Summary of Matthew Fray's This Is How Your Marriage Ends

Everest Media

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Please note: This is a companion version & not the original book.
Sample Book Insights:
#1 The author’s client, Grayson, was Vegan and had missed lunch and breakfast because of a work emergency. He was getting that empty-stomach sick feeling, so he went to a restaurant and got a fish sandwich. His wife was going to freak out about it.
#2 It is easy to fall into the trap of thinking of your wife as some crazy lunatic who is freaking out over a fish sandwich. But that is completely off the mark. Your wife is hurt because she has just been betrayed. She does not care about the fish sandwich, and it is dishonest to characterize her that way.
#3 The loss of trust in a relationship is the cause of the death of a marriage. The erosion of safety and trust create the conditions for the death of a marriage.
#4 Divorce is one of the most disruptive and painful experiences a person will experience. It’s difficult for most people, and it’s not something we spend a lot of time discussing.

Sujets

• Conflict resolution

Informations

• Publié par: Everest Media LLC
• Date de parution: 10 avril 2022
• Nombre de lectures: 0
• EAN13: 9781669383215
• Langue: English
• Poids de l'ouvrage: 1 Mo

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Insights on Matthew Fray's This Is How Your Marriage Ends
Contents Insights from Chapter 1 Insights from Chapter 2 Insights from Chapter 3 Insights from Chapter 4 Insights from Chapter 5 Insights from Chapter 6 Insights from Chapter 7 Insights from Chapter 8 Insights from Chapter 9 Insights from Chapter 10
Insights from Chapter 1

#1

The author’s client, Grayson, was Vegan and had missed lunch and breakfast because of a work emergency. He was getting that empty-stomach sick feeling, so he went to a restaurant and got a fish sandwich. His wife was going to freak out about it.

#2

It is easy to fall into the trap of thinking of your wife as some crazy lunatic who is freaking out over a fish sandwich. But that is completely off the mark. Your wife is hurt because she has just been betrayed. She does not care about the fish sandwich, and it is dishonest to characterize her that way.

#3

The loss of trust in a relationship is the cause of the death of a marriage. The erosion of safety and trust create the conditions for the death of a marriage.

#4

Divorce is one of the most disruptive and painful experiences a person will experience. It’s difficult for most people, and it’s not something we spend a lot of time discussing.

#5

We often don’t tell the truth to be gross and deceptive in a con-artist manner, but maybe to avoid advertising the shame we’re trying to hide. People often don’t feel invited to share the scariest, most stressful parts of their lives.

#6

The state of marriage and long-term romantic relationships is that they are common. They seem normal and non-weird. But they are actually very scary and can end very badly.

#7

The most stressful life event is losing a spouse. A marital separation or divorce changes your life overnight. There are legal and financial concerns, as well as children and pets to consider.

#8

The most common scenario between a man and a woman is for them to meet, fall in love, and get married. In the United States, about 6,200 marriages per day, and about 3,000 divorces per day.

#9

The human spirit is a tough thing to squash. We are resilient and demonstrate a biological or cultural predisposition toward advancement and improvement. So, even though divorce is life-shaking and soul-crushing, some people dig deep in their bellies and decide to try again.

#10

Second marriages in the United States fail 67 percent of the time. The divorce rate for second marriages is even higher. People in second marriages end them even more often than the inexperienced first-time couples who didn’t know what they were getting themselves into.

#11

The second time around, the odds of a successful marriage are about 2:1. The reward for those who bravely try a second time. About a 2:1 chance that they’ll be having divorce papers notarized sometime in the not-too-distant future.

#12

I was a four-year-old when I learned what divorce was. My parents divorced in 1983, and I was a little kid who once cried during a tornado drill at my preschool because I thought The Wizard of Oz twister was about to swoop in and send us up to the sky.

#13

I was told that I would have to live with my mother in Ohio. I would see my father only during summers and holidays. I was heartbroken, but my mother and father assured me that they would always love me and that everything would be fine.

#14

I had to be strong, like my plastic hero action figures and their animated counterparts saving the day on my Saturday morning cartoons. If I cried, it would hurt the parent I was saying goodbye to even more. I couldn’t cry or else it would hurt the parent driving me away even more.

#15

When people get divorced, we are often like, Of course, they did. Who didn’t see that coming. What a shame. So, what are we having for dinner. before returning to our regularly scheduled program of watching TV and checking our social media feeds.

#16

Divorce is not the end of the world, but it can feel like it as it’s happening. It can break you on the inside, and it can rob you of your past and future.

#17

I had never experienced such intense pain that made me question whether I wanted to be alive anymore. I began to realize that my wife was experiencing the same type of pain, and that it was causing her to consider ending her marriage.

#18

There are millions of emotionally distraught and clinically depressed divorcees who would give anything to have their families reunited. The circumstances and behaviors that destroy romantic love, erode trust, and poison our emotional health are often disguised as harmless, innocent, everyday behaviors.
Insights from Chapter 2

#1

Marriage is like being on a television show called Marriage: Survivor Island. You know you must eat, but you don’t know where or what’s safe to eat. You know how to not die, but you don’t know what’s fatal.

#2

We were all given false information about marriage and relationships as children, and as adults, we don’t know any better. We must collectively learn about the knowledge and skills we will need to excel in our relationships.

#3

I was always a good person, and I believed that my good character was the reason I was a good husband.