AN ELEGANT MIND'S HANDBOOK

Paula Tozer

Description

Elegance is the natural expression of prosperity.  It is who you are before you think about it and decide otherwise. 

You were meant to live an elegant life!
In a 10-year span, I experienced a painful divorce as well as the deaths of 15 friends and family members.  I reached a point where I was left asking myself:  Where do I go from here?  Where is the hope in fighting a battle that never seems to end?  

That's when I gave up the fight and looked within for direction.

The rebuilding process began with one basic step...becoming friends with the one person who, no matter how high I climbed, or how far I ran, was always with me.  That person was me!  

Through the words of the part of me that I call my Constant Traveler, the most honorable, compassionate, and elegant part of me that I can possibly imagine, I found the answers that allowed me to rest, recover, and heal.

An invitation...
The 52 statements in An Elegant Mind's Handbook are the threshold to an open dialogue with your own Constant Traveler.  Allow the most honorable, compassionate, and elegant part of you to be revealed...

Then learn how to love what you see...

In this book, you will discover the benefits of:

• Living in the gap
• Cultivating a friendship with your Constant Traveler
• Embracing an Everything Gently mindset
• Living with Fearless Faith, Focus, and Fortitude
• Creating a personal Standard of Excellence

and so much more!

Through simple, effective practices, your Constant Traveler will remind you that elegance is pure living!

Sujets

• Santé et bien-être
• Confiance en soi et estime de soi
• Développement personnel
• développement personnel
• Compassion
• The Seeker
• Success
• Wisdom
• Psychology
• Self-help
• Healing
• Seeker
• Acceptance
• New Thought
• Body (disambiguation)
• Self-Esteem
• Personal Growth
• Confiance
• Confiance en soi

Informations

• Publié par: DeVorss & Company
• Date de parution: 20 octobre 2020
• Nombre de lectures: 0
• EAN13: 9780875169101
• Langue: English

