Holistic Success: How to Dance Through Life With the Abandon of a Child and the Skill of a Master

Kristen M. White, Robert Puff

Description

Sometimes it feels like we have two left feet. In one area of life or many, we stumble, get off-beat, and possibly even trip the "dancers" around us. In this book, we want to help you trade those two, tired, clumsy, left feet for the skilled, smooth movements of an expert dancer AND the carefree, spontaneity of a dancing child. Here's how:

* Covering each of the main areas needed for holistic success in life, including the mind, body, heart, relationships, work and finances;

* Explaining the 3 most critical tips for success in each area;

* Providing actual exercises for application and practice.

As two clinical psychologists who have lived, taught, and walked others through these places, we're ready to help you dance toward true holistic success and happiness today!

Sujets

• Santé et bien-être
• Bien-être émotionnel
• Bien-être émotionnel
• Développement personnel
• Bien-être
• Bien-être
• Bien-être
• Bien-être
• Personal Growth
• Self-help
• développement personnel

Informations

• Publié par: eBookIt.com
• Date de parution: 09 février 2014
• Nombre de lectures: 0
• EAN13: 9781456620028
• Langue: English

Extrait

Holistic Success:
How to Dance Through
Life with the Abandon
of a Child and
the Skill of a Master
 
 
by
Robert Puff, Ph.D. &
Kristen M. White, Psy.D.

 
 
 
Other Books by Robert Puff, Ph.D.
Reflections on Meditation: A Guide for Beginners
Success Beyond Your Imagination: Working in the Zone
Holistic Health
Getting it Right: A Guide to Healthy Relationships
How to Live a Positive Life
Living a Peaceful Life
Meditation for Health and Happiness
Raising Healthy Children and Teenagers
Spiritual Enlightenment: Awakening to the Supreme Reality
Anger Work: How to Express Your Anger and Still Be Kind
 
Visit www.doctorpuff.com for more!
 
 
Other Books by Kristen M. White, Psy.D.
R u red-e 4 conflict? Speaking Human in the Digital Age
Diet Free Forever: Level I – Mindful Eating (Audio Series & Workbook)
Diet Free Forever: Level II – Emotional Eating (Audio Series & Workbook)
Diet Free Forever: Level III – Obstacles to Health (Audio Series & Workbook)
 
Visit www.kristenmwhite.com for more!

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Copyright © 2013 Robert Puff & Kristen M. White
 
