Teenage Parenting

Gupta Seema

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Many kids announce the onset of adolescence with a dramatic change in their behaviour around their parents or elders. They begin to separate from their moms and dads and try to become more independent. At the same time, children of this age are increasingly aware of how others, especially their peers, see them and are desperately trying to fit into the current fads and trends. Moreover, there is a vast generation gap between the teenagers and their parents or elders. Times have changed and with the advent of new and modern developments in science and technology, life has become faster and easier. There has been a drastic transformation in our lifestyle, and this has in turn brought about considerable changes in our behaviour, dressing styles, eating habits, modes of recreation, etc. Hence, due to the above factors, there arises continuous conflict of thoughts, beliefs and values between the parents or elders and the teenagers irrespective of the families, religions, or strata of the society they belong to. The author in this book, Teenage Parenting has incorporated various such conflicts in the form of interesting Diary Entries from the diaries of different parents and teenagers reflecting their views and grievances on several subjects. Each of the Diary Entry is followed by a Parental Tip advising parents to deal intelligently and patiently according to the issue concerned. This is further complemented by an expert advice of a Counsellor, who acts as a judge providing an impartial and amicable solution to the problem in each case. So, this is a 'must read' for both the youngsters of today and their parents to bridge the generation gap which is deepening day by day. #v&spublishersContents:1. Late Night Parties2. FB Fiasco3. Hole in My Pocket4. At Your Desk5. Remote Control6. Set Me Free7. What Do I Care!8. Attitude9. Dating Blues10. Gymming11. Mobile Mania12. Tag Along13. My Friends... Your Friends14. Dressing Spells Doom15. Career Kit16. Playing Favourites17. The Locked Gate18. Boiling Over19. Nag... Nag... Nag20. Food Row21. Exam Stress22. It's So Crowded23. I am Not Yours24. Special Needs25. Listen to Me26. Parenting Marvels27. Adolececnce28. Grievances29. Parenting Quiz

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• Publié par: V & S Publishers
• Date de parution: 01 février 2013
• Nombre de lectures: 0
• EAN13: 9789350573358
• Langue: English
• Poids de l'ouvrage: 1 Mo

