Our Hearts and Minds Together

Serafin Talisayon

Description

Success in life and work is affected more by EQ than IQ. This book offers you practical exercises to hone your emotional skills.
As the pandemic was raging in 2021 and wreaking emotional havoc on many people, the author was inspired to start writing a practical self-help book on emotional intelligence. He posted a picture of himself on Facebook with a wall of beautiful flowers behind him. The caption was a quote from singer John Denver, “sunshine on my shoulders keeps me happy.” It received nearly 400 likes/loves. There is a deep yearning for happiness. He then invited his Facebook friends to help him draft the book.
This book is the product of three months of intense and exciting co-creation among twenty people. They helped by commenting, drafting paragraphs or chapters, editing, contributing their photographs, contributing their stories and experiences, planning social media marketing, and helping with the book launching on 14 February 2022. They felt a Guiding Hand and a Purpose behind them. The co-creators of this handbook hope that you, dear readers, will feel it too.

Sujets

• Ecualizador
• Self-help
• EQ

Informations

• Publié par: Balboa Press
• Date de parution: 20 mars 2023
• Nombre de lectures: 0
• EAN13: 9798765238790
• Langue: English
• Poids de l'ouvrage: 7 Mo

Extrait

Our Hearts and Minds Together
 
A Practical Handbook in Emotional Intelligence
 

 
Serafin D. Talisayon
 
Copyright © 2023 Serafin D. Talisayon.
 
All rights reserved. No part of this book may be used or reproduced by any means, graphic, electronic, or mechanical, including photocopying, recording, taping or by any information storage retrieval system without the written permission of the author except in the case of brief quotations embodied in critical articles and reviews.
 
 
 
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ISBN: 979-8-7652-3878-3 (sc)
ISBN: 979-8-7652-3879-0 (e)
 
Library of Congress Control Number: 2023902201
 
 
 
Balboa Press rev. date:  03/14/2023
 
 
 
 
 

Contents
Photo Credits
Foreword
Preface
Acknowledgments
Prologue
Origins of EI Competencies
1―Doorway to EI: Self-Awareness
1.1―Internal Attention
1.2―Rate Yourself
1.3―Watching an Emotion
1.4―Sharpening Emotional Awareness with Pictures
1.5―Budgeting Attention
1.6―Choiceless Awareness
1.71―Soul Moments
1.8―We Are Soul-Spirits
A Story: Good or Bad?
2―Emotional Self-Control
2.1―Awareness Creates Choices
2.2―Ways to Avoid or Reduce Stress
2.3―Manage Fear
2.4―Discover Your Emotion Triggers
2.5―Make Your Gratitude List
2.6―Letting Go
A Story: Head or Heart?
3―Adaptability
3.1―Go Outside of Your Comfort Zones
3.2―“No JONEs”
3.3―Crisis = Risk + Opportunity
3.4―Dealing with Uncertainties
3.5―Learning is Forever
4―Achievement Orientation
4.1―Your Innate Creative Pathway
4.2―Shifting Your Locus of Control
4.3―Motivating Yourself
4.4―Final Achievements
4.5―Treasures in Heaven
4.6―Be Inspired
5―Positive Outlook
5.1―Manage External Triggers
5.2―Boost Your Immune System with Love and Cheerfulness
5.3―Acceptance of Death
5.4―Produce Happiness Hormones
5.5―Your Positive Quiet Moments
5.6―What is Love?
5.7―Emotional Guidance Scale
5.8―Improve Your Self-Image
5.9―Move Toward Soul-Spirit
6―Empathy
6.1―200 Percent Listening
6.2―Free Yourself from Mental Fences
6.3―Two-Way Forgiveness
6.4 ―Pakikipagkapwa-tao or Ubuntu
6.5―From Soul-Spirit to Soul-Spirit
6.6―Tuning in to Your Spirit Guides
6.7―Friendship with God
7―Organizational Awareness
7.1―Systems Awareness
7.2―Sensing Group Dynamics
7.3―Group Assessments
7.4―Sensing Power Relations
7.5―Look for Bridgers and Linkers
7.6―Idiosyncratic Language
7.7―Sensing Group Ba
7.8―Sensing Social Needs
A Story: Social Awareness without Self-Awareness
8―Coach and Mentor
8.1―What is Your Motive?
8.2―Be a Conscious Model
8.3―Storytelling
8.4―Carpenter or Gardener?
8.5―Using Demonstration and Practice
8.6―Helping Mentees Improve their Self-Image
8.7―Peer Sharing and Co-Learning
8.8―Process Partnering
9―Teamwork
9.1―Co-Creating Shared Realities
9.2―Shared Ends and Means
9.3―Growing Group Ba
9.4―Team Learning
9.5 ―Dugtungan
9.6―Generative Dialogue
A Story: The Envious Body Parts
10―Conflict Management
10.1―Define Your Role
10.2―Perceptions, Facts, and Root Causes
10.3―Verify Interests and Non-Negotiables
10.4―The Way of Abraham
10.5―Implement a Sustainable Solution
10.6―Bridging Leadership
11―Influence
11.1―Sales Talk
11.2―Championing a Cause
11.3―Motivation 101: “Pat in the Back”
11.4―Motivation 102: Teach Ikigai
11.5―Motivation 103: Coaching on Finding One’s Life Mission
12―Inspirational Leadership
12.1―Inner Work
12.2 ―Pamathalaa n and Rhema
12.3―Group Vision
12.4―Inclusive Leadership
12.5―Consensual Discernment
12.6―Co-Creation
12.7―Empower Your Team
12.8―Yeshua’s Model of Leadership
Our Journey Just Begins
 
