Moms Bringing Out the Best in Dads

Jay Payleitner

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';incredible opportunities to help your husband become the hero your children need.'Dannah Gresh Every dad wants to lead his family with wisdom, strength, love, and laughter. An astute momlike youcan make a huge difference when it comes to making that happen. With Moms Bringing Out the Best in Dads, you'll learn how to applaud and affirm the unique role a dad plays in his children's lives and hearts. This book will encourage you to work and communicate with your husband to protect, shepherd, and empower your kidsnudge, sweet-talk, and motivate each other on this mission that must not failunderstand and appreciate your husband's unique talents as a fatherand identify how your own gifts can serve as a complement You can do thistogether! Moms Bringing Out the Best in Dads is a heartfelt celebration of the loving dads who are excited to invest in their families, and the self-assured moms who inspire their husbands to become the fathers they've always wanted to be.

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• Publié par: Harvest House Publishers
• Date de parution: 01 février 2022
• Nombre de lectures: 0
• EAN13: 9780736983952
• Langue: English
• Poids de l'ouvrage: 1 Mo

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Endorsements
Jay Payleitner s latest book is a joy to read. It s written in his usual common sense, humorous style with just a touch of panache. Not only will moms benefit from this book, but I m betting many dads will thank him as well. Frankly, as a fellow author I m always a bit envious of just how good Jay s books really are.
Rick Johnson, bestselling author of That s My Son
Moms Bringing Out the Best in Dads is filled with simple, uncomplicated reminders. As a mom, I learned that words are important, but actions and decisions can shout, I love you! I respect you! I appreciate you! Prayer for your spouse, your children, and yourself can bring out the best in everyone.
Kendra Smiley, author of Journey of a Strong-Willed Child
Moms and dads have different ways of parenting, but both are critical to a child s upbringing. Jay shows how moms and dads can help each other be the best parents possible-not through competition but through coparenting.
Eric Carroll, Dad Talk Today
Reading Jay s book has given me a whole new vocabulary to use with my husband! Packed with creative ideas and heartwarming stories, this book will help you appreciate your husband and make him feel respected as a dad. Your wild support of your husband is one of the greatest gifts you can give your kids.
Arlene Pellicane, author of 31 Days to a Happy Husband and host of The Happy Home podcast
As dads seem demeaned on every level, Moms Bringing Out the Best in Dads is refreshing and inspiring. Jay is so sensitive and gracious as he encourages moms to bring out the best in dads without belittling either parent. His humor, wisdom, and practical and biblical truths are priceless.
Dr. Clarence Shuler, president of Building Lasting Relationships
Get ready Jay is about to reveal to you what your children s father might never have the courage to say. With honesty, humor, and a heart for the next generation, Jay offers wisdom-and even gentle warnings-to help spouses experience the best that parenting has to offer. Perhaps the best part about his book, though, is that he presents what he s asking you to do not as a chore but as an exciting challenge, and even an adventure.
Cindi McMenamin, author of When a Woman Inspires Her Husband
Jay has a unique way of marrying genuine wisdom with down-to-earth insights for family living. In this book he gives wives dozens of practical tools they can begin using today in order to help their husbands be the best dads possible. The backdrop is the reminder that couples are on the same team and working toward the shared goal of raising healthy, well-loved children. Wives will find themselves motivated to begin putting these ideas into practice.
Kim Caifano, writer and speaker
As someone who deals with the devastating consequences of fatherlessness every day, I am ecstatic to find a book that will enable wives to help their husbands thrive. Jay Payleitner s love for fatherhood, family, and marriage flows off every page. Using touching anecdotes, dad-joke humor, and biblical truth, his wisdom will gently take up residence in your heart. Romantic ( Kiss Him in the Kitchen ) as well as practical ( Recalibrate His Smartphone Pics ), Mom s Bringing Out the Best in Dads is a toolkit, compass, and roadmap every wife needs.
