Your Life on Purpose

Matthew Mckay, P. Forsyth John, H. Eifert Georg

Description

So many of us postpone pursuing our goals and dreams because we think we''ll get to them later, when we have more time or feel we''re worthy of them. As a result, many of us go through life feeling weighed down by daily responsibilities and our own self-doubts, entirely disconnected from a sense of real purpose.

Based in acceptance and commitment therapy (ACT) and powerful mindfulness practices,Your Life on Purpose is about doing what matters to you every day instead of waiting for the perfect time to feel fulfilled and alive. With this book as your guide, you''ll learn to move past daily distractions, fear of failure, and self-judgment, and zero in on the passions that connect you with your true self. You deserve to live a life of purpose, aligned with your deepest values. It''s time.

With this book, you''ll discover how to:

•Find and do what you are passionate about
•Keep mental obstacles, fears, and daily demands from blocking your path to fulfillment
•Find your way when values conflict
•Focus on what truly matters to make your dreams a reality
•Make a lasting impact on the world

So what are you waiting for? Start changing your life today.

Sujets

• Philosophie et théologie
• Popular psychology
• Psychology

Informations

• Publié par: New Harbinger Publications
• Date de parution: 01 novembre 2010
• Nombre de lectures: 0
• EAN13: 9781572249073
• Langue: English
• Poids de l'ouvrage: 2 Mo

Extrait

how to find what matters & create the life you want

Matthew McKay, Ph.D. John P. Forsyth, Ph.D. Georg H. Eifert, Ph.D.

“hîs book îs magîca and a joy to read. It îs so muc more tan just anoter acceptance and commîtment terapy (ACT) book. It îs reay a treasure map or dîscoverîng ow to îve a purposeu îe accordîng to your vaues. ots o books tak about vaues and ow tey can serve as a compass tat eps you cart your purposeu îe, but ew actuaysowyou ow to ead a vaues-drîven îe. hîs book does two tîngs better tan most o te oter ACT books I’ve read. In a gente, respectu way, ît demonstrates, troug case studîes o rea peope just îke you, ow to use ACT prîncîpes and practîces to ind your purpose în îe. It aso teaces you ow to ind te courage to take your se-doubts, ears, and worrîes aong or te journey as you engage în beavîors tat ead you towards your vaues and purpose. I you read one book on ACT tîs year, make ît tîs one. You won’t regret ît.”

—Rîcard Bonna, Ed.D., autor o Stress Less, Lîve More

Pubîser’s Note This publication is designed to provide accurate and authoritative information in regard to the subject matter covered. It is sold with the understanding that the publisher is not engaged in rendering psychological, financial, legal, or other professional services. If expert assistance or counseling is needed, the services of a competent professional should be sought.

Distributed in Canada by Raincoast Books

Copyright © 2010 by Matthew McKay, John P. Forsyth, and Georg H. Eifert New Harbinger Publications, Inc. 5674 Shattuck Avenue Oakland, CA 94609 www.newharbinger.com

All Rights Reserved

Acquired by Catharine Sutker; Cover design by Amy Shoup; Text design by Michele Waters-Kermes; Edited by Jasmine Star

Library of Congress Cataloging-in-Publication Data

McKay, Matthew.  Your life on purpose : how to find what matters and create the life you want / Matthew McKay, John P. Forsyth, and Georg H. Eifert.  p. cm.  ISBN 978-1-57224-905-9 (printed book) -- ISBN 978-1-57224-907-3 (pdf ebook)  1. Self-realization. 2. Acceptance and commitment therapy. 3. Conduct of life. I. Forsyth, John P. II. Eifert, Georg H., 1952- III. Title.  BF637.S4M26 2010  170’.44--dc22 2010028473

For Jordan. I’ see you, sweet boy. —MM

For my kîds, Caîre, Aîdan, and Maggîe, and a te cîdren în tîs word wo dream o a better tomorrow. You are te new day. Make ît sîne. Everytîng you do, everytîng you’ve been gîven, as a purpose. You ave a purpose too. Make your îe be about sometîng greater tan yourse. Gîve ît your a. eave no regrets. Deend your vaues tenacîousy and sare easîy. Be wîîng to make mîstakes. Be generous wît your tîme. And îve every moment as î ît were your ast. Above a, cerîs te bonds you ave and tose you create. For în tose bonds, you wî ind your endurîng egacy— a egacy buît on your unîmîted capacîty to sare aît, ove, kînd- ness, and compassîon. —JPF

hîs îs or my sons, Danîe and eonardo. For your own sake, I ope you won’t waste your îves and opportunîtîes by beîng îde or by casîng meanîngess tokens or “eeîng good” wîtout engagîng în purpose-drîven actîon. Instead, îsten to your eart and îsten care- uy. hen oow your dreams and be persîstent. Use wat you’ve got and gîve ît your very best sot. Gîmpses o appîness and ee- îngs o contentment wî oow rom te pursuît o your dreams, and wîtout ever avîng to case tose eeîngs. Even wen you’re young, your tîme on tîs panet îs îmîted—use ît wîsey, so tat în te end you can say, “No regrets.” —GHE

Contents

Acknowedgments . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . vîî

Chapter 1 It’s Your îe: I Not Now, Wen? . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 1

Chapter 2 Wy Vaues Matter . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 16

Chapter 3 Pursuîng Se-Growt Vaues . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 28

Chapter 4 Fîndîng Meanîng by Servîng Oters . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 47

Chapter 5 îe Purpose . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 73

Chapter 6 Navîgatîng Vaues ConLîcts . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 90

Your îe on Purpose

Chapter 7 Wat Are te Barrîers to îvîng Your Vaues? . . . . . . . . . . . 117

Chapter 8 Wîîngness wît Cognîtîve Barrîers . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 133

Chapter 9 Wîîngness wît Emotîona Barrîers . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 150

Chapter 10 Wîîngness wît Beavîora Barrîers . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 172

Chapter 11 îvîng Your îe on Purpose . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 190

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Acknowledgments

hîs book was born out o our tree îves and some paînu strug- ges. It was born out o sared wîsdom, sweat, and tears. And ît was born out o bot ardsîp and paîn, joys and trîumps, our own and tose o oters. hîs îs împortant to understand. None o tîs was easy, and în act, tîs book was born amîdst încredîbe paîn—none o ît o our own coosîng. On te eve o wrîtîng tîs book, a twenty-sometîng was on îs tousand-doar bîke, eaded or ome ater vîsîtîng a dear rîend. He was a smart and gente sou, wît great potentîa and dreams o workîng în te im îndustry. About two bocks rom îs apartment, în a seepy neîgborood, a sot rang out. He e to te ground, and wît îs ast breat dragged îmse to te nearest doorstep or ep. It was too ate. Hîs bîke and backpack remaîned on te street, a car sped of înto te nîgt, and tîs boy never saw te dawnîng o te new day. A îe snufed out by unnamed tugs, a uture snatced în an înstant—tat was one o our sons. As we wrote tîs book, one o our moms and er usband were just enterîng teîr retîrement years. hey ad worked ard a o teîr îves and ad sacrîiced teîr own înterests and desîres or te beneit o te amîy. hat’s just te kînd o peope tey were: rîc în aît and generosîty. hey deayed many tîngs, tînkîng tat