Emotional Freedom with No Fear, No Anger, and No Insecurity

Marvin Kistler

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There is an ancient belief that he who rules the self is greater than he who has captured a city. To rule the self, you have to have no fear, no anger, and no insecurities. In Emotional Freedom with No Fear, No Anger, and No Insecurity, over three dozen behaviors, tools, and skills are provided to help you achieve command of the self. You are not an emotionally free person until you have raised your level of consciousness to the extent that it allows you to control the thoughts that come into your mind. We may be advanced technologically, educationally, and intellectually, but we languish at a low, dysfunctional level of social development. The lack of acceptance we find in our social culture has impaired or damaged our self-worth. The opinions that we have of ourselves can have more of an impact on our lives emotionally, physically, mentally, and psychologically than anything else.A lack of understanding of our self has kept us in the dark about our real self. Gaining knowledge and discovering how we function in our relationship with our self and with others will open up a whole new realm and reveal a wealth of information.This enlightenment will allow you to take many different avenues and paths most suitable to you, and reveal answers and solutions about how you should live your life so that you can be the leader of the self who is in charge of the self.

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• Assertiveness

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• Publié par: Austin Macauley Publishers
• Date de parution: 28 février 2020
• Nombre de lectures: 0
• EAN13: 9781645364702
• Langue: English
• Poids de l'ouvrage: 1 Mo

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Emotional Freedom with No Fear, No Anger, and No Insecurity

Marvin Kistler
Austin Macauley Publishers
2020-02-28
Marvin Kistler About the Author Copyright Information © Part One Chapter 1 Chapter 2 Chapter 3 Chapter 4 Chapter 5 Chapter 6 Chapter 7 Chapter 8 Chapter 9 Chapter 10 Chapter 11 Part Two Chapter 12 Chapter 13 Chapter 14 Chapter 15 Chapter 16 Chapter 17 Chapter 18 Chapter 19 Chapter 20 Chapter 21 Chapter 22 Chapter 23 Chapter 24 Chapter 25 Chapter 26 Chapter 27 Chapter 28 Chapter 29 Chapter 30 Chapter 31 Chapter 32 Chapter 33 Chapter 34 Chapter 35 Chapter 36 Part Three Chapter 37 Chapter 38 Chapter 39 Chapter 40 Bibliography
About the Author
Marvin Kistler wrote  The Stranger Within , published in 1995, about the two halves of the brain and how they function and relate to everyday life. In 2008, he wrote  The War Between the Ego and You; The Internal Battles for Control of the Self .
He has a B.S. degree in education from Miami University in Oxford, Ohio; a B.S. degree in electrical engineering from South Florida University; one year of graduate school at the University of Mississipi in psychology and a Silver Life Master at duplicate bridge. He also dabbles in stand-up comedy at a local comedy club.
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Kistler, Marvin
Emotional Freedom with No Fear, No Anger, and No Insecurity
ISBN 9781641827492 (Paperback)
ISBN 9781641827508 (Hardback)
ISBN 9781645364702 (ePub e-book)
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Part One
Chapter 1
We are not instinctual creatures. We develop and learn from each other. To discover solutions to troubling problems, you need to have help, whether from parents, friends, books, etc. You need to learn the social and behavioral tools and skills that can assist you in coping with life’s daily challenges.
Emotional freedom allows you to handle any situation. It will let you feel comfortable under any condition. It will provide you with self-confidence that will empower you to take care of problematic circumstances. Emotional freedom will allow you to realize your full emotional growth as a complete, mature human being. When you become emotionally free, you’ll develop a disposition and character of merit that will transform you into someone whom others will find interesting, provocative, and inspiring.
We may be advanced technologically, educationally, and intellectually, but our culture functions at a superficial level of social development. “If all men are created equal,” then emotional freedom has the potential to make this famous saying a possibility. An egalitarian culture can raise the social development of a society to a very high functional level.
It is only with the emotional growth of the individual that we evolve as a group, as a community, or as a society. It will never happen from the top down. It can only happen from the bottom up.
The problem is, we have not had the guidance that would allow us to discover the many layers and the deep complexity of ourselves. And we have not been given the knowledge to enable us to be master of our emotions and, that would make us successful and achieve our intentions.
With help, you can thrive and achieve emotional growth to become a confident person who is free of fear, free of anger, and free of insecurities. Advice is given that will show you how you can be proficient at anything you wish. Copious behavioral skills are described to help you do this and to help you build relationships and friendships.
When troubles arise in a relationship, knowledge is provided to resolve those problems to establish a stable bond. You become an emotionally free person when you use these behavioral skills to achieve a mastery of yourself. To be a commander of the self is an aspiration you can acquire with knowledge and guidance.
The intention is to guide and explain the skills that will strengthen your character, to allow you to handle stressful conditions. This information will give you the confidence in yourself, so you can become a person who is emotionally free of stressful, emotional drama. You are not truly a free person until you have command of yourself. There is an adage that says, “He that rules the self is greater than he who captures a city.” You rule the self when you are free of fear, free of anger, and free of insecurities.
The more significant purpose of this book is to enable you to enhance your character, your rational, creative mind, and your personality to generate connections with others in a supportive environment.
This book should be reread because there will be changes to your approach, attitudes, beliefs, and ideas about what’s important in life so that each additional perusal will take on new and more significance understanding and meaning, that you will want to experience and live.
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The ego wants to control and rule you. It does that by keeping you distraught with undesirable difficulties like guilt, restlessness, boredom, regret, irritability, depression, fear, anger, and insecurity. Only the nuclei and neural pathways located in the limbic brain of the ego can create these negative emotions. (See the following illustration.) You, the conscience self, have no neural networks in your brain to generate these stressful feelings. When the ego’s thoughts are in your head, it takes control of your mind. The ego needs control of your brain before these stressful feelings can affect you. These disruptive effects disappear when you block the ego’s thoughts with the behavioral tools provided for you to use and practice.

