The Superpowers of Introverts

Karen M. Caito CPC ELI-MP

Description

Written from an introvert’s perspective, this guide offers introverts a way to turn their quiet strengths into limitless superpowers while embracing the people they are meant to be.
Do you long to change how you and others perceive yourself? Have you been told you’re too shy and quiet or that you need to get out more? Have you been made to feel as if something is wrong with you?
The wait is over. The Superpowers of Introverts aims to help you to realize that you’re OK and to guide you to take advantage of your hidden superpowers. You’re an introvert, and you should be proud of that. Your purpose is to honor your special gifts and share them. The world is waiting and needs you.
Create your best life with actionable strategies that work and inspiring stories of introverts like you. Motivate yourself to take action and finally navigate your life your way, without the guilt.
Discover the six most common superpowers that come naturally to introverts, and capitalize on them to become the person you really are. Learn to make your introversion work for you once and for all.
Written from an introvert’s perspective, this guide offers introverts a way to turn their quiet strengths into limitless superpowers while embracing the people they are meant to be.

Sujets

• Relations interpersonnelles
• Relation interpersonnelle
• Self-Help
• Extroversion and introversion
• Superpower (disambiguation)
• Quiet
• Self-help (disambiguation)
• Personality
• Self-help
• Misunderstood
• Confidence
• Développement personnel
• développement personnel
• Développement personnel
• Développement personnel

Informations

• Publié par: iUniverse
• Date de parution: 18 juillet 2022
• Nombre de lectures: 0
• EAN13: 9781663234735
• Langue: English

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THE SUPERPOWERS OF INTROVERTS
 
HOW TO LIVE YOUR LIFE YOUR WAY – WITHOUT THE GUILT
 
 
 
 
 
KAREN M. CAITO, CPC, ELI-MP
 
 
 
 

 
THE SUPERPOWERS OF INTROVERTS
HOW TO LIVE YOUR LIFE YOUR WAY – WITHOUT THE GUILT
 
Copyright © 2022 Karen M. Caito, CPC, ELI-MP.
 
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Library of Congress Control Number: 2022910027
ISBN: 978-1-6632-3472-8 (sc)
ISBN: 978-1-6632-3471-1 (hc)
ISBN: 978-1-6632-3473-5 (e)
 
 
 
iUniverse rev. date:  07/18/2022
CONTENTS
Dedication
Introduction
Author’s Notes
 
Chapter 1       Who Are You? Are You An Introvert?
Chapter 2       The Superpowers Of Introverts
Chapter 3       How To Live Guilt Free
Chapter 4       How To Mingle Or Not — The Ins And Outs Of Stepping Out
Chapter 5       How To Maintain The Balancing Act Of Relationship Dynamics
Chapter 6       How To Work
Chapter 7       How To Take Care Of You
 
