Living with Your Heart Wide Open

Steve Flowers, Bob Stahl

Description

The way we talk to ourselves is often unkind and filled with self-judgments. These overly harsh self-criticisms can make us feel unworthy and incomplete. What if what you really need is not higher standards for yourself, but greater self-compassion? In Living with Your Heart Wide Open, you’ll discover how mindfulness and self-compassion can free you from the thoughts and beliefs that create feelings of inadequacy and learn to open your heart to the loving-kindness within you and in the world around you.

Based in Western psychotherapy and Buddhist psychological principles, this book guides you past painful and self-limiting beliefs about yourself and toward a new perspective of nonjudgmental awareness and acceptance of who you are, just as you are. You’ll receive gentle guidance in mindfulness and compassion practices that will lead you away from unproductive, self-critical thoughts and help you live more freely and fearlessly, with your heart wide open.

Sujets

• Assertiveness

Informations

• Publié par: New Harbinger Publications
• Date de parution: 01 janvier 0001
• Nombre de lectures: 0
• EAN13: 9781572249363
• Langue: English

Extrait

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L iving with Your HeartWidepen O • how mindfulness & compassion can free you from unwor thiness, inadequacy & shame

Steve Flowers, MFT Bob Stahl, PhD

New Harbinger Publications, Inc.

Publisher’s Note

This publication is designed to provide accurate and authoritative information in regard to the subject matter covered. It is sold with the understanding that the publisher is not engaged in rendering psychological, financial, legal, or other professional services. If expert assistance or counseling is needed, the services of a competent professional should be sought.

Distributed in Canada by Raincoast Books

Copyright © 2011 by Steve Flowers and Bob Stahl New Harbinger Publications, Inc. 5674 Shattuck Avenue Oakland, CA 94609 www.newharbinger.com

Cover design by Amy Shoup Text design by Michele Waters-Kermes Acquired by Jess O’Brien Edited by Jasmine Star

All Rights Reserved

Library of Congress Cataloging in Publication Data on file Flowers, Steve.  Living with your heart wide open : how mindfulness and compassion can free you from unworthiness, loneliness, and shame / Steve Flowers and Bob Stahl ; foreword by Tara Brach.  p. cm.  Includes bibliographical references.  ISBN 978-1-57224-935-6 (pbk.) -- ISBN 978-1-57224-936-3 (pdf e-book) 1. Attitude (Psychology) 2. Self-perception. 3. Self-confidence. I. Stahl, Bob. II. Title.  BF327.F56 2011  158.1--dc22  2011012534

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Becomîng Rea

Creaîng a Mînduness Pracîce

1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8

ïnroducîon

vîî îx 1 7 27 51 69 89 107 129 151 169 175

Contents

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ooîng Beînd e Curaîn o Se

Coosîng How You oo a hîngs

Awaenîng o Wîsdom and Compassîon

Openîng o ovîng-Kîndness

Resources Reerences

Openîng o Se-Compassîon

Foreword Acnowedgmens

he Fîcîon o Me

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Foreword

he greaes rus are oo oten orgoTen. hîs boo cas us bac o one a îs cenra o our appîness: ï we canno embrace our own rîgened and vunerabe ears, we canno ove our word. Sady, we are oten a war wî ourseves. More îmes an ï can recoun, peope ave sared wî me e paîn o eîr core beîes. “Someîng îs basîcay wrong wî me,” ey e me. “ï don’ ee wory o ove.” One woman capured er paîn în a way a reay sruc me: “ï am a dîsgrace,” se saîd wî a mîx o dîsgus and sorrow. ha word, “dîsgrace”—ou o e low o grace—speaks o e sou suferîng o eeîng înadequae, asamed, or îsoaed. Wen we ave urned on ourseves în ars judgmen and dîsîke, we ose access o our own naura îneîgence, and we are cu of rom our înnae ender- ness and openness. A a we ong or—înîmacy wî oers, peace o mînd, eeîng uy aîve—îs ou o reac. Lîvîng wî You Hea Wîde Openofers a îme-onored ye vîbran paway or eaîng îs core suferîng o se-aversîon. Seve Fowers and Bob Sa are bo dedîcaed, ongîme pracîîoners o medîaîon and aened, wîse mînduness eacers. Wî grea carîy and compas- sîon, ey înroduce e prîncîpes and pracîces o mînduness medîa- îon în a way a îs învîîng and accessîbe. heîr sorîes sow us a deep emoîona eaîng îs possîbe, and eîr exercîses and medîaîons aow us o engage dîrecy în înner ransormaîon. For anyone wo îs commîTed o openîng beyond e rance o unworîness, îs book