Complete Guide To Writing And Delivering Wedding Speeches

Roland Gardner

Description

This latest book in the Easyway Guides Series, A Guide to Writing and Delivering Wedding Speeches, the Easyway, presents a range of speeches which can be used for each stage of a wedding. The book is a perfect guide for those who have been called upon to make a speech at a wedding and need guidance on creating a speech and also delivery techniques, such as controlling nerves.

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• Lettres et linguistique

Informations

• Publié par: Straightforward Publishing
• Date de parution: 29 septembre 2022
• Nombre de lectures: 0
• EAN13: 9781802361841
• Langue: English
• Poids de l'ouvrage: 2 Mo

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A GUIDE TO WRITING WEDDING SPEECHES
THE EASYWAY
ROLAND GARDNER
Easyway Guides
Easyway Guides
Straightforward Co Ltd 2022
All rights reserved. No part of this publication may be reproduced in a retrieval system or transmitted by any means, electronic or mechanical, photocopying, or otherwise, without the prior permission of the copyright holder.
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Printed in the United Kingdom by 4edge www.4edge.co.uk
ISBN: 978-1-80236-101-8 ePUB ISBN: 978-1-80236-184-1 Kindle ISBN: 978-1-80236-177-3
Cover Design by BW Studio Derby
Whilst every effort has been made to ensure that the information in this book is accurate at the time of going to print, the author and publisher recognise that the information can become out of date. The book is therefore sold on the understanding that no responsibility for errors and omissions is assumed, and no responsibility is held for the information held within.
Contents
Introduction

PART ONE-THE ART OF PUBLIC SPEAKING
Chapter 1-Public Speaking at Weddings and CP s
The person and the material
The Person
Why do we feel nervous?
Be prepared!
Key points from chapter 1.
Chapter 2-Presentation Skills-Hints on Style
Personal skills
Body Language
Vision
Developing a style
Formal presentations
Use of language
Body Language
Use of hands
Using facial expressions
Controlling your movements
Dress
Attitude
Formalities
Practicing presentations
Key Points from Chapter 2
Chapter 3-Effective Delivery
Presenting a speech
Posture and movement
Eye contact
Hand gestures
Facial expression
Expression
Pitch
Pace
Phrasing
Using a microphone
Presenting visual aids
Time for rehearsal
What to look for in rehearsal
Key points from chapter 3
Chapter 4-Dealing With Nerves
Perseverance in the face of fear
Fear of public speaking
Practical ways of controlling fear
General health
Chapter 5-Delivering Your Presentation
On the day
On the eve
Checking out the venue
Microphones
Appearance
Being sociable
Moments before your speech
Standing up to make your speech
The end
Key points from chapter 5
Chapter 6-Writing a Wedding/Civil Partnership Speech
Researching the speech
Writing the speech

