When Wait Your Turn Means No Turn at All

Dr. S.J. Nelson, Rev. John K. Coar

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The book explores Black life at the cross-sections of Black Church, Black College, and Black community through the examination of generational differences. It offers a path forward for the most sacred places and spaces by acknowledging the past, examining the present, while looking into the future.
Historically Black people have placed their collective weight upon and trust in a four-legged stool. This stool has been the chair we have pulled up to each and every table of inclusion and exclusion. The legs of this stool have been held up by the Black Church, Black College, Black Family and Black Citizenship. These proverbial legs will stand in each chapter of this book along with a biblical parallel. If any one of these legs were to collapse, the entire stool crumbles and our people’s stability is lost as well.

Sujets

• Religion
• Christianisme
• Christian Living
• Mentoring
• Philosophie et théologie
• Generation Z
• Biserica Neagr?
• Millennial
• Historically black colleges and universities
• Leadership
• Generation X

Informations

• Publié par: WestBow Press
• Date de parution: 16 février 2023
• Nombre de lectures: 0
• EAN13: 9781664290211
• Langue: English
• Poids de l'ouvrage: 1 Mo

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WHEN WAIT YOUR TURN MEANS NO TURN AT ALL
 
 
A MILLENNIAL PERSPECTIVE OF BLACK CHURCH, BLACK COLLEGE, AND BLACK COMMUNITY
 
 
 
 
 
REV. JOHN K. COAR & DR. S.J. NELSON
 
 
 
 
 
 

 
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Scripture quotations marked AMP are taken from the Amplified® Bible, Copyright © 2015 by The Lockman Foundation. Used by permission.
 
Scripture quotations marked AMPC are taken from the Amplified® Bible, Copyright © 1954, 1958, 1962, 1964, 1965, 1987 by The Lockman Foundation. Used by permission.
 
ISBN: 978-1-6642-9020-4 (sc)
ISBN: 978-1-6642-9022-8 (hc)
ISBN: 978-1-6642-9021-1 (e)
 
Library of Congress Control Number: 2023901231
 
 
WestBow Press rev. date: 02/15/2023
 
This work is dedicated to my foreparents who could not even imagine having a book published with special recognition to our maternal grandmothers;
Bobbie Ree Odoms and Clara Robinson Brown.
This work is also dedicated to Black people in every generation who have sought understanding and advancement across generational lines. We honor you and pray that your labor is not in vain.
ACKNOWLEDGEMENTS
This book would not have been possible without the tireless support of my wife, who is both a muse and a marvel; thank you immensely for your love and how you consistently show me what love does.
To our families, who have contributed to the people that we are by exposing us to Black Church, Black College and Black Community. To Jamiya, Aliyah, Carter, Sydney, KJ, Jayson, and Jaymes, this book is written so that you all can look into a clearer mirror of identity (blemishes and all).
CONTENTS
Glossary
Generational Glossary
Foreword
Introduction
Readings List
 
Chapter 1     Thanking God I am a Millennial
Chapter 2     Black Church…Sunday’s Best
Chapter 3     I’m So Glad…I Went to an HBCU
Chapter 4     Black Family…because it Matters
Chapter 5     Black Citizenship…From We Shall Overcome to Glory Comes
 
