How to Enjoy Sex

Om Gupta

Description

This book has four components. The first part is a detailed analysis about sex and need to treat it as a enterprise for entertainment. The second part is questions and their answers given by the author to his readers in successive publications he has worked for. These questions have been divided in six chapters-Getting Aware of Sex, Teenage Indulgence, Pre-marital Forays, Sex in Marriage, Extra-marital affairs, Alternative Preferences for Sex, and Negotiating Embarrassments. But the underlying theme remains how to enjoy more in any kind of sexual activity. The third part consists of a comparatively large glossary of sexual terms to understand its linguistic nuances better. The fourth and the last part consists of the jokes on sex which run in the whole book to add reading pleasure.

Informations

• Publié par: Diamond Books
• Date de parution: 10 septembre 2020
• Nombre de lectures: 0
• EAN13: 9798128819826
• Langue: English

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How to Enjoy Sex
(Question & Answer)
 

 
eISBN: 979-81-2881-982-6
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How to Enjoy Sex
By - Om Gupta
Dedication
To those men who help their women to reach orgasms first.
Acknowledgement
Kuldip Saluja for Billoo Badhshah’s Jokes and numerous readers, friends and colleagues who contributed through their questions, suggestions and experiences.
Author’s Note
This book has four components. The first part is a detailed analysis about sex and need to treat it as a enterprise for entertainment. The second part is questions and their answers given by the author to his readers in successive publications he has worked for. These questions have been divided in six chapters-Getting Aware of Sex, Teenage Indulgence, Pre-marital Forays, Sex in Marriage, Extra-marital affairs, Alternative Preferences for Sex, and Negotiating Embarrassments. But the underlying theme remains how to enjoy more in any kind of sexual activity. The third part consists of a comparatively large glossary of sexual terms to understand its linguistic nuances better. The fourth and the last part consists of the jokes on sex which run in the whole book to add reading pleasure. Your comments and questions are welcomed at [e-mail]
Foreplay
This book is about enjoyment without any guilt. We don’t want to advocate free sex but we want our readers to shed all inhibitions after taking all pros and cons into consideration, once they decide to make love. We don’t want to sit on judgement on any aspect of relationship but want you to go all hog once you take a plunge. Try and experiment, innovate, think and devise ways and means to derive full pleasure through sex.
The history of mankind is full of all relationships kinds of-normal, abnormal, taboos, forbidden, perversions and aberrations even incest. There are social norms, religious restrictions, legal obstructions, conventions and traditions coming in the way of enjoyment. But those who dare and bare feel the last tickle.
Human touch finds its crescendo in sexual act. One can achieve this through various paths divinity. The ultimate including taste of pudding lies in eating it. No one can teach how to make love. Even the novices without any advice become perfect lovers. No one tells a teenager about the sensation in his organ but the day he gets it, he is a changed person.
All healthy human beings want to derive satisfaction through sex. We want to add some spice into this act. Why to be coy about it. We rarely talk it out in open. We refrain our children asking questions about sex. We even fight shy in holding hands in public. It took ages before a hero gestured to kiss his heroine on the screen. It was a different matter that by that time nothing had been left for imagination through wet sarees, kisses behind the trees and steaming scenes of petting and necking inside bedrooms and bathrooms.
Generally sex books talk about human anatomy and diseases that could be caused by sexual intercourse. If they talked about enjoyment it was as is they were talking about forbidden love. Kama Sutra remains the only treatise that openly advocates how to seek pleasure through sex. This book even tries to educate how to flirt and sleep with women out of wedlock and even adulterous relationship. It was written centuries ago. A lot of dimensions have been added to the art of love making. This book will try add another foot note.
Female orgasm has been a subject of debate, discussion, psychic treatment, clinical approach et al. Reems of papers have been written on it. A whole industry of aphrodasiacs is flourishing as how to help man achieve this biggest challenge of his sexual life. Let’s talk about it in a little detail.
Nature has chosen to make the orgasmic experience different for man and woman. While man can enter a woman, make some awkward thrusts in her vagina, ejaculate and be done with it. His sex arousal and satisfaction graph is rather simple. Starts with zero, shoots of to 90 and comes at a faster speed to zero again. On the other hand a woman takes her sweet time to first get initial indulgence in a man of her choice. If the man happens to be her husband then more often than not she does it as a conjugal duty, lies dormant, widens her legs, let him be into make some penetrations and go to sleep after dismounting. Most of the men use the missionary position of getting on top and fornicate. In such situations the majority of women don’t move an inch from their position, stare into the eyes of the man they are destines to live till death does them apart or keep them closed and gives him his pleasure ‘without even thinking about herself. Many don’t experience even once what is called a female orgasm throughout their life. The question arises why nature has been so discriminatory to woman about it.
