L'enfant parallèle

Luc Vanden Driessche

Description

Pour continuer à vivre et élever un enfant dès lors que celui-ci est handicapé, les parents sont poussés à développer un intense travail psychique. Dans leurs représentations se dessine souvent le portrait d'un autre enfant d'un "enfant parallèle". Partant de la clinique quotidienne, voici une analyse de représentations parentales qui insiste sur les dynamiques narcissiques sous-jacentes.

Sujets

• Psychiatrie
• Psychanalyse
• Psychologie

Informations

• Publié par: L'Harmattan
• Date de parution: 01 avril 2009
• Nombre de lectures: 1
• EAN13: 9782296225428
• Langue: Français
• Poids de l'ouvrage: 13 Mo

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