PART 2 SPEECHES POEMS AND QUOTES
Chapter 7-Sample Wedding /CP Speeches and Toasts
Speeches generally
Father of the Bride or brother/sister /friend of the family
Father of the bride-Example 1
The Father of the Bride Wedding Toast
Brother of the bride-Example speech
Bridegrooms speech
Bridegroom -Example speech 1
The Groom's Wedding Toast
Bridegroom-Example speech 2
The Best Mans Speech
Best man-Example speech 1
The Best Man's Wedding Toast
Best man-Example speech 2
Brides Speech
Brides speech-Example speech 1
Bride s toast
Brides Speech-Example 2
Maid of Honour
Maid of Honour -Example speech1
Maid of honour-Example speech 2
Joint speeches
How to Give a Joint Wedding Speech
Explain why you re doing a joint speech
Tell your own stories
Tell a combined story
Keep it short and don't be corny
Keep the focus on the bride/groom
Be Creative
Writing a joint wedding speech, Bride and Groom
What to include
Making it personal
Choose your narrative
How to start writing
Practice makes perfect
Chapter 8-Poems for a Wedding/Civil Partnership
Chapter 9-Classic Quotes for a Wedding /CP
Chapter 10-Sample Wedding/Civil Partnership Jokes
Useful websites
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Introduction
Within the context of wedding planning, the formulation and delivery of wedding speeches by the various parties central to the wedding, such as the best man and groom, not to mention the father of the bride, play a small but very significant part in making sure that the big day goes well.
Since the advent of the Civil Partnership Act 2004, which became law in 2005, civil partnerships are part of the civil ceremonies that take place outside of church weddings. Although this book refers to wedding speeches, the speeches can also be adapted to suit a civil partnership, or at least the essence of the speeches.
In addition, The Marriage (Same Sex Couples) Act 2013, was passed on 17 July 2013, and the first marriages of same sex couples took place on Saturday 29 March 2014. Again, all the lessons laid out in this book, such as public speaking and delivering a presentation, are equally relevant. Also, the sample speeches at the end of the book can be adapted to suit.
Whatever the venue and occasion, speeches will play an important part of the day and this brief book is intended to provide invaluable advice and guidance to all of those who will be involved in preparing and delivering a speech at a wedding or civil partnership.
Who says what in wedding speeches
At conventional weddings, usually, the toastmaster and master of ceremonies will introduce the speeches at the end of the meal. The formal order of speakers is:
Father of the bride (or a close family friend)
The Groom
The best man
If the bride, chief bridesmaid, or guests want to speak, then they can do so. Although there is a recognised convention it is entirely up to the participants who does what and when. Traditionally, the speeches take place after the meal, but some couples decide to have them beforehand to allow the speakers to enjoy their meal free of nerves. Below are some tips for each of the speakers on what to include in the speech.
Father of bride
The Father of the Bride speech should be personal and heartwarming and should sound uplifting about his daughter and son-in-law s future. Your speech should begin by thanking the guests for attending and should acknowledge the Groom s parents whilst welcoming your new son-in-law to the family.
When preparing your speech, think about what you want to say to your daughter; it may include your bond with her, special memories of her as a child and watching her grow into the beautiful woman she is today. You can incorporate some funny anecdotes but be sure not to include anything that would embarrass her! If you know the Groom well, you can add a few stories of him too; however, he will get a lot of focus in the Best Man s speech so you can dedicate this time to your daughter.
You may want to talk about relationships and give some tips to the newly weds. Keep it light and avoid any pessimistic views from spoiling the occasion.
Groom
The Groom s wedding speech is made on behalf of himself and his Bride and uses the opportunity to personally thank the people involved in the wedding preparations. In his speech, he will toast the Bridesmaids and thank them for a job well done and will thank his groom s party for their support throughout. The Groom s speech should also include a special thank you to his parents and maybe even include some special memories with them.
Any family members or friends who could not attend the wedding should be remembered in the Groom s wedding speech.
As the Groom s speech comes before his Best Man s speech, he may wish to incorporate a few jokes and memories about his right-hand man! Another entertaining and sentimental part of the Groom s speech is when he shares his first encounter with his wife and how his life has changed because of it!
Best man
The best man wedding speech is usually the most eagerly awaited of all the wedding speeches. Traditionally the best man speech is the last that gives the groom the chance to get one or two quick jokes in at the best man s expense. This can be a dangerous game as the best man can always have a couple of extra stories for his speech up his sleeve if he feels the need for revenge.
When preparing your best mans speech remember to think about your audience, find out the mix of people attending and try to weave something for everyone into your speech. Aim for your speech to be about 5 minutes but no more than 10 minutes. You will find that your best man speech takes longer when you deliver it on the day once all the laughter and cheering is factored in.
Bride
Nowadays more Brides are keen to say a few words on their special day. It is here you can thank your guests for coming and say a special thank you to your wedding entourage. Without your family and friends, your day wouldn t have been the same. In your wedding speech you may want to acknowledge special friends and remember loved ones who aren t there with you on the day.
You can dedicate part of your Bride speech to thanking your parents for their support and for everything you have been through with them so far. You can include some special moments that you have shared with them that you hold dear to your heart and will cherish forever.
In your Bride speech you will want to say a special something to your new husband; maybe a special memory that you have when you first met, what was about him that made you fall in love with him and to tell him you are looking forward to the years ahead with him. Give him the recognition he deserves.
Maid of Honour/Best woman speeches
Speeches are not just for the men of the wedding party. Nowadays many ladies in the entourage like to say a few words and this is a great way to say a special thank you to the couple for asking you to play an important role on their special day. The Maid of Honour speech should be lighthearted and have just the right amount of sentiment to allow for some oohs and aaahs! The guests will love to hear some funny stories about the bride; maybe some anecdotes of when you grew up together or a special milestone that you both shared. Try to include poignant message; say something from the heart. This is a great time for you to tell the bride how much she means to you! You can include in your Maid of Honour speech a special note about the bride s parents and maybe a happy memory if you have a relationship with them.
In the Maid of Honour speech, you should thank the other Brid