Why it made so complicated for woman. May be to maintain a balance between the male and female desires. If both the desires were equally intense, spontaneous and quick, the human population would have been looming in much larger proportion. A woman has always been conscious and cautious that the sexual act would make her a mother. Thus, the whole business of love making is doubly cumbersome for a woman. One, she can’t experience her peak and secondly she always lives under the fear of getting pregnant. It calls for a greater responsibility on the part of the male partner who eats and still has his cake. This situation has forced women libbers like Germaine Greer to produce classic books like Female Eunuch.
If you go into the genesis of sexual act its primary function is to procreate. If the element of pleasure was missing from the sexual act, perhaps no one would have bothered about it. Eventually, I wouldn’t have been here with this book and you won’t have been around to read it. No wonders that man and woman have jumped into bed without realising that it could lend them into an unwanted parenthood. So, intense is the sexual drive.
Like the food. These two hungers can make a man crazy if not made available in due course. For food the man labours and for sex the institution of marriage got evolved. But like in food he seeks variations and for that he experiments. His behaviour towards sex is no different. Ironically his adventures in food are hailed while his forays in the realm of sex are treated with disdain and sometimes with contempt.
Society has tried to regulate the man’s sexual conduct. Those who violate are termed as perverts. But it was not like that from the beginning of human race. In fact sex became a sin only in the medieval age perhaps after the entry of religion in our life. Otherwise our ancient temples like in Khajuraho, Jagannath Puri or Konark have depicted sexual acts in most explicit terms. There are many explanations to this. It ranges from living the dirty world of sex outside before entering a temple to the celebration of what is the best and most intimate aspect of human relationship. But there is an element of in built hypocrisy. Most of us wear two masks when it comes to sex. One they fantasise and the other they preach.
The purpose of this book is to relate sex with pleasure without attaching any strings. Leaving the subject of morality to the priest and social reformers. We have tried to look sex as a tool to attain joy, pleasure, happiness, amusement, thrill, excitement or whatever name you want to give it. Our idea is neither to advocate a prudish society nor a free for all world. The book will not bore you ad infinitum by talking about male and female anatomies and sexually transmitted diseases.
Thank God, that the word sex doesn’t have four letters. Otherwise it would have been condemned and dumped without understanding or trying it. According to Oxford Advanced Learner’s Dictionary sex is a state of being a male or a female. But the popular perception varies from person to person. In common parlance it is taken as a substitute for having a physical relationship between a man and a woman.
The nature has created such a desire between opposite sexes so intense that the adam and eve didn’t need a book like this to indulge in sexual act. And there we are in billions spread over the whole earth across continents and oceans. This is the only desire which is irrespective of caste, creed, colour, race and nationality.
The craze for innovation has led men and women even to experiment relationships between the same sex described by the mainstream as unnatural, undesirable and illegal. But that is a subject of an entirely different discussion.
Sex has grown along with the growth of civilization as well as culture. It is manifested in fine arts, sculpture and literature. The man’s imagination has taken free flights in understanding, explaining, advising, counselling and even curing it. In fact a whole industry has developed around these three letters including pornographic books, films, gigolos, sex objects, novels, psychiatrists, sex doctors, witch craft experts, astrology etc. But very few have treated this as a pure subject of pleasure. After all this is the most intimate, most personal and most satisfying relationship that can exist between a man and woman.
Despite the fact that it is enjoyed in private by all and sundry, most of us behave in a prudish fashion not to talk about it in public. We are aware of its dangers, if our children enter into a physical relationship before fully realising its consequences but we fight shy in discussing it with them. It is still hotly debated in the society whether sex education should at all be given to the school children. The parents rarely broach this issue at home. But would hit the ceiling if they catch their wards with their pants down. Even a harmless indulgence like masturbation is looked down upon with disgust and some might