Our Hearts and Minds Together:
A Practical Handbook in Emotional Intelligence
Serafin D. Talisayon
Editor
Alan Salces Cajes
Co-Creators
Maria Theresa G. Cabigon, Alan Salces Cajes,
Ronald A. Camit, Mark Gabriel Castilan, Graciela P. Cuchapin,
Manuel R. del Rosario, Sheila Marie M. Encabo, Sylvia M. Encabo,
James Paul H. Esguerra, Frederick Garcia, Ma. Edna L. Guevara,
Amy Laspiñas, Angelina B. Mallanao, Ramon Lino Nasol,
Catherine Rose Pascual Pacia, Dr. Pauline Quimson, Milagros Aro Rimando, Jett Molech G. Subaba, and Vivien M. Talisayon
Inspirational Pictures with Quotes
Sheila Marie M. Encabo
Infographics
Mark Gabriel Castilan
Photo Credits
The author acknowledges with gratitude the following friends, as well as friends of friends. They generously gave their permission to use the many photographs, infographics, and images that enriched this handbook.
Sheila Marie M. Encabo 1 , Gabriel Castilan (instagram.com/theidealgab/) 2
Achilles Costales 3 , Angelina Mallanao 4 , Elias T. Tojos 5 , Ma. Edna Guevara 6
Marck Abias (instagram.com/mqrck/) 7 , Isah Jade (instagram.com/isah.jade/) 8 , PJ Ibasco (instagram.com/pjibasco/) 9
Carlo Madayag (instagram.com/mad_eye_egg/) 10
Ken Pacis (instagram.com/kenpacis/) 11
The author acknowledges with thanks Designrr (go2.designrr.io) for the use of the image of the step pyramid within the human head in the book cover. The author is a subscriber of Designrr and as such is allowed the use of this image from its book cover selections. The same is true for the book cover image in chapter 8.3, and the third and fourth book cover thumbnails in the Prologue. The first thumbnail in the Prologue is the cover of a book I wrote and published earlier by Balboa Press; I acknowledge with thanks Balboa Press. The second thumbnail in the Prologue is the cover of a book commission by CCLFI to the artist Oleen Joyce B. Florendo.
Foreword
Two years of pandemic and being quarantined at home make us graduates of our Master in Survival and Resilience. In the next few months, you will be conferred your doctoral degree in due time. But the question remains: are we going back to Normal? This is no longer an important question to ask.
The question we must ask is this: what will you do tomorrow, next week, next month, or next year? The future is not clear, complicated, and unpredictable, and it is moving fast forward. (The VUCA world as we call it). There is probably an underlying trend worse than the pandemic―the mental and emotional health state in all of us. Many people are facing a lot of mental and emotional health issues that require self-healing or self-care. There is also an undetermined number of people who might need guidance from professionals and life coaches.
This handbook on emotional intelligence is very timely. It can serve emotionally distressed individuals and the professional life coaches helping them. I am pleased that CCLFI―the Community and Corporate Learning for Innovation―had sponsored this handbook.
I have worked for a big healthcare company for over two decades, and for many years before I retired, I headed its Human Capital Management Department (the latest name for Human Resources Department). From this perspective, I strongly recommend this book for several reasons.
First, it is centered on the concept of the unity of the Heart and Mind. In most corporate set up for training and development programs, the focus is on the acquisition of technical competence of the learners, but today, the non-technical aspects of training or what we often call the “soft skills” are now considered essential.
The latest trend in team coaching, particularly the advocates of the Shared Leadership Discipline and the use of ARL (Action-Reflection Tools), has emphasized that team development must put at the center the emotional skills of the members for them to become a high-performing team and greatly impact the organization in which they belong.
Second, the whole person is both body and spirit, and what I love in this handbook is that it anchors learning emotional competencies on the solid foundation of spirituality. This handbook addresses the gap that is lacking in most human resources programs and learning and development (L&D) frameworks.
Third, the application of learning is permanent if it is experiential and practiced regularly by learners. This mode of learning is considered more effective than just listening to a lecture or reading a book. At the Philippine Society for Talent Development, we apply the use of experiential learning in our instructional design (70-20-10 model) and our certification program for the master’s training course.
And finally, the best part of this book is that it is a product of real-life experiences being told in a story, co-shared, co-created, and co-designed by the group, which makes this handbook very insightful to read and re-read. It is meant to be shared with others. I have been myself a co-sharer and co-designer of an earlier book of the author and my dear friend and mentor Serafin (or Apin). I commend each member of the group who made this handbook possible, a real product of teamwork and co-creation. Congratulations on walking your talk.
I highly recommend this handbook to all leaders and coaches who be