Internet Dating & How to Make This Experience More Enjoyable and Successful

Robin Lapointe

Description

This book was written to make your Online Dating experience a more enjoyable and successful one. To save you time and energy in finding your match quickly and to filter out the bad apples right from the start.

I had many years of personal Online Dating experience, unlike many other authors who never, or who had done minimal personal Online dating before. This book will save you time and frustration by learning how to identify scammers; learn about what different body language means; preparing and the do's and don'ts of the first important date; how to know after the date if they are interested or not; how to write a profile that will only attract the "right people"; how to identify "red flags"; the famous Chemistry question; how not to waste your time; a handy work table to keep track of your dating prospects; some key questions to ask; many important tips on how to increase your success odds, and how to make this entire process more fun, rewarding and less painless than it really needs to be..

This book in NOT your typical Online Dating book. It's not just about the mechanics, but more about using some of my vast experience on the human side, of making this process a more pleasurable one, regardless of what gender you are or searching for...

Please pick up this book and you can start now making your next Online Dating experience a more enjoyable, quick and easy one..

Sujets

• Self-help

Informations

• Publié par: eBookIt.com
• Date de parution: 29 septembre 2013
• Nombre de lectures: 0
• EAN13: 9781456619862
• Langue: English

Extrait

Internet Dating
&
How to make this experience
more enjoyable and successful
 
 
by
Robin Lapointe
 
edited by
Danielle Stoia

Copyright 2013 Robin Lapointe,
All rights reserved.
 
 
Published in eBook format by eBookIt.com
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ISBN-13: 978-1-4566-1986-2
 
 
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Preface
My name is Robin. I was married for 12 years and then one day, I found myself divorced and single again. For the past 10 years I have been Internet dating using several different sites. During these years I have had the pleasure of meeting amazing, smart and interesting women who have helped me become a better person today. I discovered that most individuals using online dating services are serious and good people with the right intentions. Yes, there are also some bad apples out there; however I had made and kept many new and great friendships from this.
 
I’m writing this guide from my personal experiences along with others' who have also used Internet dating sites. In doing so, I want to share some tips and pieces of advice on how to navigate a dating site and how to identify some of the pitfalls. I hope you will learn from my mistakes and understand what worked well for me. It will save you from spending hours and first dates, trying to figure out this whole Internet dating experience.
 
To spare you from spending the next ten years looking for Mr. or Ms. Right. I will try to help you narrow your search down and help you find them sooner rather than later. I will give you tips on how to create a stronger profile for maximum results while weeding out the “scammers” and the people who are not a match for you. I will give you tips for your first date, how to tell someone that you are or are not interested after the first date, and tips on how to improve your dating success odds. Although I have written this book from a man's perspective, in my opinion, my tips and pieces of information will help both genders: Men because they will probably relate to my ideas strongly, and women because most of my advice has no gender bias and they will learn more about how a man thinks and acts, when it comes to dating, the first date, and Internet dating in general.
 
My goal is for you to take my 10 years of Internet dating experience and to try to apply it wherever you see fit. Perhaps my experiences will help you find a solution to a problem or to at least help keep your eyes open to see what’s really going on with your date. Love can sometimes be blind. I hope that by reading this guide you will be able to find your perfect match and to ultimately fall in love like I have. I got engaged to a beautiful lady who I had met online and I had met so many others there worthy of “forever”. I never had a problem meeting the right people online by using my techniques, except, from time to time I encountered the uncontrolled power of the ‘chemistry’ thing…
Introduction
Welcome to Internet dating:
 
Not so long ago, in a world without computers, your options to meet people were limited to chance or to family, friends or acquaintances setting you up. I have found that most friends hesitate to set you up, just in case it won't work out. Chances are you're on your own to meet someone and the prospects of identifying potential dates are somehow slimmer once you become single. I'm certain you have the impression there are more people who look like potential dating options for you when you're dating.
Most of us are working and have a busy life, so where do we meet Mr. or Ms. Right? "Forget the bars!" people say. This is why Internet dating is so popular today and growing all the time. I’m going to show you what I believe to be the pros and cons of Internet dating and give you some advice on how to make this experience more enjoyable and successful.
 
