Your Journey to Success: How to Accept the Answers You Discover Along the Way

Kenny Weiss

Description

This is a book for the person who is hungry for an answer. I know that feeling. I was stuck in it for years and as a Coach and Speaker, I have noticed there is a constant theme for us all. We have read all of the success books, we have gone to the seminars but when we go to execute their wonderful information a feeling comes up. We lay in bed and just don't "feel" like doing what they suggest even though we know it will make our life better. That "feeling" stops us from executing one or more steps they suggest we take to make our lives better. I couldn't overcome that feeling either. Here I was an alcoholic, a sex addict, sugar addict, spending addict, tobacco addict, love addict, I had gone bankrupt, been through two horrific divorces, a child custody battle, I played two professional sports I never wanted to play and I contemplated suicide.

None of the books showed me or explained where that feeling comes from, why we all get it and how to overcome it. Without that information, I couldn't execute all of their wonderful suggestions.

So this is my story and how I took all of that great information from all of those great success teachers, I collated it and then added to it. I discuss where that feeling comes from, why we all get it and how to overcome it. This book bridges the gap. When you have this information, this skillset to overcome that "feeling" than you can put into place all of their incredible advice and have the personal and professional success we are all searching for.

Sujets

• Santé et bien-être
• Développement personnel
• Vie de famille
• Parentalité et Éducation des Enfants
• développement personnel
• Personal Growth
• Self-help
• Success
• Parentalité
• Parentalité
• Parentalité

Informations

• Publié par: eBookIt.com
• Date de parution: 27 décembre 2017
• Nombre de lectures: 0
• EAN13: 9781456629656
• Langue: English
• Poids de l'ouvrage: 1 Mo

Extrait

YOUR
HOW TO ACCEPT THE ANSWERS
JOURNEY
YOU DISCOVER
TO
ALONG THE WAY
SUCCESS

KENNY WEISS

 
 
Copyright ©2018 by Olicartin, LLC
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Published in the United States.
 
Published in eBook format by eBookIt.com
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ISBN-13: 978-1-4566-2965-6
 
 
Disclaimer: While all stories in this book are true, some names and identifying information have been changed to protect the privacy of the individuals involved. This publication is not intended as a substitute for professional medical or mental health advice, diagnosis, or treatment. The author makes no warranty, guarantee, or promise, express or implied, regarding the effectiveness of this material. What you are about to read can invoke some strong feelings you’ve been attempting to avoid for a long time. To soften the blow, I will share examples from my own train wreck of a life to show you how anybody can do this. As you begin examining your own life, a natural reaction to these strong feelings is to deny them. That’s exactly what I am challenging you not to do.
You will learn how society and your brain and body are all set up to further your denial and keep you from what you want. The good news is I will describe concrete ways to overcome that natural reaction. If you are willing to do the work required, what you experience will be life changing. But the caveat is that you need to do the work. Be gentle with yourself. Maybe you won’t feel ready to do some of your journey to success steps when you reach them at the end of each chapter. That is okay; these steps require personal reflection. During periods of my life, I wasn’t ready to either. That doesn’t make you “bad.” Know that what you are about to embark on is a lifelong process and that this process doesn’t require perfection. For some, reading the book through in its entirety and then revisiting sections and completing the action steps at the conclusion of each chapter is ideal. Do what works best for you, knowing I’m with you every step of the way.
 
DEDICATION

 
To my parents, for all the ways they loved me perfectly and imperfectly. I needed both to find me.
To my brothers and sister, for your constant forgiveness and acceptance of me.
To my children, for if it wasn’t for them I would not be here.
To the two women who married me. For who I was at the time, you loved me exactly as I wanted and needed to be loved. You never failed me.
To my counselor Mike Pinkston, who saw in me what I could not see in myself and who gave me the tools to find it.
To Andy Freeman, for never leaving and giving me the insight as to what fear really is.
To my clients, who were brave and willing to help others by sharing their journey through the Worst Day Cycle so that others could as well.
To me, for my courage to expose the truth, the darkness of who I am including the good, bad, and especially the ugly. For constantly pursuing answers as to why I have been in so much pain and so hurtful to others but, most of all, to myself. If I had not been willing to expose to myself how traumatized, afraid, and shameful I felt and how judgmental, narcissistic, and soul-suckingly manipulative I can be, I would not have ever discovered the answer to finding peace, self-acceptance, and true success. It is because of that courage I have learned that my light, my greatness, everyone’s greatness, is in the one place we have all wrongly been conditioned and told to avoid. Just like a sunrise, our darkness gives birth to our light.

