Summary of Beatrice Chestnut & Uranio Paes's The Enneagram Guide to Waking Up

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Please note: This is a companion version & not the original book.
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#1 One was a person who came into this world as a spontaneous child ready to appreciate the inherent perfection of life. He felt free to experience joy and fun in everything he did. But he had a painful experience of feeling criticized, and as a result, he developed an ability to notice and correct his own errors.
#2 One became completely deadened to any real sense of himself. He fell asleep to his own inherent goodness, which was revealed in his good intentions and genuine desire to be a good person. He could only keep following the rules and working hard to meet the highest standards.
#3 If you are a Type 1 personality, you have a harsh inner critic that monitors what you do and operates most of the time. You are sensitive to criticism from others, and you naturally sort perceptions into good or bad, right or wrong.
#4 If you are a Type 1, the first step on your path of awakening is to learn to observe yourself more consciously. This means developing the ability to notice your specific habits of judging yourself and others, without judging yourself for judging.

Sujets

• Inspiration
• personal Growth

Informations

• Publié par: Everest Media LLC
• Date de parution: 27 mai 2022
• Nombre de lectures: 0
• EAN13: 9798822524750
• Langue: English
• Poids de l'ouvrage: 1 Mo

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Insights on Beatrice Chestnut & Uranio Paes's The Enneagram Guide to Waking Up
Contents Insights from Chapter 1 Insights from Chapter 2 Insights from Chapter 3 Insights from Chapter 4 Insights from Chapter 5 Insights from Chapter 6 Insights from Chapter 7 Insights from Chapter 8 Insights from Chapter 9
Insights from Chapter 1

#1

One was a person who came into this world as a spontaneous child ready to appreciate the inherent perfection of life. He felt free to experience joy and fun in everything he did. But he had a painful experience of feeling criticized, and as a result, he developed an ability to notice and correct his own errors.

#2

One became completely deadened to any real sense of himself. He fell asleep to his own inherent goodness, which was revealed in his good intentions and genuine desire to be a good person. He could only keep following the rules and working hard to meet the highest standards.

#3

If you are a Type 1 personality, you have a harsh inner critic that monitors what you do and operates most of the time. You are sensitive to criticism from others, and you naturally sort perceptions into good or bad, right or wrong.

#4

If you are a Type 1, the first step on your path of awakening is to learn to observe yourself more consciously. This means developing the ability to notice your specific habits of judging yourself and others, without judging yourself for judging.

#5

You put pressure on yourself to meet high standards, and this can lead to tension or procrastination when nothing ever seems good enough. You focus on imperfection and generate a negative attitude about life. You may make people feel criticized or judged.

#6

You may become angry when people don't follow the rules the way you think they should or adhere to your standards of correct behavior. You may tend to be rigid concerning ethics, morals, and work.

#7

You may work too hard and find it difficult to make time for relaxation. You may have forgotten or ignored the early experiences that made you feel as if you had to suppress your desires. Notice if you conform to a set of unquestioned rules, but don’t fully realize how stressful it feels to hold yourself to such high standards.

#8

When you do eventually allow yourself to express feelings and instinctual reactions, you do so with a lot of self-criticism and self-blame. When you notice that your anger is leaking out as partially repressed feelings like irritation, frustration, annoyance, or self-righteousness, notice if you are judging emotions as unproductive or inappropriate.

#9

Anger is the primary emotion of Type 1s. It often manifests as a preoccupation with self-judgment and striving to be good. They try not to be aware of their anger, and when they can't change things to be more just, more perfect, or ideal, they become irritated.

#10

The two types adjacent to Type 1 on the Enneagram circle are Types 2 and 9. By reaching toward the healthy qualities of Type 9, Type 1s can become more adaptable and learn to relax. By integrating the positive traits of Type 2, they become more adept at relationships.

#11

The second stage of the Type 1 growth journey is about acknowledging and owning your tendency to punish yourself and repress your emotions. You must realize that your focus on doing things right and improving everything can be a bad habit.

#12

If you are a Type 1, try to be more aware of and counteract your key Type 1 unconscious patterns, blind spots, and pain points. Lessen your focus on listening to your inner critic and find ways to stop judging yourself and others.

#13

If you are a Type 1, you may hold on to the illusion that perfection is possible and desirable, and then you may criticize yourself for all the inevitable ways you fall short and fail to get it right when trying to meet those impossible standards.

#14

If you avoid feeling or expressing your anger, you are likely to have a blind spot when it comes to it. You may repress your anger and release it in repressed forms like irritation, tension, stiffness, frustration, and self-righteousness.

#15

You can integrate this blind spot by observing yourself when you are self-critical. Notice how your stress level increases, and allow yourself to feel the hurt you are inflicting on yourself. Ask someone you trust if they have ever felt criticized by you, and how that made them feel.

#16

To better understand your blind spots, do something you consider to be bad or break a rule. Notice how you feel. Experiment with irresponsibility by doing something you don’t have to do.

#17

To experience the pain they have avoided by building and identifying with the defensive habits that make up their personality, Type 1s must feel the emotions of their inner child who felt hurt when criticized early on.

#18

The Perfectionist, who is less perfectionist and more perfect, focuses on finding the right or best way to do things. They are the most intellectual subtype and may appear superior because they channel their anger into being the owners of truth.

#19

If you are a perfectionist, you maintain a high level of anxiety and worry about everything you do. But you never feel that things turn out right enough, so you never feel okay. You unconsciously repress anger to the point where you express its opposite: you appear very polite and friendly.

#20

If you are a perfectionist, you put a lot of effort into finding the right or perfect way to do something, then become rigid about conforming to that right way. You partially repress your anger so that it fuels an unconscious need to be intellectually or morally superior in the things you do.

#21

If you are a perfectionist, you express a need to perfect others and reform society so that whatever happens conforms to your sense of what is right, perfect, or just. You criticize others as a way to assert your moral authority.

#22

If you are a Type 1, you may want to consider the steps listed above to help you become more aware of your anger and more open to a higher state of serenity.

#23

The two types connected to Type 1 by the internal arrow lines within the Enneagram are Types 4 and 7. By developing Type 7's tendency to explore possibilities and think more creatively, they can become more relaxed and more able to innovate.

#24

When you begin to trust your own worth, you can relax into a sense of calm and peace. As this peace grows, you become more and more able to rise above your judging mindset.

#25

Serenity is the virtue that provides an antidote to the passion of anger for Type 1. In serenity, this type experiences calmness and an absence of tension. When they see how their anger puts them at odds with the natural rhythm of life, they willingly accept what is.

#26

When Type 1s start to embrace their true selves, they begin to feel liberated from the need to get things right and meet high standards. They stop striving for self-improvement and instead focus on positive change in the world.
Insights from Chapter 2

#1

The story of Two is a cautionary tale about the dangers of trying to win people’s approval. When Two was young, she was a happy child with a deep sense of satisfaction in life. But as she grew up, she began to seek the love and approval of others. She became extremely good at pleasing others, and this made her feel important. But in focusing on others’ needs, she forgot about her own.

#2

Two’s survival strategies became her life. She completely forgot about the original need for love that had driven her to please others. She tried to meet everyone’s needs, even when she was completely exhausted. She had become a zombie – a very friendly, generous, and helpful zombie, but a zombie nonetheless.

#3

If you are a Type 2, you focus on your relationships and how others respond to you. You worry about whether others like you or approve of you. You tune in to the people around you to sense how they feel and what they like, and then shape-shift to align with them and create positive rapport.

#4

The first stage of awakening for Type 2s is to actively and consciously observe how they tune in to others’ feelings more than their own.