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The hippocampus is your memory bank and acts as the neocortex of the ego’s limbic brain.1 , 2 . This separate brain of the ego means that it’s an independent entity. It has different beliefs and attitudes that are the very opposite of yours. The ego will manipulate you to fulfill its agenda and desires. Its greatest craving is to control you and to control others.
The ego wants to be the boss who dominates. It can do this as long as it remains incognito and hidden, so we are unaware and ignorant of its abilities and skillfulness to be in charge of us. If we were to try to investigate further to learn about our ego, the egos of many people would become scared, angry, or insecure which they may experience as extreme uneasiness. Any attempt to gain knowledge about their ego will usually result in agitation, stress, and tension to cause them to back away and avoid developing any knowledge about their ego. This routine is how the ego stays in command of our mind to create most of our problems and this way it continues to control of us.
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The ego has an obsessive-compulsive drive to be thinking all the time. When the ego’s thoughts are in your head, it takes over control of your mind with thoughts about the past or the future. Thoughts are important. Thoughts are things that describe who you are. For a thought to come from you, it takes exertion or work on your part. The ego’s thoughts come into the head without effort. When the ego is thinking, it takes command of the mind and its agenda and beliefs rule, as you become a bystander.
It is because the ego’s thoughts can occupy the mind so much of the time that the ego therefore believes that it is in control of the self. This realization leads the ego to believe that it is the one who should be in control and should be obeyed.
The ego is the most powerful and influential force in everybody’s lives. The reason people don’t investigate their ego is because of the thoughts the ego will put into their heads to make them avoid the subject of their ego; like, ‘Oh we don’t need to know this,’ or ‘This is boring, we are fine the way we are.’ These ideas and many others that come from the ego suppress any interest about itself, because the ego will go into an offensive mode to keep us from acquiring knowledge about itself.
Knowledge about itself is very threatening to the ego as it can undermine its position of authority and dominance. The more immature or socially dysfunctional a person is, the more power the ego exerts over him or her and the greater the danger the ego will experience. If that person were to investigate further, the ego would not put up with that behavior for one-second. The ego can have such significant power over this person that it can control his or her behavior. If the person does not obey, he or she will suffer the consequence of considerable fear, anger, and insecurity.
The ego can also interfere or hinder your ability to understand what you read about the ego. It does that by continually intruding with its thoughts to make you keep rereading threatening information about itself. Also, while reading this information, the ego will create feelings of impatience, boredom, or restlessness to influence you to just give up. So, the ego fights hard to keep information about itself away from you.
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The ego has tricked you into think