ACKNOWLEDGMENTS

 
I would like to acknowledge those who have helped me create and propel my theory of the Worst Day Cycle.
Mike Pinkston—My counselor taught me how to be a man and coach others. Every single day of my life his words, counseling style, and wisdom flow from me. As I grow, I gain a deeper insight into what he was teaching me. They’re little nuggets of new growth waiting for me as my knowledge and self-awareness increase.
Andy Freeman—While going through my second divorce, Andy gave me the definition for fear that I use with all my clients. It changed my life.
Bessel Van der Kolk—I learned that it is universal how trauma runs everyone’s life.
Brené Brown—I discovered the destructiveness of shame and the necessity for vulnerability. Byron Katie—She taught me how we live in the opposite and how denial is rampant in us all and, I believe, it is the single greatest killer in our society.
Candace Pert—She scientifically confirmed something I intrinsically felt—that everything we do is based on feelings, that almost all health issues are feelings based, and that science knows this and disregards it.
Eckhart Tolle—He enlightened me on how to be present in each moment.
Joe Dispenza—He furthered my understanding of how trauma is universal in us all, that it is passed down through generations, that the brain and body store it, and that our health is a direct result of this carried trauma.
Louise Hay—She taught me self-love and self-esteem. Her books should be mandatory reading for all ninth graders.
Pia Mellody—She taught me that what we all consider to be love is incorrect—how we are all love addicted, love avoidant, and codependent. It could be no other way because it is all we have ever seen modeled. Her books should be mandatory reading for all high school seniors.
Tony Robbins—He taught me how to set up a structure/process for change.

ABOUT THE AUTHOR

 
Kenny Weiss is a coach and speaker at the forefront of the personal development field. Through his own personal journey and nearly thirty years of studying about the role emotions play in our lives, he brings a one-of-a-kind skill set to individuals, families, and businesses that are looking for more happiness and success personally and professionally.
Kenny’s journey included multiple addictions, two divorces, a bankruptcy, playing two professional sports he never wanted to play, and contemplating suicide. In other words, he has not only studied the process, he has lived it and overcome it. Kenny’s clients include successful entrepreneurs, professional athletes, individuals, and families who have discovered what current science now tells us—emotions are at the center of everything we do. If any area of your life isn’t producing the results you know you are capable of, Kenny has the knowledge and experience to get you back on track.
INTRODUCTION

As a life coach, I show people how to live in the best day of their lives. Imagine what it would be like to wake up each morning knowing that whatever comes your way, you will have what it takes to make it your best day. I help people identify and remove the obstacles that prevent them from achieving that vision.
We have all started or ended our day thinking about what we should have done in our personal or professional lives to attain our goals. But, somehow, we couldn’t seem to get ourselves to do it. As we lie there and consider the steps it would take to realize our dreams, there was a feeling we couldn’t overcome. That feeling is what kept us from pursuing what we wanted—it stopped us from taking action. We have read books on how to make our careers and relationships better, but we are still stuck. None of the other wonderful success processes in those books can be fully implemented until this work is done—until we can find a way to move beyond this feeling. This book bridges that gap and offers sound information to help us understand why we are inexplicably stalled in our endeavors. It then offers tried-and-true strategies to help us finally let go of that feeling and fully go after our dreams.
The Worst Day versus the Best Day Conundrum
My theory on why we are stuck is based upon what I call the Worst Day Cycle. Getting out of it requires a shift into our best day. To jump-start this process, ask yourself the following:
1. Do you remember the best day of your life? Take some time here. What happened on this day? A best day might be when you felt at peace with yourself and you liked who you were in that moment. It doesn’t need to be a momentous occasion like a birth of your child or your wedding day. Think of it as an ordinary experience where a certain feeling overcomes you, like when you witness an athlete being in the zone. At that point, they are living a moment without judgment or self-criticism. Our best day is unencumbered by shame and denial. Instead, we are feeling pure joy, clarity, and spontaneity.
2. What was the worst day of your life? Can you see it, smell it, hear it? Do tears well up in your eyes or do you get a lump in your throat? Does your heart ache? Does your stomach flip or other parts of your body hurt as you relive that moment that marked your worst day?
 
 
When I asked what the best day of your life looked like, did you struggle? Or did you think of some so-so days or maybe a good day, but you didn’t instantly think, feel, and picture a life-changing incredible moment that gave you shivers? Was it hard for you to even come up with one? When I ask the best day question during a presentation, invariably only about one out of forty people raise their hand with a response. Usually those who do just describe an event with very little emotion or satisfaction. That’s because they are stuck in their worst day and can’t feel real joy because of it. When a so-called best day happens, the remnants of the worst day overpower it. When I ask about the worst day, the room goes heavy and dark with emotion. People’s faces and gaze drop, they shift in their seats, they go blank and numb and stare off into space as they relive the feeling of that worst day.
Stuck in That Worst Day
Nearly all of us are stuck in the worst day of our life. The trauma from that day is where that feeling comes from and it is the birthplace of the Worst Day Cycle. Since there is no mechanism in place for overcoming trauma, this cycle is the natural maladaptive coping skill we use to survive