Complete Guide to Crisis & Trauma Counseling

Norman Wright H.

Description

Many pastors and lay counselors have had minimal training in clinical methods of grief and trauma counseling. The Complete Guide to Crisis and Trauma Counseling is a biblical, practical guide to pastoral counseling written by one of the most respected Christian therapists of our time. Dr. H. Norman Wright brings more than forty years of clinical and classroom experience to this topic. He shares real-life dialogues from his decades in private practice to demonstrate healthy, healing counseling sessions. Readers will learn how to counsel and coach both believers and nonbelievers who are in crisis, how to walk alongside them through the hours, weeks, and months following their trauma, and how to help them find the path to complete restoration.

Sujets

• Philosophie et théologie

Informations

• Publié par: Baker Publishing Group
• Date de parution: 14 décembre 2011
• Nombre de lectures: 0
• EAN13: 9781441267580
• Langue: English
• Poids de l'ouvrage: 1 Mo

Extrait

© 2011 H. Norman Wright
Published by Bethany House Publishers Minneapolis, Minnesota www.bethanyhouse.com
Bethany House Publishers is a division of Baker Publishing Group, Grand Rapids, Michigan. www.bakerpublishinggroup.com
Bethany House Publishers edition published 2014
Revised and updated from The New Guide to Crisis and Trauma Counseling .
Previously published by Regal Books
Ebook edition originally created 2011
Ebook corrections 07.06.2022, 11.15.2022
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ISBN 978-1-4412-6758-0
All Scripture quotations, unless otherwise indicated, are taken from the Holy Bible , New International Version ®. Copyright © 1973, 1978, 1984 by International Bible Society. Used by permission of Zondervan Publishing House. All rights reserved.
Other versions used are:
AMP —Scripture taken from THE AMPLIFIED BIBLE, Old Testament copyright © 1965, 1987 by the Zondervan Corporation. The Amplified New Testament copyright © 1958, 1987 by The Lockman Foundation. Used by permission.
KJV—King James Version . Authorized King James Version.
THE MESSAGE —Scripture taken from THE MESSAGE . Copyright © by Eugene H. Peterson, 1993, 1994, 1995. Used by permission of NavPress Publishing Group.
NASB —Scripture taken from the New American Standard Bible , © 1960, 1962, 1963, 1968, 1971, 1972, 1973, 1975, 1977, 1995 by The Lockman Foundation. Used by permission.
NCV —Scriptures quoted from The Holy Bible, New Century Version , copyright © 1987, 1988, 1991 by Word Publishing, Nashville, Tennessee. Used by permission.
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Contents
Cover
Half Title Page
Title Page
Copyright Page
Introduction: Crises—They’re All Around Us
1. Counseling from a Biblical Perspective
2. Applications of Biblical Principles (Part 1)
3. Applications of Biblical Principles (Part 2)
4. Helping Others Recover from Their Losses in Life (Part 1)
5. Helping Others Recover from Their Losses in Life (Part 2)
6. Helping a Grieving Person Recover and Say Goodbye
7. What Is a Crisis?
8. The Phases of a Crisis
9. The Process of Crisis Intervention
10. When Time Doesn’t Heal All Wounds
11. Helping the Trauma Victim
12. The Crisis of Death
13. Deaths You Will Encounter
14 The Crisis of Suicide
15. Helping the Suicidal Person and His or Her Family
16. Ministering to Children at a Time of Loss, Crisis or Trauma
17. Children’s Crises
18. Guidelines to Help Children in Grief
19. The Crises of Adolescence
20. Helping the Adolescent
Conclusion: Using Scripture and Prayer and Making Referrals
Appendix: Resources for the Bereaved
Endnotes
Index
Back Cover
ALSO AVAILABLE
Helping Those in Grief, Crisis and Trauma
Interactive Instructional DVD Training Program

