Summary of Dan B. Allender, Karen Lee-Thorp & Dr. Larry Crabb's The Wounded Heart

Everest Media

Description

Please note: This is a companion version & not the original book.
Sample Book Insights:
#1 Sexual abuse is a difficult subject to talk about, and it often brings up a terrible sense of shame for the speaker and listener. It is often easier for abused people to deny the past, ignore the memories, and continue living a lie.
#2 The process of entering the past will disrupt life or, at least, the existence that masquerades as life. The ease of quiet denial that allows the person to be a pleasant but vacuous doormat or an articulate but driven Bible-study leader will be replaced by tumult, fear, confusion, anger, and change.
#3 The person who desires to deal with the wounds of past abuse must be willing to confront an internally and externally fierce battle fought by Christians against other Christians. This makes change difficult, but it is important that the man or woman who has been abused enters into the battle armed with both an awareness of the cost and a deep conviction that life lived in the mire of denial is not life at all.
#4 A major shift occurs when words are given to what is known to be true: I have been sexually abused. There is a deep reluctance to begin the process of change by admitting that damage has occurred.

Sujets

• Religion
• Christianisme
• Sexualité
• sexualité
• Sexualité
• Social issues
• Christian Living

Informations

• Publié par: Everest Media LLC
• Date de parution: 06 avril 2022
• Nombre de lectures: 1
• EAN13: 9781669380955
• Langue: English
• Poids de l'ouvrage: 1 Mo

Extrait

Insights on Dan B. Allender and Karen Lee-Thorp & Dr. Larry Crabb's The Wounded Heart
Contents Insights from Chapter 1 Insights from Chapter 2 Insights from Chapter 3 Insights from Chapter 4
Insights from Chapter 1

#1

Sexual abuse is a difficult subject to talk about, and it often brings up a terrible sense of shame for the speaker and listener. It is often easier for abused people to deny the past, ignore the memories, and continue living a lie.

#2

The process of entering the past will disrupt life or, at least, the existence that masquerades as life. The ease of quiet denial that allows the person to be a pleasant but vacuous doormat or an articulate but driven Bible-study leader will be replaced by tumult, fear, confusion, anger, and change.

#3

The person who desires to deal with the wounds of past abuse must be willing to confront an internally and externally fierce battle fought by Christians against other Christians. This makes change difficult, but it is important that the man or woman who has been abused enters into the battle armed with both an awareness of the cost and a deep conviction that life lived in the mire of denial is not life at all.

#4

A major shift occurs when words are given to what is known to be true: I have been sexually abused. There is a deep reluctance to begin the process of change by admitting that damage has occurred.

#5

Sexual abuse is any contact or interaction between a child and an adult when the child is being used for the sexual stimulation of the perpetrator or any other person. Sexual abuse may be committed by a person under the age of eighteen when that person is either significantly older than the victim or when the perpetrator is in a position of power or control over the victimized child.

#6

There are many forms of sexual abuse, from verbal to visual to psychological. Verbal and visual sexual abuse are the easiest to identify, but they are also the most common. Psychological sexual abuse is more difficult to identify, but it is still very damaging.

#7

When a parent or caregiver uses a child to fulfill their overt sexual desires or more subtle longings related to the adult’s sexual identity, abusive dynamics will be unleashed in that child.

#8

The victim may make excuses for the abuser, explaining away the harm. The excuses are legion: the abuser was abused as a child, he had a difficult background, he was going through a difficult time with his wife, and so on.

#9

The degree of trauma associated with abuse will be related to many factors, including the relationship with the perpetrator, the severity of the intrusion, use of violence, age of the perpetrator, and the duration of abuse. But in every case of abuse, the dignity and beauty of the soul has been violated.

#10

The first task in entering the battle is to face the fact that a battle exists. There are many who will read this chapter and label for the first time the awful experiences at home, school, or church as sexual abuse.

#11

The enemy is the pain of abuse and the person responsible for causing that pain. The victim is caught in a vicious reactionary cycle of either fight or flight. The best way to deal with the enemy is to forget, overcome, master, or retaliate against them.

#12

The enemy of our soul is sin, which is the autonomous striving for life that refuses to bow to God. The enemy is the internal reality that will not cry out to God in humble, broken dependence.

#13

Man is a glorious ruin, a stately castle built by an artisan who designed it with no regard for expense or practicality. When man took it upon himself to be as God, he ruined everything.

#14

God is a personal and relational being. He has existed forever in perfect relationship with Himself. Man was created to be in relationship with God and God’s creation. Man’s capacity for enjoyment and the longing to realize his capacities draws him into deeper relationship with God and his creation.

#15

The ruin of the glory was sin. The fall into sin was the most absurd, unexplainable violation of glory known to man. The choice to abandon vulnerable dependence on the word of God brought man to ruin.

#16

Shame is the feeling that arises when we believe we are not measuring up to our own expectations and standards. It is a silent killer that can take our breath away and replace it with the stale air of condemnation and disgust.

#17

Shame is a potential reality at every stage of life. The pressure to perform, to do well, and to succeed can be viewed as a desire not to fail because every failure leads to the rubble of shame.

#18

We all experience shame over something that was not our fault, and it is an awful experience to be exposed and revealed as deficient and undesirable by someone we hope will deeply enjoy us.

#19

Shame is an experience of the eyes. It is the fear of being seen naked and defenseless, and it is often the result of a past sexual indiscretion, thought or behavior, a past disloyalty, a failure of conscience, a violent act, or a cruel outburst.

#20

Everyone experiences some degree of shame, but sexually abused people often feel marked for life. They may feel awkward and uncomfortable around others, and they may hide behind the cloak of denial.

#21

Shame is a result of the exposure of our sin, but it can also be the result of the exposure of some deficiency in our dignity. The difference between legitimate and illegitimate shame is found in the object of the exposure.

#22

We ignore the issue of depravity and feel shame about our longing for what God intended us to enjoy.