The Millennial Mandates
GLOSSARY
Churched: Spending the majority of your formative years within a Christian denominational context. This is evident in the keen understanding and acceptance of said cultural and contextual norms like call and response or denominational styles of worship.
HBCUs : Historically Black Colleges and Universities.
Inter-generational Appreciation: The process of members of one or more generation(s) being willing to hear one another, adopt new methods, actively collaborate together, and accomplish common goals through the exchange of knowledge for wisdom.
Inter-generational Understanding: When members of various generations are willing to come together and intentionally find commonalities while working through age specific differences with empathy and compassion.
Maslov’s Hierarchy of Needs : A motivational theory in psychology comprised of five-tiers that define and discuss the needs of humans. The tiers are often depicted as hierarchical levels within a pyramid.
Post Traumatic Slave Syndrome (PTSS): A theory that explains the etiology of many of the adaptive survival behaviors in African American communities throughout the United States and the Diaspora. It is a condition that exists as a consequence of multigenerational oppression of Africans and their descendants resulting from centuries of chattel slavery.
Transactional : A communicative action or activity involving two parties or two or more things that reciprocally affect or influence each other.
Translator : Someone who defines one set of symbols for another group by expressing them in different or more comprehensive terms, which turns one language into another.
Transformational : To bring about change in composition, structure, character, or condition.
TGIF : Thank Goodness It’s Friday
GENERATIONAL GLOSSARY
Greatest Generation: Born 1901-1927, characterized by rapid technological innovation, extreme economic increase, uncertainty, and turmoil, which included seeing cultural and artistic work flourish.
Silent Generation : Born 1928-1945, characterized as loyal, with a sense of duty and honor, holding great faith in institutions, hesitant spenders of money.
Baby Boomers : Born 1946-1964, characterized as optimistic, ambitious, hopeful for a better world, yet filled with high levels of skepticism, especially of incoming generations.
Generation X(ers): Born 1965-1980, characterized as enjoying diversity, being pampered as children, a rebellious nature, “latch key kids” with “helicopter parents.”
Millennials: Born 1981-1996, characterized as loyal to institutions but based on merit, optimistic, ambitious, tech-savvy, craving attention, and eager to collaborate.
Generation Z: Born 1997-2012, characterized as globalized citizens, paying for experiences not focused on long-term investments, tech-reliant, requiring constant reaffirmation via social media.
Generation Alpha: Born 2013-Present, characterization to be determined.
FOREWORD
We are at a pivotal time in American history. There are six living generations that simultaneously occupy space and time. Each of these generations is distinct from the others and unique in its contribution to the collective. For many, the idea of multiple generations in any arena together, from the home to the office, is a cause for angst. The angst of a few causes a cry for others who are searching for credible wisdom on how to help the generations relate better to one another. This is the context within which people like John Coar, me, and other authors have sought to add to the conversation through published works. And with each volume in this burgeoning genre I read, I grow in my appreciation for each author’s take. I have a deep appreciation for John’s take in this volume.
In When Wait Your Turn Means No Turn At All , John Coar grabs the hands of Black life and brings it together with the hand of generational science. Honestly his grasp and use of generational science reads more like generational art. His writing is more cultural than it is academic. It is fueled more by experiential reflection than by qualitative research. It is more intuitive than it is studied. It is the fruit of many a dialogue, many an experience, and many musings. Coar writes from his heart such that you can feel it in your toes. It is stirring of the emotions and stimulating of the memory. Sweet nostalgia will accompany you as you breeze through its pages.
This book also weaves Black experience with Black liberation theology in a non-religious way. Coar, a Baptist preacher, thinks broadly enough about Black experience and deep enough about prophetic meaning. His correlations are not cheap clichés but nurturing nuggets of thought. The Black family, Black church, and Black college are handled redemptively. I have only experienced two of the three personally, but his writing painted visions for me of what it might have been like to attend the HBCU of my dreams.
Every Black person should read this book. People of every generation should read this book. People in authority and those hoping to gain some for the greater good should read this book. I am sure glad I read this book. Every Black man will read this book and feel understood. Every Black woman will read this book and feel respected. Every generation of the Black community will read this book and feel challenged to serve the succeeding generation well.
Darrell Hall, Doctorate of Ministry
Author of Speaking Across Generations
INTRODUCTION
This work is a result of an ongoing series of conversations being had on a consistent basis throughout our nation within Black homes, churches, colleges, and communities. Many of these conversations I have had with my wife, who has developed the meaning of home in our Black blended family. She has pushed me, a man of ministry, about the meaning of Black Church. She is a professor at a Black college; and is an active member of her Black local community. These conversations have primarily shaped the ideas I share in this book. Consistent dialogue with family, alongside conversations I have had across the Black community, have centered around the topic of generational differences. In particular, how such differences are at the heart of the erosion of sacred places and spaces created by Black people. How such erosions of these spaces are purposeful because they re