Why We Love

Matt Lilley

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Is there someone you can't stop thinking about? Just a friend or is it a crush? Could all those heart-pounding feelings even be love? Where do these emotions come from? The answer is in the science of affection! From enjoying the bond of family and friends or the smallest flutters in your stomach to the gooiest, mushiest of loves, emotions can run high. But next time you or your friends feel all warm and fuzzy, you'll understand what's really going on in your brains. Plus, you'll learn tips for decoding what's happening in your body and find out how to strengthen your self-love. Mental health is as important as your heart, so when affectionate behaviours and feelings have crossed the line, you'll also learn when it's time to reach out for help.

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• Publié par: Capstone Global Library
• Date de parution: 23 janvier 2020
• Nombre de lectures: 0
• EAN13: 9781474789349
• Langue: English
• Poids de l'ouvrage: 4 Mo

Extrait

WHY WE LOVE THE SCIENCE OF AFFECTION

Matt Lilley

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Contents

CHAPTER 1 What is love?� � � � � � � � � � � � � � � � � � � � � � � � � � � � � � � � � � � � � � � � �4 CHAPTER 2 Love is . . . a chemical imbalance?� � � � � � � � � � � � � � � � � �8 CHAPTER 3 Love is . . . squishy: romantic love� � � � � � � � � � � � � � � � � �24 CHAPTER 4 Love is . . . inside you: self-love� � � � � � � � � � � � � � � � � � � � �32 CHAPTER 5 Love is . . . selfless: altruism and compassion� � � � �44

CHAPTER 6 Love’s path� � � � � � � � � � � � � � � � � � � � � � � � � � � � � � � � � � � � � � � � � � 54

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CHAPTER 1

Whatis love?

OMETIMES IT SEEMS LIKE every song on the radîo, every S fîlm at the cînema, every book în the lîbrary îs about one thîng: L-O-V-E,LOVE. Maybe certaîn people în your class have been wrîtîng long, secret notes to each other. Maybe you have a frîend who’s suddenly gone all starry-eyed over somebody. Or maybe you’ve been feelîng warm and fuzzy about a certaîn someone. At tîmes love îs just în the background, lîke noîse în a classroom. At other tîmes, once you really start to notîce ît, ît can feel as îf love îseverywhere.

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When we talk about love, what are we really talkîng about? People use the wordloveîn a lot of dîfferent ways. You mîght say, “I love cheesy puffs!” You mîght tell your best frîend, “I love you!” Or someone else mîght say, “I love her, but I’m notin lovewîth her.” They’re all usîng the wordlove, but they’re not sayîng the same thîng. The ancîent Greeks had a lot of dîfferent words for what we call love, încludîng these:

•éros: Romantîc love. The mushy stuff. •philia: The love that comes wîth deep frîendshîp. •ludus: Playful love. Thînk of ît as flîrtatîous, care-free affectîon between two people. •storge: The kînd of love felt between chîldren and theîr parents – love for famîly. •philautia: Self-love. Lovîng ourselves îs one of the foundatîons for lovîng others. •agápe: Also known as selfless love. Many relîgîons of the world belîeve thîs îs the ultîmate love – the kînd of love that you mîght feel when you help strangers în need.

These kinds of love are all feelings of affection.

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