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Contents
  1. Late Night Parties
  2. FB Fiasco
  3. Hole in My Pocket
  4. At Your Desk
  5. Remote Control
  6. Set Me Free
  7. What Do I Care!
  8. Attitude
  9. Dating Blues
10. Gymming
11. Mobile Mania
12. Tag Along
13. My Friends…Your Friends
14. Dressing Spells Doom
15. Career Kit
16. Playing Favourites
17. The Locked Gate
18. Boiling Over
19. Nag… Nag… Nag
20. Food Row
21. Exam Stress
22. It's So Crowded
23. I am NotYours
24. Special Needs
25. Listen to Me
Parenting Marvels
Adolesecnce
Grievances
Parenting Quiz
Publisher's Note
At V&S Publishers, it has been our constant endeavour to bring forth books which are rich in content, affordably priced and ever so interesting. This book, however, is a special effort by us to contribute to the society we live in. Through this unique piece of work, thoughtfully and beautifully carved out by our respected author, Seema Gupta, we sincerely hope to resolve the conflict between the teenagers and their parents, particularly in our Indian society, as we feel that unlike the Western countries, our society, in terms of its new interests and diverse exposure is still in its nascent stages and teenagers as well as parents need to make a constant and continuous effort to bridge this generation gap which has become more prominent over the last decade with the Western culture seeping in.
Parenting or rearing children, especially during their teens, is indeed a tough and challenging job! These are the years when there is a complete mental and physical transformation in a child's personality and behaviour. As children step out from their long period of completely sheltered childhood, they start feeling independent with their own set of ideas, values, whims and fancies, and likes and dislikes. They begin to develop their individual thinking and perceptions.
With children needing to take big decisions regarding their future and career, teenage thus, furthermore becomes a crucial period. The problem, however, arises due to constant conflict in interests and opinions of teenagers and parents with both being right and wrong at the same time in their own perspectives.
Keeping in mind our Indian society and in view of this ever rising problem of Teenage Parenting’, the author in this book has uniquely presented the views and grievances of the teenagers and their parents in the form of interesting and simple Diary Entries. These entries have been accompanied with a Counsellor's advice and a Parental Tip at the end of each entry in which an experienced counsellor gives the required advice to the teenager and his or her parent depending upon the issue concerned. This further gives a third person perspective to the addressed problem and proposes a feasible solution to the whole conflict.
We all are aware that there develops a generation gap between parents and children as they grow up and step into their teens. This gap has to be bridged by some deep thinking and understanding, both by the parents and their wards collectively. Teenagers should respect the feelings and aspirations of their parents, and the parents also should try to be less rigid and demanding on their part. The author suggests that both the parties should sit together as often as they can, just as friends, and discuss their viewpoints, problems, etc., and also debate on them, if required in a healthy atmosphere and then reach to an amicable consensus or solution.
We hope the book will serve the purpose effectively and compel our readers to go through it again and again, irrespective of their age, colour, sex or cultural background and hopefully will act as a handbook for parents and teenagers’ reference during conflicting scenarios.
Dedication
I dedicate this book to all those adolescents who are enduring this most important phase of life and their parents who support them unconditionally with love and care.
Acknowledgements
I would like to extend my sincere thanks to Mr Sahil Gupta, Managing Director of V&S Publishers for giving me this opportunity to make this dream a reality. Without his support and encouragement, this book would not have been possible.
I would also like to thank my husband Mr A.K.Gupta and my twin sons Amit and Arpit for their unfailing support.
A special note of thanks for my daughters Aashima and Ameesha whose valuable inputs helped me understand the adolescence better. I have once again lived each moment of my adolescence through them and been able to understand it from the viewpoint of parents as well as adolescents this time.
Preface
The adolescents and young adults form that salient section of our vast and diverse society which is perplexed about their own position, for their age group is neither too big to be called a fully matured individual, nor too small to be called as children. Parents may try to help, but for some inexplicable reason, the adolescents tend to automatically close their two sense organs — the eyes and ears — to what their parents want them to see and hear. However, if their peer group (friends) so much as whisper, these two organs open wide. Funny, isn't it!
Generally, the mindset of the adolescents is that parents are not their well-wishers. They are old-fashioned, rigid and dominating. This may be true sometimes and in certain cases, but not always. The youngsters feel that parents are good till they ‘give in’ and the moment they don't, they are numero uno enemy, which, they are certainly not.
However, the levels of stress that the adolescents face these days, at times does go beyond the comprehension of an adult mind. With modern electronic gadgets chipping in almost every other day, the lifestyle of the youngsters have completely transformed from what it was when their parents were teenagers. For example, an account on Facebook, today is considered to be a must to fit in their circle of friends. Calling each other is passe, the youngsters either chat on these sites or sms through their mobiles.
This may be difficult for the parents to comprehend as there is a big generation gap which needs to be bridged by sheer patience, faith and understanding on the part of both the parties.
In this book are given some Diary Entries from the diaries of some adolescents and their parents. Both marred with the same problem, they try to resolve it in their own inimitable ways. Each diary entry is assessed and followed by a Counsellor's Advice which provides an amicable solution to the concerned problem in an unbiased manner.
In addition to all these, there is an exclusive Parental Tip at the end of each diary entry given by the author based on her own real life experiences, thoughts, realisations and a deep study of this ever rising conflict between parents or elders and the teenagers.
1
Late Night Parties
Late night parties for teenagers are not acceptable in most Indian households, especially if the teenager is a girl. Does this mean the parents are too orthodox or is there any reasonable explanation to this rule that teenagers find so appalling?
Let's visit Malhotra household and see what Anushka and her parents say in this matter.

The middle class Malhotra household has following members:
Anushka — 16-years old teenager (student of class X)
Rajesh — Anushka's father (employed in a marketing job)
Suruchi — Anushka's mother (housewife)
Abhinav — Anushka's brother (12-year old, student of class VII)
THE CONFLICT!!!

Anushka's Diary

Monday, September 26, after school
It was a fine day today. We had so much fun in school. The best part of my day was when this new girl Jenny invited me for her birthday party on Friday. She will be sixteen on September 30, so she is throwi