Ron Hauenstein, founder and CEO, Spokane Fatherhood Initiative
In a world replete with biological, spiritual, and governmental father wounds, Moms Bringing Out the Best in Dads is much more than a Band-Aid for a kid s scraped knee or a pat on the back for a defeated dad; it is a healing balm for the family.
Kay Horner, executive director of Awakening America Alliance and The Helper Connection
I applaud Jay Payleitner s refreshing fountain of life-giving, practical wisdom. I thoroughly enjoyed and was refreshed by the real-life journey he has taken as a man, husband, and father that will serve as a blueprint and roadmap to those who desire to understand the challenges of everyday life.
Dr. Joaquin G. Molina, author of What Is a Man?
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Moms Bringing Out the Best in Dads
Copyright 2022 by Jay Payleitner
Published by Harvest House Publishers
Eugene, Oregon 97408
www.harvesthousepublishers.com
ISBN 978-0-7369-8394-5 (pbk.)
ISBN 978-0-7369-8395-2 (eBook)
Library of Congress Control Number: 2021937789
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Her children arise and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praises her .
P ROVERBS 31:28
Dedication
With gratitude to Rita Anne, who continues to make me a better man and a better dad .
Contents
Endorsements
Dedication
Foreword
Introduction
1. Teach Him How to Swaddle
2. Remember, It s Not a Competition
3. Never Say, Can You Babysit the Kids?
4. Don t Hide Your PPD Symptoms
5. Text Reminders
6. Encourage His Hobbies
7. Encourage Him to Revisit Dormant Talents
8. Ask the Right Question at the Right Time
9. Never Say, Wait Until Your Father Gets Home
10. Get Him Talking to Other Dads
11. Get Advice from Other Moms
12. Remember That Even Infants and Toddlers Need Dad
13. Support the New Dad Bond
14. Recognize the New Dad Blues
15. Bookmark Psalm 127
16. Buy Him Dad Stuff
17. Rescue Your Weekends
18. Let Him Know If You Want to Stay Home with the Kids
19. Make a Second Superman Suit
20. Make Sure the Kids Know What Dad Does
21. Equip Him with Crisp White Handkerchiefs
22. Activate Your Husband
23. Remind Him It s Just a Phase
24. Recalibrate His Smartphone Pics
25. Watch the Horizon Together
26. If He s Getting the Job Done, Let Him Know
27. Display a United Front
28. Help Him Understand Girls
29. Suggest the Road Trip
30. Pray for Him and with Him
31. Kiss Your Husband in the Kitchen
32. Expect to Get Your Signals Crossed
33. Make Your Home a Hangout
34. Don t Trash-Talk Him to Your Mom
35. Don t Be Surprised When Parenting Isn t Fifty-Fifty
36. Be Noble, But No Pressure: Part 1
37. Be Noble, But No Pressure: Part 2
38. Make Sure the Kids Respect Him
39. Find the Courage
40. Consider Your Own Father
41. Trick Him into Doing an Abbott and Costello Routine
42. Know Love Can Multiply
43. Send Him to the Perch
44. Expect Imperfection, Obviously
45. Be Glad He s There
46. Help Him Walk His Talk
47. Recruit Him to Be a Room Mom
48. Appreciate Your Differences
49. Realize It s Only a Season
50. Help Him Put First Things First
51. Humbly Take the Credit When He Receives Accolades
52. Point Out the Glory
Notes
About the Author
52 Things Kids Need from a Dad
What if God Wrote Your Bucket List?
52 Ways to Connect as a Couple
About the Publisher
Foreword
W e live in a fatherless period in time.
I think often of this verse from a fatherless time in ancient history. What a promise God made as the final ink on the last pages of the Old Testament began to dry:

He will turn the hearts of the fathers to their children, and the hearts of the children to their fathers.
M ALACHI 4:6
I ve used this verse as a prayer in my home, asking God to make me the kind of mother who partners with God in turning the hearts of the Gresh children (and grandchildren) toward Bob! The kind of woman who turns Bob s heart toward our children (and grandchildren). If your children, like mine, have an involved dad in their lives, they are blessed. Let s be the kind of women who live as if we believe that!
My husband is what we call a Wolf Dad. He and I learned the term years ago from a mentor who was teaching us about parenting. You see, wolves co-parent, but they fulfill very different roles.
For the first six months of life, a litter of cubs stays in the den receiving nurture, nourishment, and protection from mom. During that time, if a cub attempts to wander from the den, she gently picks it up by the scruff of the neck and draws it dee