Conclusion
Resources
Endnotes
DEDICATION
To my parents, Samuel and Rosemary Caito for their unshakeable commitment to raising our family. To my four introverted children, Nicole, Kendra, Patrick, and Maxwell Rose. Always remain true to yourself.
INTRODUCTION
Welcome introverts, friends, and families of introverts. You’ve probably picked up this book because you would like to discover more about yourself or your loved ones. Congratulations on taking this step. You’ll find that this book focuses on practical strategies to use in different areas of life, starting with the background on introversion, followed by chapter 2 on introvert superpowers. Chapter 3 covers concerns in everyday life and how to live guilt-free, addressing social interactions, priorities, routines, and quiet time. Chapter 4 relates to socializing in various situations, and chapter 5 focuses on relationships, from romantic ones to those with family and friends. Chapter 6 covers the workplace, and the book wraps up with chapter 7 on self-care. The reason I wrote this book is that all introverts need to be heard and to realize that they are okay, they are meant to be proud introverts, and the world needs them. I would like to thank Susan Cain, author of Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can’t Stop Talking for starting this amazing introvert revolution, along with the many talented introvert authors who followed, sharing their experiences, stories, and ideas for introverts everywhere to lead more fulfilling lives knowing they are not alone and there is nothing wrong with them.
I would like to share with you my story and how I came to be known as the confidence coach for introverts. I grew up in a household of introverts; however, I didn’t know what introversion and extroversion were, as the topics were not discussed at that time. I didn’t realize I was an introvert till my late twenties. I would also classify myself as a sensitive individual and a late bloomer. I jump in response to loud and sudden noises, and anything too bright, such as artificial lighting, bothers my sensitivities. I dislike any clothing that is too tight, and yes, sometimes I cut the tags off of clothing. I had a great childhood. I was a tomboy yet also timid, had a small group of friends who are still with me today, and had an entrepreneurial spirit, often creating and selling things. As a young adult starting off in my sales career, I began to see and experience firsthand how difficult it is for introverts in the workplace. I was frequently called out for not being as animated or boisterous in my sales presentations as other colleagues. My style is educational, reserved, and quietly assertive. I would sit back and observe others in meetings, at times not making my voice heard. When I didn’t get the recognition I desired, I started to search for the why . Having always been interested in self-help books, I turned to them again and discovered the meanings of introversion and extroversion . Once I learned I was an introvert, everything changed. I could look back and review the reasons behind my own, and other people’s behavior. As a lifelong information seeker, I read more and more about introversion. Then, after spending more than twenty years in my career field, I found myself unemployed for fourteen months after my company downsized. I enrolled in and graduated from a certified professional coaching program and a career coaching program simultaneously, thinking I would coach people on sales. My first client changed that thinking. When I asked, “What do you want to be coached on?” his answer was, “Confidence.” During the coaching process, we discovered that he didn’t actually lack confidence. He was an introvert and had been made to feel different from the rest of society. That was a turning point for both of us. Amazingly, my second client announced that she too wanted to be coached on confidence, not realizing that she was an introvert as well. From that point on, I focused on introverts and on assisting them in finding their true passions in life and thriving in an extroverted world.
AUTHOR’S NOTES
This book is designed to cover all aspects of life, from your everyday routines and priorities to a variety of social situations, relationships, conflicts, work, and finally self-care. If you are interested in a certain topic, feel free to jump right to that section. However, I urge you to read chapter 1 first. It explains not only what introversion and extroversion are, but it also addresses empaths, who are highly sensitive people. That may be important to check out to determine whether you or your loved one fits into that category as well. The chapter additionally discusses whether introversion and extroversion are genetic, if environment plays a role, and the science behind introversion. Reading the first chapter will allow you to gain a good understanding of introversion before proceeding to the others. In chapters 2 through 7, you’ll find strategies that I call “Introvert Insights—Navigating Your Way.” These have been created to offer you some ideas to respond and take next steps. Included in many of the Introvert Insights are open-ended questions, also called coaching questions. They have been developed to elicit more information from you than a simple yes or no answer. Coaching questions are used to initiate a deep thought process and uncover the reason behind your beliefs, assumptions, interpretations, behaviors, and actions—to peel back the many layers of the onion and get to the real issue. Thus, there is some work to be done on your part. In each chapter, starting with chapter 3, there is a Sidebar segment that offers additional information pertaining to that specific chapter’s content. For example, in chapter 4, “How to Mingle or Not—The Ins and Outs of Stepping Out,” the Sidebar is titled, “When to Step Outside of Your Comfort Zone.” At the end of each chapter is space for you to take notes. Writing down what comes to mind and documenting actions that may suit your circumstances can be beneficial in moving forward to a balanced, healthy life. Enjoy the book and explore what else you can discover about your fabulous, introverted self.
CHAPTER 1
WHO ARE YOU? ARE YOU AN INTROVERT?
Your vision will become clear only when you look into your own heart. Who looks outside dreams, who looks inside, awakes.
— Carl Jung
What exactly is an introvert? When you hear the word introvert , what words come to mind first— shy, loner, private, social avoidance, no drama, dreamer ? Or do you think of reflective, self-aware, thinker, thoughtful, listener, or quiet strength ? Many times, people have misconceptions regarding introverts. The second list of words includes some of the many strengths of introverts, while the first list is the fallacies.
In this chapter, we will cover the definitions of introvert and extrovert . Are we born this way? How do science and genetics fit into this equation? What about our environment contributes to being an introvert? Empaths, highly sensitive people, introverts—are they all the same, or is there a difference? This chapter will conclude with the power of quiet, the pros and cons of introverts showing up in the world and how we can thrive successfully.
In an Extroverted World
Introverts live in two worlds. We visit the world of people, but solitude and the inner world will always be our home.
— Jenn Granneman
In the article “Are Extroverts Happier than Introverts?” published in Psychology Today , 1 researchers estimate that the population is made up of about 50%–74% extroverts and 16%–50% introverts. While research shows that the number of introverts is on the rise, the world is still dominated by extroverts. What is it like to be an introvert in a predominantly extroverted world? It seems that the more extroverted qualities of an i