Summary of Jennifer Taitz's How to Be Single and Happy

Everest Media

Description

Please note: This is a companion version & not the original book.
Sample Book Insights:
#1 You can live with happiness and fulfillment, alone or in a relationship. The belief that your happiness depends on an external circumstance that you can’t control makes it harder to find love, and it also makes you vulnerable to unhappiness.
#2 After years of being with her husband, George, the man eventually became her husband, the couple decided that they couldn’t continue living together. But they couldn’t agree on what to do about their challenges. Juliana hoped to improve the relationship, while George was bored in his work as an accountant and exasperated by their New York City bills.
#3 According to the hedonic treadmill theory, everyone’s happiness seems to hover at a fairly stable set point throughout life. What this means is that your actions matter and can affect your well-being.
#4 While it is true that single people are often judged based on negative stereotypes, these stereotypes do not reflect reality. It is difficult to remember this when the world adorns women’s fingers with expensive diamonds like trophies earned.

Sujets

• Love
• Love (disambiguation)
• Dating
• Sexualité
• sexualité
• Sexualité

Informations

• Publié par: Everest Media LLC
• Date de parution: 25 mars 2022
• Nombre de lectures: 0
• EAN13: 9781669365068
• Langue: English
• Poids de l'ouvrage: 1 Mo

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Insights on Jennifer Taitz's How to Be Single and Happy
Contents Insights from Chapter 1 Insights from Chapter 2
Insights from Chapter 1

#1

You can live with happiness and fulfillment, alone or in a relationship. The belief that your happiness depends on an external circumstance that you can’t control makes it harder to find love, and it also makes you vulnerable to unhappiness.

#2

After years of being with her husband, George, the man eventually became her husband, the couple decided that they couldn’t continue living together. But they couldn’t agree on what to do about their challenges. Juliana hoped to improve the relationship, while George was bored in his work as an accountant and exasperated by their New York City bills.

#3

According to the hedonic treadmill theory, everyone’s happiness seems to hover at a fairly stable set point throughout life. What this means is that your actions matter and can affect your well-being.

#4

While it is true that single people are often judged based on negative stereotypes, these stereotypes do not reflect reality. It is difficult to remember this when the world adorns women’s fingers with expensive diamonds like trophies earned.

#5

We are all prone to the trap of affective forecasting, which is the prediction of how we’ll feel in the future. This keeps many women stuck on the husband treadmill.

#6

Mindfulness is about fully participating in activities instead of letting past pains or future worries contaminate your moments. The more present you can be, the more fulfillment you will experience.

#7

It is essential to rethink what brings you happiness. When it comes to finding love, you may not be able to conjure up the right partner instantly, but you can change your mindset on what being single means.

#8

When we learn to focus our attention, we’re able to think more expansively instead of sinking into narrow judgments. This makes sense since mindfulness actually enlarges the parts of the brain that help us align our behaviors with long-term goals.

#9

It’s fine to ask your mindfulness teacher about dating, as long as you’re not doing it to pressure them into a relationship. The key is to be connected to yourself and your life in a meaningful way.

#10

It’s important to remember that marriage does not make people happy. In fact, most people report feeling below-average life satisfaction after they get married.

#11

Juliana was able to find happiness after her divorce from George. She changed her activities and added mindfulness to her life, and she was shocked but less lonely than she had felt in years.

#12

Rumination is when you obsessively dwell on certain thoughts and symptoms, and it is the worst. It can be so subtle that you don’t notice you’re doing it, and it’s completely portable.

#13

When we’re in emotion mind, it’s extremely difficult to think reasonably. And when we’re overthinking, we only make things worse by increasing our emotional intensity.

#14

If you notice that you ruminate, remind yourself that you’re not alone, and that the habit might be the cause of your depression, not your single status. Overthinking can create depression, anxiety, and a host of other emotional ailments.

#15

We can easily fall into the habit of distracting ourselves from our thoughts when we’re attached to our screens. Social networking and ruminating can feed off each other, and we must be mindful of when our feeds lead to upsetting thoughts.

#16

It’s natural to want to reach out and talk to your friends about your problems, but keep in mind that when you start ruminating, your loved ones may start to feel frustrated with you.

#17

Don’t try to suppress your thoughts and feelings when you’re breakup-ing. Instead, compassionately notice them and choose not to pursue them. Engaging in activities that keep you in the present is a better alternative than dwelling on your breakup.

#18

The best way to manage your emotions is to not ruminate when you’re alone. To manage your relationships, you must first manage yourself. You’ll find that stopping rumination will enhance your willpower and bring you closer to your ultimate goal of improving relationships.

#19