I recommend Internet dating if you have exhausted all other avenues. You have asked your friends, been to clubs, joined the gym, etc. Many people frown at the thought of Internet dating. They assume you are desperate, that it’s dangerous, unnatural, and individuals on dating sites are perverts and just looking for sex. Well, like everywhere else, these weird people do exist and you have to keep a look out for them. Talking about the experience, I find there is little difference between meeting someone through an Internet dating site or by simply meeting for the first time in person by "accident" or by "chance". Let’s compare the two scenarios.
 
By meeting someone unexpectedly, by "accident" or by "chance", you have the opportunity to immediately see if there is any chemistry between you two. One advantage of this situation over Internet dating is the physical aspect of the experience. You can hear the voice, see the smile, determine if there is a physical attraction. From my experience, I find the two scenarios similar, however, I believe it is even better through Internet dating, and let me explain why.
 
So, you meet someone in a grocery store, and you start talking. What’s your name? Have any children? None. What do you do for a living? Engineer. Where do you live? In town. I go to the gym three times a week; never married and been out of a relation for the past year. Normally, it ends with a cell phone number or email address to keep everything safe. Then you say good bye and you are both on your way. Now was this encounter more trustworthy, true and safe than meeting a person you met online? I believe not. You just met a stranger in a store and he/she may be married with three kids, on welfare, homeless, have another name, not unlike the person you meet online. This person could also be a pervert, a liar, cheat, alcoholic, drug user etc. The reality is after this first "chance" encounter, you will know if you're physically attracted to them, but truly not very much more.
 
Let's take a look at the same conversation through Internet dating asking all the same questions. Guess what, all the answers are the same. There is no difference in information. Internet dating is not so far out there as you may think. It’s just like meeting someone in the street but in this case, you meet them online.
One great advantage of Internet dating is that by reading a person’s profile you often find out much more about the person than you could ever get during a short chance encounter. You can find about what they like to do, where they’ve travelled to, if they have children or not, their general income (if they are willing to divulge it) their education level, etc., and also what they are looking for in a relationship. In my case, one of the most important things that I was looking for in a profile was how well the person expressed themselves. Did they give one word answers? Did they write eloquently and with style and personality? The way a person communicates through writing is sometimes an indicator of how they communicate in general and -if you read carefully- also gives you an instant view of their personality, beliefs, intellect level etc.
Chapter 1. Creating your Profile
To start on this adventure, you have to create a strong profile first, as a way to introduce yourself to others and to attract the right people to you. While each Internet dating site is slightly different, here are some of the typical categories you may have to complete on an average dating site. All internet dating sites are different but they will all invariably have categories like these:
 
What kind of relationship are you searching for?
 
You have to choose the dating category that best suits what you’re looking for. For example “dating” or "looking for a relationship". If you’re not ready for a relationship and looking to just have fun, then the “dating” category is right for you. However, if you’re searching for a serious relationship, then the “relationship” section is the one to be in. You will be wasting your time searching by selecting the wrong category. Chances are you will become frustrated and disappointed finding people who are not interested or as ready as you are.
 
Trying to date someone with the ultimate goal of starting a "relationship", when the person is not ready for that level of commitment, is not a fun experience.
 
*It is possible to have your profile in both dating and relationship categories. But this may be unfair to people who get involved with you, hoping that you are on the same wavelength as you.*
 
 
1.1. Marital Status
 
Be honest. If you're married, separated, single etc., your status is what it is. Lying about it will burn you soon enough so why waste your and someone else's time. If someone is separated, do be careful. From my experience, separation from a spouse after years of being a couple is hard to get used to and you may find yourself, inadvertently, being their “rebound or transition” person. In these cases, I suggest you ask them how long they have been separated. It is always a good idea to find out if they are living on their own, and maybe ask them when their divorce will be final. If they are living alone and are actively working on their divorce, (you have a timeline), and you are not the first person to date them since their break-up, your chances of success are better. If not, I suggest you make sure your relationship goals are in line with the other person's, to avoid heartbreak. Someone who is not in the process of divorcing shows me a big red flag. They may have unresolved issues.
 
*My opini