Summary of Steve Andreas's Transforming Your Self

Everest Media

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Please note: This is a companion version & not the original book.
Sample Book Insights:
#1 Your self-concept is based on your memory, and how you organize and think about those memories. You can't possibly think of everything, so you have to select some aspects, and ignore others. If you think of yourself as intelligent, you think of times when you demonstrated that, and ignore the times when you misunderstood or made a mistake.
#2 Your self-concept is a map of who you are. It is a simplified version of the territory that it describes, and it is useful because it helps you get around in unfamiliar territory and find the things that interest you. It can never fully describe who you are, since that would be too complex and cumbersome.
#3 Self-esteem is the result of your evaluation of your self-concept. If you act in a kind way, and you value kindness, you can feel good about it and have high self-esteem. However, if you are cruel, and you value cruelty, you will have low self-esteem.
#4 Self-esteem is the result of an evaluation of the self-concept. If you don’t deal with the self-concept, but just try to help people feel good about themselves directly, you will not achieve your goals.

Sujets

• Santé et bien-être
• Bien-être émotionnel
• Bien-être
• Bien-être
• Bien-être
• Bien-être
• Happiness
• Self-help
• Personal Growth

Informations

• Publié par: Everest Media LLC
• Date de parution: 03 mai 2022
• Nombre de lectures: 0
• EAN13: 9781669399414
• Langue: English
• Poids de l'ouvrage: 1 Mo

Extrait

Insights on Steve Andreas's Transforming Your Self
Contents Insights from Chapter 1 Insights from Chapter 2 Insights from Chapter 3 Insights from Chapter 4 Insights from Chapter 5 Insights from Chapter 6 Insights from Chapter 7 Insights from Chapter 8 Insights from Chapter 9 Insights from Chapter 10 Insights from Chapter 11 Insights from Chapter 12 Insights from Chapter 13 Insights from Chapter 14 Insights from Chapter 15
Insights from Chapter 1

#1

Your self-concept is based on your memory, and how you organize and think about those memories. You can't possibly think of everything, so you have to select some aspects, and ignore others. If you think of yourself as intelligent, you think of times when you demonstrated that, and ignore the times when you misunderstood or made a mistake.

#2

Your self-concept is a map of who you are. It is a simplified version of the territory that it describes, and it is useful because it helps you get around in unfamiliar territory and find the things that interest you. It can never fully describe who you are, since that would be too complex and cumbersome.

#3

Self-esteem is the result of your evaluation of your self-concept. If you act in a kind way, and you value kindness, you can feel good about it and have high self-esteem. However, if you are cruel, and you value cruelty, you will have low self-esteem.

#4

Self-esteem is the result of an evaluation of the self-concept. If you don’t deal with the self-concept, but just try to help people feel good about themselves directly, you will not achieve your goals.

#5

When you link the evaluation to behavior, the child knows what behaviors the parent values. The child can then have positive self-esteem as a result. If you look at some of the methods that people have used to raise self-esteem, you will find that the more useful ones actually build self-concept.

#6

The escape from oneself is only temporary, and when they return, their lives are usually a bit worse because of the consequences of what they did during the escape or the opportunities they missed. Other repetitive self-destructive behavior is a sign of low intelligence or ignorance.

#7

Your values are generalizations about what kinds of experiences are important to you. You value experiences that feel good, and negatively value the ones that feel bad. You may find that your values are in conflict with each other.

#8

Values are the things that are important to us, and we may acquire them simply because they are a part of our learned culture. However, we may also acquire values that aren’t appropriate for us because they are a generally accepted part of our culture.

#9

A heterarchy is like a committee, but one in which everyone can talk and listen to each other simultaneously. The various elements of this system communicate with each other, and contribute to a consensus about which perceptions and activities are most relevant at a particular moment.

#10

A values hierarchy is always an artificial imposition on the natural heterarchical process, which has been a basis for animal survival for hundreds of millions of years. Values are notoriously subjective experiences; different people value wildly different things and activities.

#11

Think about the last time you did something that you were not satisfied with. What values were expressed in that event. What values were ignored, set aside, or not considered until later.

#12

Your self-concept is a set of processes that creates a sort of map of yourself. This map helps you get where you want to go and have the kinds of experiences you want to have.
Insights from Chapter 2

#1

When we think about ourselves, we usually talk in terms of qualities or attitudes, even though a particular quality is only part of our self-concept. When we change our idea of ourselves, our entire life changes.

#2

Your self-concept is what keeps you the same despite changes in external context. It is a fundamental internal frame for understanding your experience. It provides a stable internal context despite changes in external context.

#3

To change a specific behavior, such as a phobia, can change self-concept. If you can get someone to congruently agree with the cause-effect relationship between a behavioral change and a self-concept change, then when you change the phobia, it will change the way they think about themselves.

#4

When you make the image of yourself, you are asked not to see yourself doing a specific behavior, and not in any particular context. By eliminating specific behavior and context, the image becomes something that is true of you independent of behavior and context.

#5

A feed-forward system is different from a feedback system. In a feedback system, information about the present state is fed back into the system to maintain that state within a certain range. In a feed-forward system, you set up a goal, and then figure out what you have to do in the present to get there.

#6

When you make an image of yourself, you are both the maker of the image and what the image represents. Your self-concept exists in your mind as part of the information system. Recursion in an information system is only as fast as the speed of transmission of information.

#7

The power of self-concept is based on a number of elements working together. Your self-concept is a large generalization about yourself that creates a continuity that spans time and space, and affects nearly everything you do.
Insights from Chapter 3

#1

The self-concept is the idea you have about yourself. It is the durable, resilient, and lasting aspect of yourself that you can call on when you most need it. It should be accurate, a good predictor of your behaviors and attitudes.

#2

Your identity is the foundation of your living, and it must be strong and resilient. If something contradicts your self-concept, you don’t want it to collapse and disappear because it’s very unpleasant to have your ideas about who you are crumble into chaos.

#3

If you are good at something, or not very good at something, I would like you to know that your self-concept should be an accurate representation of your actual behavior, responses, attitudes, and skills. If your competence is high and your confidence is low, you will underachieve because your self-concept is inaccurate.

#4

When someone has very little competence and lots of confidence, this is especially troublesome. They think they can do all sorts of things that they can’t actually do. When they confidently attempt to do many of these things, they often harm others or themselves, and cause a lot of damage and disappointment.

#5

When someone’s self-concept is not responsive to feedback information, it can become very inaccurate and different from what others observe. This is known as a false self, and their unacknowledged behavior is a shadow self.

#6

The Swish Pattern is a technique that helps you become unconscious of your self-consciousness. It involves making an image of yourself, and then going through a series of steps to link the problem stimulus to this self-image. Then you run the linkage faster and faster until it becomes unconscious.