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To all those who are seeking a holistic, healthy, and happy life…even when this means going against the grain. And to all who have helped us to get there.
Introduction
Sometimes it feels like we have two left feet. We step out onto the dance floor, hoping we are ready to move around the floor with ease and grace…only to end up stepping on our partners’ toes or dancing completely out-of-sync with the music and the rest of the group. We may lack skill, coordination, or even balance. Whatever the reason, our dancing is stilted and off—at best creating a little embarrassment, at worst causing us to knock over the dancers (or even furniture!) around us.
If it’s just dancing, we can probably handle it by avoiding the party—or at least the dance floor. But what if we have two left feet in life ? What if, despite our best intentions and efforts, we seem to move through life in much the same way—stepping on our partners’ toes, getting off-beat, embarrassing ourselves, and perhaps even creating disaster in our wake? We can’t very well avoid the party of life, and we probably don’t want to live out our days sipping drinks, alone, in the corner of the room. Having two left feet in life is a little more problematic.
And yet, many, many people experience having two left feet in life. Sometimes it’s just in one area—maybe they dance with grace and ease at work, but they constantly step on their partner’s (or kids’ or friends’) toes at home. Alternatively, maybe they are in perfect sync with their partners, but they seem to be leaving a disaster in their wake financially. For other people, it’s all of these areas and more. Some people seem to have two left feet throughout life—stepping on people’s toes relationally, feeling off-beat professionally or emotionally, knowing they are out-of-shape mentally and physically, and leaving disaster behind them financially. Phew! What then? Whether we have two left feet in one area or many, must we then avoid the dance floor of life?
Dancing with Ease and Grace
Not at all! The good news today is we can learn to dance with ease, grace, and fluidity through all areas of life. We can actually replace the laborious, boring, and even stressful ways we usually stumble clumsily from alarm clock to exhaustion through our days. In fact, we can trade in those two left feet for the skilled, smooth movements of an expert dancer. In addition, we can trade in those two, worn down, tired feet for the spontaneity, playfulness, freedom, and all-out-abandon of a dancing child. Yes, that’s right—dancing with ease and grace through life combines the skill of a master and the abandon of a free-spirited child.
Let’s look a little more at the master first. The master is an expert dancer. He’s learned and honed how to move everything from his feet to his hips, staying in sync with the music and his partner(s). In other words, he’s really good at his craft. In life, this means that he’s really good at living. He knows how to keep his body in shape and deal with difficult emotions or circumstances when they arise. He also has thriving, intimate relationships with all sorts of people. What’s more, he has a job he truly enjoys and stability in his finances. In other words, he’s good at living. Yes, that’s right—he’s not just good at work or staying in shape; this holistically successful man clearly has skill on the dance floor of life.
What’s more, he enjoys living. And for this, it’s not enough to simply be a skilled dancer. Simply imagine a dancer who knows the right moves but engages them without any passion. The dance would probably look rather flat and stale. Dancers look better when they put their whole heart and soul into the moment, feeling the song and enjoying the movement. In this sense, dancers are at their best when they are like a little four-year-old, moving her body freely to the music. She’s spontaneous, playful, and full of abandon. She’s not worried about how she looks or whether she’s doing it right—she’s simply enjoying the moment. It behooves us to also learn a thing or two from this child, thus enabling us to infuse our dance through life with pleasure, life, and vitality.
Hence, dancing with ease, grace, and fluidity through life combines the skill of the master with the abandon of the child. In fact, it involves being so skilled that the moves become second nature; then we can throw up our arms like the free-spirited child and simply spin in crazy, glorious circles. In life, this means that we can look great and have fantastic results…without feeling like we are working hard all the time. We can actually move with a combination of great skill and utter, free-spirited enjoyment.
Preparing for the Number Ahead
So this all sounds great, but how do we actually trade in our two, left, tired feet for the talented, free-spirited feet in the dance of life? First of all, we have to learn new skills. We know this instinctively if we are thinking about starting or improving upon a job or hobby. In order to be good at it, we have to learn and refine our skills. For example, if we want to learn to play tennis or even just improve our game, we take lessons, acquiring new skills and honing other ones in everything from our serve to our backhand. Although this is obvious with tennis, we often think (or at least act like) these skills should just come naturally in life. We believe that we should just know how to communicate well with others, even during conflict. We act like we’ll simply “fall into” a career we love and automatically find success. And, of course, handling our emotions will come easily no matter what life throws our way. Right?? As we discover when life starts to go amiss, this really isn’t the case. Just like any job or hobby, we often have to learn and hone our life skills too.
Of course, it isn’t enough to just know about something. We could learn all about tennis swings out of a book or via the internet, without actually improving our game at all. Why? Because it’s different to know something in our head and to know it in our lives. In order to acquire new life skills, we have to learn about them and practice them. Yes, that’s right, we said practice . Unlike most books, this one is not here to just provide information. We will provide a lot of great information, but we know that getting results—in a sport, job, or life skill—requires application and practice. The expert dancer both learns and practices, and so shall we.
As we said, though, we don’t want to become skilled experts without heart. Like the child, we want to enjoy the dance of life, moment-by-moment along the way. The fact of the matter is that it is good to seek mastery, but true happiness and holistic success require us to be present now. It turns out that the process is as important as the destination , and being good at life doesn’t necessarily mean doing it perfectly all the time. Instead, we must learn to balance our strivings for mastery with the ability to simply enjoy the journey today. Like that child dancing with abandon, being able to engage fully in the present moment allows us to experience and enjoy now, infusing our life with pleasure, life, and vitality.
As a result, this book does two things. First, it combines information and practice about developing the skills of a master. Yes, we’ll provide both information about e