Extrait

An Elegant Mind’s Handbook Copyright © 2020 by Paula D. Tozer
All rights reserved. No part of this book may be reproduced or transmitted in any form without permission in writing from the publisher, except by a reviewer who may quote brief passages for review purposes.
Library of Congress Catalog Number: 2020934113 First Printing, 2020
PRINT ISBN: 978-087516-909-5
EBOOK ISBN: 978-087516-910-1
DeVorss & Company, Publisher PO Box 1389 Camarillo CA 93012 www.devorss.com
Table of Contents
Preface
Elegance Is
Living in the Gap
An Elegant Mind
1. An Elegant Mind Loves Wide Open
2. An Elegant Mind Knows That Freedom from Limitation Is Attainable
3. An Elegant Mind Knows It May Forget to Remember Its Elegance from Time to Time
4. An Elegant Mind Recognizes Its Connection to the Wellspring of Inspiration
5. An Elegant Mind Recognizes the Inherent Dignity of All Living Beings
6. An Elegant Mind Does Not Resist Experience
7. An Elegant Mind Is Grateful That It Knows More Than It Did Yesterday
8. An Elegant Mind Realizes That an Open Heart Lets in More Sunlight
9. An Elegant Mind Knows It Is Always the Right Time to Begin Again
10. An Elegant Mind Recognizes That to Not Choose Is to Choose Nonetheless
11. An Elegant Mind Accepts That Life Is Change
12. An Elegant Mind Demonstrates That Kindness Is Natural
13. An Elegant Mind Knows That Kindness Is the Key to Lasting Happiness
14. An Elegant Mind Offers Peace through Ordinary, Day-to-Day Living
15. An Elegant Mind Creates Goals and Objectives
16. An Elegant Mind Does Its Best Each Day Without Comparing Itself to Others
17. An Elegant Mind Demonstrates Its Freedom by Honoring the Freedom of Others
18. An Elegant Mind Sets Its Boundaries by Teaching Others How to Treat It
19. An Elegant Mind Expresses Honesty with Regard to Its Endeavors and Accomplishments
20. An Elegant Mind Does Not Compete with Others or Desire What Others Have
21. An Elegant Mind Endorses That Which Is Truly Helpful
22. An Elegant Mind Governs Its Thoughts and Words with Wisdom
23. An Elegant Mind Does Not Accept Detours, Because It Is Always Arriving
24. An Elegant Mind Knows That What It Expects, It Asks for and Receives
25. An Elegant Mind Practices Letting Go
26. An Elegant Mind Does Not Indulge in Self-importance
27. An Elegant Mind Holds No Other Accountable for Its Experiences
28. An Elegant Mind Honors Its Teachers as the Source of Its Resourcefulness
29. An Elegant Mind Realizes That Perception Is Highly Subjective
30. An Elegant Mind Is Fore-Giving
31. An Elegant Mind Is Grateful
32. An Elegant Mind Knows That No Thought Is So Important That It Cannot Be Relinquished
33. An Elegant Mind Realizes That Life Is for Living
34. An Elegant Mind Appreciates the Prosperity of Others and Celebrates Its Own
35. An Elegant Mind Understands That Without the Courage to Fail, It Will Always Fail to Succeed
36. An Elegant Mind Realizes That Abundance Is Attracted to Its Welcome
37. An Elegant Mind Delights in Good Humor
38. An Elegant Mind Realizes That We Always Act in a Manner That Pleases Us
39. An Elegant Mind Is Comfortable with Discomfort
40. An Elegant Mind Recognizes the Value of What It Is to Be Human
41. An Elegant Mind Knows That Everyone Has Suffered Loss
42. An Elegant Mind Offers an Opinion Only After Thoughtful Deliberation
43. An Elegant Mind Maintains a Tranquil Disposition
44. An Elegant Mind Is an Open Mind
45. An Elegant Mind Maintains an Attitude of Appreciation Within as Well as Without
46. An Elegant Mind Sees the Extraordinary in the Ordinary
47. An Elegant Mind Knows That Taking the High Road Leads to the Most Beautiful Vistas
48. An Elegant Mind Accepts the Transitions of Life
49. An Elegant Mind Beholds the Mirror That Reflects Both the Pleasant and Unpleasant Aspects of Life
50. An Elegant Mind Knows That Silence Hears Its Own Voice
51. An Elegant Mind Knows That Its Best Life Teaching Is by Living Its Best Life
52. An Elegant Mind Knows That True Humility Means Being Honest About Its Weakness
Your Elegant Mind
Quotes
Resources
Preface
I believe that every person alive has elegance within. The creative impulse to explore, discover our personal potential, and expand our awareness is our birthright as human beings. We are worthy of this wonder, this exquisite elegance, simply by being born.
However, the vast majority of us have had our creative potential devalued to the point where we feel it is non-existent. We have been trained to believe the voice of fear and ignore the voice of our true nature.
So much loss, death, and turmoil in my life led me to a place where I felt I had nothing left to lose, so I decided to try something new.
With An Elegant Mind’s Handboo k, I ventured into my inner wilderness to discover my essential nature. I ignored the voice of fear and let my creativity take over. I began to practice what I now call contemplative writing. Nothing was taboo. The voice of my true nature provided a trail of words that led me to the Wellspring of Inspiration, a space of infinite possibility.
The voice of my true nature has become my Constant Traveler.
Fifteen years ago, I set out to become friends with my Constant Traveler.
She was always with me. If I hiked to the top of a mountain, she was there. Sunbathing on a beach in the Dominican Republic, she was there with me. As I worked and played and mothered, wife’d and sister’d and daughter’d, she was there. She was my constant companion.
Yep, she was me.
Fifteen years ago, I realized that I didn’t know myself very well at all, because I didn’t have a clue how to be her friend. However, I did know one thing how to abuse her. My inner voice was harsh. It bullied me. It guilt-tripped-me-up at every opportunity. It made me the Queen of Shoulda, Woulda, Coulda Land. My inner voice forced me to take everything personally.
There was one saving grace in my inner life the creativity that allowed me to dream. It kept the door to possibilities open just a crack, enough for me to receive what I began to understand as "flashes of brilliance."
One day, in a flash of brilliance, I realized that the harsh inner voice wasn’t my own. It sounded very much like what other people had said to me over the years. I was a bit freaked out by this revelation! Fascinated, I chose to examine this realization on a deeper level.
So I sat silently and listened, but not with my ears.… I listened with my heart. Compassion for the woman who is me began to fill me. My heart invited me to be curious, playful, excited, and passionate. An inner voice that sounded very much like my own invited me to write.
An interesting thing happened when I took up that invitation. The harsh voice that I thought was my own began to sound gentler and kinder. Her language changed too as I began to look at my beliefs, values, and assumptions with a gentle, open heart. It transformed into what I could only describe as elegant.
She is now my friend. I know her as my Constant Traveler the most compassionate, honorable, and elegant expression of me that I can imagine. I know now that through it all, she has always had my back. I had to stop talking and learn how to listen to her.
The commentary included in the statements of An Elegant Mind’s Handboo k are conversations with my Constant Traveler. They are as close to true as I can possibly come at this point in my life. I offer them to you for your consideration. You may agree. You may disagree.
That is not the point, as I see it. The point is to create a mind-spark, a moment of insight, that allows you to connect with your own Constant Traveler, and to examine what you believe and value from the perspective of your own elegant mind.
Out beyond ideas of wrongdoing and rightdoing there is a field. I’ll meet you there.
Rumi
That is where you and I connect. Elegance, our true nature, is the field where all minds become One.
Paula D. Tozer

Elegance Is…
Elegance is the natural expression of inner wealth. It is innate, universal, and observable. It is who you are before you have a chance to think about it and decide otherwise. Elegance is not learned. All things are made of it; it is a building block of being.
The expression of elegance is not limited to human beings but includes all beings and all things. Each possesses that which it is vibrant energy, natural flow, and authenticity. Elegance is demonstrated in a bird’s song, in the lithe, fluid movement of a mountain lion, within a gnarled, ancient apple tree standing stark against the sky. It is delivered by a mare’s tail cloud, by deep ocean waves crashing on a rocky shore, on the back of a neon green beetle that finds its way inside my house.
The interesting thing about elegance is that human beings are the only beings who forget to remember what is so blatantly obvious to all other aspects of nature. Nature knows, because elegance is pure living. Why is this? Perhaps because they don’t spend precious time considering an alternative, expending an extraordinary amount of energy attempting to persuade others of what they are not.
S ACRED S IMPLICITY …
Among other descriptors, the dictionary describes elegance as simplicity. It shows up as clean lines, clarity, and genuineness. It is not acquired or learned. It is intrinsic.
Our world is full of complexities, convolutions, and confusions. They catch us up in a cyclone of thoughts and emotions, and we never seem to touch down, to feel solid ground under our feet. It is scary stuff.
W OULDN’T IT BE NICE TO HAVE THAT CYCLONE CEASE ?
Consider those things you hold sacred in your life. I think that once you begin to look for them, you will find that they are quite basic. Holding the goal of simplicity in our minds can slow the whirlwind.
Elegance is the natural expression of a beautiful mind; it is the result of focused intention. It is demonstrated when we resist the temptation to "wallow