This new series provides professional counselors, ministers and lay counselors the opportunity to take their knowledge and counseling skills to a higher level by observing live counseling sessions. Very few have been able to observe the dynamics of assisting others at this vulnerable time in their life, and viewing sessions such as these is one of the best ways to learn and increase your own skills. This series fills the need that many have requested.
In this DVD, you will observe counseling sessions conducted by H. Norman Wright, conduct your own evaluation of each session, hear the counselor’s analysis of what he did and why, learn what could have been done differently, discover what could be shared in the next session, and learn the counselee’s response and evaluation of his or her session. This series is ideal for individual training as well as classroom and group instruction. For information on obtaining this DVD series, contact Christian Marriage Enrichment at www.hnormanwright.com or 800-875-7560.
INTRODUCTION
Crises—They’re All Around Us
In the early 1960s, I served on the staff of a church as a youth pastor and minister of education. Fresh out of seminary, I wasn’t sure if I knew what to do. One of my first crisis experiences revolved around the discovery that I would be serving more with the youth than with education. However, I made the adjustment and began to enjoy the ministry, and in time, I saw some results. With 300 junior high, high school and college students in my program, it was a busy time.
Each summer we took a group of high school students on an outreach or study outing. One year we took 25 high school students to the High Sierras in Southern California for several days. We camped in tents, hiked, fished, interacted and studied. Nearby was a formidable, massive rock formation—Crystal Crag—over 1,000 feet high. The sheer wall was a challenge to even the most skilled climber.
One morning two of the high school boys (one, a recent graduate who was waiting to go into the Navy) decided on their own to climb the face of this cliff. They left before anyone was awake and did not inform anyone of their plans. They probably knew that we would have told them that the area was off-limits, since they were inexperienced and had no climbing gear. They walked the two miles to the base of the rock formation, made their way up the shale slide at the base of the rock and proceeded to climb.
It’s still unclear how they were able to scale the rock face given the lack of equipment and expertise, but they climbed for several hundred feet before Phil lost his handhold and plunged over 400 feet to his death. Every bone in his body was broken. His companion hung there watching in horror as his friend fell to his death, but then he continued to climb until he was off of the sheer wall and went for help. Hours later someone came to our camp and told us. There was a feeling of shock—disbelief—as we thought, This isn’t true . A few minutes later, I watched a pack train walk by with Phil’s body encased in a body bag hanging over the back of a horse. I watched until they were out of sight and then went to find a phone and call our senior pastor. It became his task to inform Phil’s parents.
Did I know what to do at this time? Not really. Did I know what to say? No. Did I feel equipped to handle this event? Not at all. I had no preparation for anything like this. I think I felt like those in ministry in New York City following the 9/11 Twin Towers disaster. Most of them said, “I don’t know what to say or do. I don’t feel equipped.” Neither did I. It was my first encounter with a combination crisis and traumatic event.
What would you have said or done? Would you have known how to respond?
I’ll never forget that day. We all sat in small groups talking in hushed voices, feeling numb and stunned. We fixed dinner, and then, strangely enough, the group began to joke, cut up and laugh for the next hour. Other adults around us were bothered by their response. However, I realized later that this was their way of taking a break from the heaviness of the crisis. It was a normal response, because adolescents tend to move in and out of their grief.
It was a long bus ride home. What was even longer was the walk from my car to the front of Phil’s home to talk with his parents. I went there to share with them the details of the day and to minister to them. Yet when I left, I went away with the feeling that everyone who had talked with them had experienced: Rather than ministering to them, I felt they had ministered to me!
This experience prompted me to begin a lifelong journey of learning as much as I could to help others during their times of need. And it wasn’t until just recently that it dawned on me that the experience on that day was the first traumatic debriefing I had ever conducted, even though I didn’t know what I was doing.
A Time to Learn
About a year later, on a Sunday evening, our church had a minister from another church as a guest speaker. His presentation had a dramatic effect upon every person in attendance. When it came time for the message, he stood up, walked to the pulpit and without reading a note or opening a Bible, proceeded to recite from memory eight passages of Scripture as a basis for his message.
The minister then said to the congregation, “Tonight I would like to share with you what to say and what not to say, what to do and what not to do, at the time of bereavement.” He paused, and I saw from my vantage point on the platform that every person in the congregation searched for a piece of paper on which to record the principles the speaker was about to discuss. I, too, looked for some paper. (I still have my notes from that message.) He gave all of us the help and guidance we needed, because we had not known what to say or do when someone had lost a loved one. (This is why people sometimes avoid a bereaved person or family.)
The practicality of that night is etched in my memory, and I have thought so often, What would happen if pastors equipped their people for life’s crises such as this one? We would have helping and caring congregations. We could do a much better job in reaching out to those in need. And what would happen if ministers were given the training th