Summary of Janet W. Hardy & Dossie Easton's The Ethical Slut

Everest Media

Description

Please note: This is a companion version & not the original book.
Sample Book Insights:
#1 Sluts are people who enjoy sex and love freely. They believe that sex and sexual love are fundamental forces for good, and that every consensual intimate relationship has these potentials.
#2 There are many ways to be an ethical slut, and that’s OK. As long as you and the people you care about are consenting, you’re doing ethical sluthood right.
#3 Sluts are not necessarily sexual athletes, but we do value sex for the pleasure it brings us and the good times we get to share with whoever we want. We love adventure and are not afraid of trying new things.
#4 The language in this book is sex-positive, and we aim to reclaim the original English words to describe sex and sexuality. We want to wash them clean of their offensive past meanings and use them as positive descriptors.

Sujets

• Philosophie
• Éthique et morale
• Ethique et morale
• Sexualité
• sexualité
• Sexualité

Informations

• Publié par: Everest Media LLC
• Date de parution: 19 mars 2022
• Nombre de lectures: 0
• EAN13: 9781669354406
• Langue: English
• Poids de l'ouvrage: 1 Mo

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Insights on Janet W. Hardy & Dossie Easton's The Ethical Slut
Contents Insights from Chapter 1 Insights from Chapter 2 Insights from Chapter 3
Insights from Chapter 1

#1

Sluts are people who enjoy sex and love freely. They believe that sex and sexual love are fundamental forces for good, and that every consensual intimate relationship has these potentials.

#2

There are many ways to be an ethical slut, and that’s OK. As long as you and the people you care about are consenting, you’re doing ethical sluthood right.

#3

Sluts are not necessarily sexual athletes, but we do value sex for the pleasure it brings us and the good times we get to share with whoever we want. We love adventure and are not afraid of trying new things.

#4

The language in this book is sex-positive, and we aim to reclaim the original English words to describe sex and sexuality. We want to wash them clean of their offensive past meanings and use them as positive descriptors.

#5

Polyamory is the practice of having multiple committed relationships with the same person. It is often abbreviated as poly, as in I am a poly person. It has quickly become a popular word to describe alternative forms of sex and love outside conventional monogamy.

#6

The work of Dr. Alfred Kinsey, who was asked to team-teach a class on human sexuality at Indiana University, began when he found himself unable to answer student questions: there was no scientific research on how people actually had sex. He interviewed thousands of Americans about their sexual experiences and attitudes.

#7

The Kinsey Institute for Research in Sex, Gender, and Reproduction was a polycule or constellation of researchers and partners who were open about their sex lives. They were able to conduct groundbreaking research on sex, and today’s liberated sexual mores owe their existence to their work.

#8

Those who explore new kinds of relationships and lifestyles often run into beliefs about the way society should be, the way relationships should be, and the way people should be. These beliefs are deeply rooted and often unexamined.

#9

We believe that the current set of oughta-be’s, and any other set, are cultural artifacts rather than natural laws. We would like to live in a culture that respects the choices made by sluts as highly as it respects the couple celebrating their fiftieth anniversary.

#10

You will encounter a lot of harsh judgments about the ways different people live, and you will probably find some of these judgments in your own brain. They say a lot more about the culture that promotes them than they do about any actual person.

#11

We have too many sexual partners. We are also called indiscriminate in our sexuality, which we resent. We do not believe that there is such a thing as too much sex, except perhaps on certain happy occasions when our options exceed our abilities.

#12

The Jezebel and Casanova archetypes are based on the idea that sex is a commodity that can be traded for something else, such as stability or children. We rarely see any Jezebels or Casanovas in our community, because we do not regard sex as a commodity.

#13

Many people base their sense of ethics on what they’ve learned is acceptable or not acceptable according to God or their church or their parents or their culture. But believing that God doesn’t like sex is like believing that God doesn’t like you.

#14

The idea of sex addiction is controversial, but many people believe that anything but the most conservative of sexual behaviors is wrong or unhealthy. You should trust your own beliefs and find a supportive environment.

#15

The challenge of the ethical slut is that our culture constantly insists that something is true simply because it’s everybody knows it.

#16

The myth of lifetime monogamy is that if you’re not in a committed relationship, you are not good enough. It teaches people that they are not good enough in and of themselves.

#17

The feeling that is called romantic love in this culture is a heady cocktail of lust and adrenaline, sparked by uncertainty, insecurity, and perhaps even anger or danger. It is not the only real kind of love, nor is it always a good basis for an ongoing relationship.

#18

Many religions believe that women’s sexuality is evil and dangerous, and that men should be controlled and civilized by them. But we believe that sexual desire should be respected and listened to, and then decisions made based on that.

#19

Jealousy is a very common emotion, and many people believe that it is the most difficult of all emotions to deal with. But it is not intolerable. It is an emotion like any other, and people can learn to cope with it.

#20

The myth that having an affair is a symptom of unresolved conflict or unfulfilled needs in a relationship is false. Many people have sex outside their primary relationships for reasons that have nothing to do with any inadequacy in their partners or in the relationship.

#21

In this world of sluthood, where everything your mother, minister, spouse, and television have told you is probably wrong, you must find new beliefs that support your new lifestyle.

#22

The new generation of ethical sluts is more open to experimentation with gender and sexuality. They are more aware of issues of intersectionality, and they see traditional ways of approaching oppression as potentially problematic.

#23

Being an ethical slut means treating people well and not hurting them. It is important to us to treat people well and to do our best not to hurt anyone. Our ethics are based on our own sense of rightness and the empathy and love we hold for others.

#24

Sex is part of everything, and it is up to each individual to decide what constitutes sex for them. While society may place a high value on self-denial, happy, free, and guiltless connection is the cure for those who have been wounded by fear, shame, and hatred of their own sexual selves.

#25

The purpose and end goal of all relationships is not lifelong pair-bonding, but rather sexual pleasure. The world would be a different place if there were no sexually transmitted diseases, if everyone got pregnant only if they wanted to, and if all sex was consensual and pleasurable.

#26

Entirely available abundance is available to you. The human capacity for sex and love and intimacy is far greater than most people think. Having a lot of satisfying connections simply makes it possible for you to have a lot more.

#27

To love yourself is to understand and accept love as it comes to you - sexual, familial, friendly, passionate, and so on - and not worry about whether you’re loving yourself enough.

#28

There have always been those who have found happiness and growth in sexual openness. Whether or not any of these scenarios fits you, we hope they will offer you some ideas about where to start your exploration.

#29

The prevailing cultural values that North America inherited from Europe seem to date back to the Roman Empire and early Christianity, which recommended monogamous marriage only for those who could not manage celibacy.

#30

Sexual utopias are experiments in creating intentional sexual utopias. They are usually built by one leader and may falter when the leader is no longer available. However, their philosophies live on, adding new visions and practices to the mainstream culture.

#31

There have always been nonwriters who have gotten their needs met through ethical multipartner living. We can’t know how many people were doing this, but we can assume that a significant minority of people have always gotten their needs met this way.

#32

Sluthood today exists in all shapes and sizes.