids de l'ouvrage: 1 Mo

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Insights on Elaine Taylor-Klaus's The Essential Guide To Raising Complex Kids With ADHD, Anxiety, And More
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Insights from Chapter 1

#1

If you’re often walking on eggshells, then you might have a complex child. The first part of this book will demystify what it means to parent a complex child.

#2

It took several years for Sarah to admit that there was trouble in paradise. She and her husband, Jake, were grateful beyond measure for two healthy children, but by age 8, their oldest child was quirky and emotionally sensitive.

#3

Your child is intelligent, but they still struggle with school. They’re not reaching their potential, despite all efforts to help them get organized. School reports consistently say they could do better if only they would just try harder, pay attention, apply themselves, or turn in their work.

#4

Parents often struggle with raising a complex child. They feel frustrated, disappointed, sad, embarrassed, guilty, and/or aggravated. They’re exhausted.

#5

When we are desperate, we focus on what’s not working and what we’re afraid of. Our children feel our fear, and if we believe they can, or they can’t, we’ll be correct.

#6

When we shift our approach from inspiration to parenting, we can see the possibilities are endless. We can help our children believe in themselves by shedding ourselves of desperation. We can do this by focusing on what’s possible for them, not what’s wrong with them.

#7

A client offered this reframe: I had an epiphany today. I realized my son’s ADHD has been a weight around my neck. But it’s not all bad. And I forget to integrate the positive.

#8

Before you become parents, you have expectations for what kind of parents you’ll be and what kind of child you’ll have. You imagine your partners as parents and how you’ll be as a family. But you start to feel the expectations of the outside world, from parents, in-laws, siblings, neighbors, and friends.

#9

When we feel unfairly treated, we may have good reason to feel resentful. But remember, resentment festers and destroys, preventing you from being the parent you want to be. It’s up to you to stop holding it tightly.

#10

I had a difficult time finding my place among my peers when my child was on such a different path. I was out of sync with my friends and sometimes a little jealous.

#11

Parents need to change their expectations to meet the child they have, not the child they thought they’d have. As keynoter Ross Greene said at the 2019 International Conference on ADHD, The most important task for parents: figure out who your child is. Get comfortable with it.

#12

When things don’t go as planned with your kids, don’t freak out and panic. Instead, embrace the unexpected and find the silver lining. That way, when things do go wrong, your kids will be prepared for it and able to handle it.

#13

Remind yourself that the unexpected is actually to be expected. When things start to escalate, consciously handle the intense feelings, and teach your kids to do the same.

#14

The apple doesn’t fall far from the tree. Janine likely has ADHD and anxiety, though she’s never been diagnosed or treated. She had always been late, forgetful, and made mistakes, but she had always blamed herself for them.

#15

If you’ve already put a lot of effort into trying to help your child, this section can help you understand why things haven’t worked yet. The rest of this chapter will offer ways to shift to a new approach.

#16

We all have these tendencies, regardless of gender. Don’t let gender distract you from identifying your tendencies.

#17

You can’t change anything that happened in your life up until now. But you can change what happens from here forward. Everything is a choice, even when it feels like you don’t have a choice.