Summary of Dr. Elaine N. Aron's The Highly Sensitive Child

Everest Media

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Please note: This is a companion version & not the original book.
Sample Book Insights:
#1 If you’ve received comments like these, it’s a sign that you have a highly sensitive child. You know that if you follow the well-intentioned advice, your child will suffer.
#2 There is no such thing as a sensitive child. Every child is different, and each parent will have to figure out what works best for their child.
#3 The trait of sensitivity is not the same as introversion. It is a normal human variation that is found in 15 to 20 percent of the population. It is not inherently shy or neurotic, and many who are not sensitive are also not inherently shy or neurotic.
#4 The 20 percent of the population that is highly sensitive typically understand the concept immediately, while the 80 percent that is not sensitive do not understand and may even answer no to every item on the questionnaire.

Sujets

• Général
• Parenting

Informations

• Publié par: Everest Media LLC
• Date de parution: 08 mars 2022
• Nombre de lectures: 0
• EAN13: 9781669350934
• Langue: English
• Poids de l'ouvrage: 1 Mo

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Insights on Elaine N. Aron's The Highly Sensitive Child
Contents Insights from Chapter 1 Insights from Chapter 2
Insights from Chapter 1

#1

If you’ve received comments like these, it’s a sign that you have a highly sensitive child. You know that if you follow the well-intentioned advice, your child will suffer.

#2

There is no such thing as a sensitive child. Every child is different, and each parent will have to figure out what works best for their child.

#3

The trait of sensitivity is not the same as introversion. It is a normal human variation that is found in 15 to 20 percent of the population. It is not inherently shy or neurotic, and many who are not sensitive are also not inherently shy or neurotic.

#4

The 20 percent of the population that is highly sensitive typically understand the concept immediately, while the 80 percent that is not sensitive do not understand and may even answer no to every item on the questionnaire.

#5

Highly sensitive individuals are those who are born with a tendency to notice more in their environment and deeply reflect on everything before acting, as compared to those who notice less and act quickly and impulsively.

#6

HSCs are highly sensitive people who make very fine distinctions. They will not like the loud mariachi band in the Mexican restaurant, noisy birthday parties, playing fast-paced team sports, or everyone watching while they give an answer in class.

#7

Some researchers say that you either have the trait or you don’t, but others say it is a continuum. My own research says that some HSCs seem more sensitive than others, but most people are in the middle.

#8

The Highly Sensitive Child is not just more aware, but also more reflective. They take in more information than other children, and process it more thoroughly. They are also highly empathic, and tend to be creative, cooperative, and kind.

#9

I knew that my son was different from a very young age. He was highly sensitive, creative, conscientious, cautious in new situations, and easily hurt by his peers. He was hard to raise in some ways, but easy in others.

#10

HSCs are easily overwhelmed by a constantly changing environment, like a classroom or a family reunion, and they will often complain about it. They may choose to play alone, watch quietly from the sidelines, eat only familiar foods, or stay in one room or indoors.

#11

The majority of personality is determined by experiences and the environment. However, not long ago, psychologists believed that a person's personality was completely determined by experiences.

#12

HSCs are extremely sensitive children. They are also easily overwhelmed, as they are experiencing so much and haven’t yet become familiar with what they see or learned how to reduce what their senses are absorbing.

#13

All temperaments are normal. They are simply different ways of behaving, and they are found in all higher animals. The majority of animals are bold and go into the traps, while the minority, the shy fish, escape the traps.

#14

The sensitive person is typically the scientist, counselor, theologian, historian, lawyer, doctor, nurse, teacher, and artist. But these professions are becoming less profitable and less satisfying due to a cycle that starts with the nonsensitive moving aggressively into decision-making roles.

#15

As parents, we often think we know our children best, but we still don’t know anything about them. We label them as being sensitive and think we know what they are like, but we don’t.

#16

There is a wide range of HSCs, and their children are often sensitive as well. They are not all alike, and their differences are caused by a variety of genes and experiences.

#17

There are many characteristics that define an HSC. They are typically sensitive to social novelty, so they struggle with starting school. They do not like wearing costumes at Halloween, and they are not interested in birthday parties.

#18

The playpen was the solution to overstimulation in Emilio’s infancy. He was not interested in exploring the cupboards or closets, and he wanted his playpen. He was not interested in parties or noise, and he needed plenty of down time and a schedule.

#19

The pause-to-check system is the part of the brain that looks at the situation you are in and sees if it is similar to any past situations stored in your memory. The go-for-it system is the part of the brain that is designed to explore, succeed, and pursue the good things in life.

#20

The nine temperament traits identified by Alexander Thomas and Stella Chess are low sensory threshold, activity or energy level, intensity of emotional response, rhythmicity, orderliness, tidiness, dependability, and unpredictability.

#21

HSCs are generally poor adapters, but they are also extremely sensitive and have a long attention span. They are persistent, but their vision of how to do something perfectly can make them frustrated when they can't achieve it.

#22

It is important to understand that HSCs are not necessarily timid or fearful. They are not born that way, and they can be terrified by bad experiences. But they are also fascinated by new things, and it is important to focus on the adaptive aspects of their personalities.

#23

HSCs are not overly sensitive. They are simply highly reflective, preferring to step back and consider what they’ve encountered rather than rushing forward. They value the inner, subjective experience of what they encounter, while extroverts value the outer, objective experience.

#24

A good way to know if your child is an HSC is to simply read through the chapter. If he is only sensitive about one thing, or something that would be expected for his age, he is not an HSC. If his personality has undergone a sudden, persistent change, or if he is only sensitive about something that would be expected for his age, he may need to see a professional team.

#25

The relationship between high sensitivity and attention deficit disorder is similar to that between children with ADD and those without. Both are disorders that indicate a general lack of adequate executive functions, such as decision making, focusing, and reflecting on outcomes.

#26

High sensitivity is found in about 20 percent of the population. It is not a disorder, but a normal variation. It is characterized by an eagerness to communicate, except when very over stimulated.

#27

The Highly Sensitive Child (HSC) is a child who is extremely sensitive to both physical and emotional stimuli. They are usually calm and outgoing with those they know, but they become extremely upset and unable to function under stress.

#28

The most important thing to remember about your highly sensitive child is that they are a joy to be with, and they will make a great parent. They are more aware of the problems and pain in the world, but they are also more aware of the joy and beauty that exists in the world as well.

#29

The Sensitivity Quotient is a survey that you and your child take together. It measures your child’s sensitivity, as well as their other strengths. It also lists their problem areas, in your opinion.

#30

When writing about your child, consider their sensitivity as well as their other temperament traits. List their strengths, then the problems, in your opinion. How these problems are affected by your view of them.

#31

The parents of a typical HSC, Estelle, did not have the advantages that you might imagine come with being a Harvard graduate. They were living below the poverty line when they had their daughter, Maria.

#32

The sensitivity gap is the difference between how people perceive Maria and how she actually feels about herself. She is a highly sensitive person who has grown up wonderfully thanks to responsive, sensitive parenting.

#33

The role of genetics in child development is debated, but the role of parenting is clear. Highly sensitive children need warm, responsive caregiving, and they are more affected by caregivers who are mentally absent or who would rather not be there.