Intuitive Man

Paul Henry C.

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Let's be honest, if you are looking at my book, you are desperate to get into a relationship. I understand, dude, because I was too. You are not alone. Understanding a female is nearly impossible. However, if you can be honest with yourself and understand how your past may impact your approach to relationships in the present, this book can help. Example after example is provided in this book so that you can build experience in figuring out when your woman has lost interest or never showed interest. Why waste your time with a relationship that's going nowhere when you can interpret disinterest and move to the next opportunity. Never do it alone. One or more friends can listen to you and provide honest feedback to adjust your game plan. Believe in yourself, you will find the loving relationship you seek.

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• Publié par: Austin Macauley Publishers
• Date de parution: 29 novembre 2019
• Nombre de lectures: 0
• EAN13: 9781528961493
• Langue: English

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The Intuitive Man
C. Paul Henry
Austin Macauley Publishers
2019-11-29
The Intuitive Man About the Author Dedication Copyright Information © Introduction Section One The Quality of Being Self-Aware Chapter 1 Mom – My Emotional Mentor Chapter 2 Indicators of Past Problems Chapter 3 The Child Within Chapter 4 Imago Relationship Therapy Zombie Author Chapter 5 The Emotional Impact from Divorce Chapter 6 Transitions and Uncertainties Chapter 7 Taking Care of Yourself Chapter 8 Boundaries Chapter 9 Therapy Chapter 10 The Continuum Between Companionship and Intimacy Chapter 11 Why Does Love Elude You Section Two The Power of Intuition Chapter 12 Discerning Unacceptable Behavior Chapter 13 Consider Avoiding Separated and Newly Divorced People Chapter 14 Knowing When They Are Not Interested Chapter 15 Men, Understand the Current Dating Environment Section Three Strength in Numbers Chapter 16 Your Inner Circle – Support Group Chapter 17 Support Group – A Safe Haven Chapter 18 What Social Groups Offer Epilogue
About the Author
Mr Henry is a real loser when it comes to dating and understanding women. He did the smart thing: he got help from a licensed psychologist who counselled him on how to be self-aware, intuitive and make friends with guys to support him as he dated women.
Dedication
I dedicate this book to Patrick Haddad, a master hairstylist at Rodi Salon. As my hairstylist, he is the only person who believed in me writing this book.
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Introduction
Each of us can relate to the joy of being in love but few of us have experienced a loving and long-lasting, productive relationship. Certainly the love between two people is something so wonderful and delightful that it has been sought throughout the ages. To be included into a loving unit, a family is the aspiration of us all.
Today, many experience disenfranchisement and isolation. Love between two partners holds the promise of emotional fulfillment. We are looking for a committed relationship between a man and a woman that has purpose and meaning. For most of us, it is an important foundation of our human existence.
It seems that the more we pursue love, it evades us. There are many reasons for this phenomena; the inability to ‘keep the love you find’. I have a theory as to why relationships and marriages fail. I believe they fail because we do not acknowledge or even understand the emotional impact from our past lives. The childhood and teenage experiences between our parents and siblings are often tragic and significant that cause hidden emotional defects that will impair and negatively impact our current day relationships.
Our past self is our present now. We cannot escape from the historical drama that impinged upon our emotional self. However, we can acknowledge the prior self that was hurt and try to repair the problem through psychological counseling. This on-going process can be referred to as ’ recovery ’ , the transformation into an emotionally healthy person. It is an on-going process because it takes time to change. Such principles have to be incorporated into your behavior to be effective, i.e. embracing a new life style.
This book provides the basic skills that address a limited form of recovery in the dating process. We cover a very narrow aspect of relationships, the very beginning process of dating, i.e. the selection of a prospective partner, having the view of establishing an emotionally healthy, long-term relationship with another person. By developing such recovery skills, you will attract emotionally healthy people as you cultivate a form of emotional wellness in your dating experience. You will become the loving person you seek.
What the introduction covers:
□ Importance of self-examination (circumspect, self-aware) in approaching dating
□ Sharing dating issues with others
□ Better odds of attracting like-minded people
□ Using intuition to adjust the course of your dating
□ Past conflicts impact current relationships or early imprinting
□ Getting assistance from a licensed counselor changed my life
□ Emotional Zombie has pent up emotions unable to have a productive relationship
□ Toxic shame
□ Layout of the book
I believe one of the hardest issues an adult will encounter is an openness to personal introspection. Let’s face it—it is hard to look at ourselves as we really are. An old-fashioned word for this is circumspect, i.e. an honest evaluation of ourselves, or being self-aware.
Talking to someone else about our dating life (or lack thereof) can be very personal. Opening your life up to a counselor or group of people to help you evaluate your life can be even more humbling. The idea is to use this book to analyze your own dating situations in the context of your life, to be a mirror of self-awareness about yourself.
At first, the evaluation of your own life may be somewhat difficult, but your newfound self-awareness will certainly help you in your dating experience. I believe you could eventually develop an intuition about what’s best and most appropriate for you. In time, this will lead more and more to an emotional healthy state. I cannot guarantee that if you apply the lessons in this book you will find true love. But I believe your emotional stability and maturity will definitely attract the right kind of person to love.
As you read on, you will probably wonder why I discuss my experiences from my childhood. As I will explain later, the past conflicts impact our current relationships called early imprinting 1 . It is important to first recognize this through self-evaluation. The point here is that if you cannot assess the real state of your own life, you will be unable to learn from observation (your intuition) so as to interpret the feedback and adjust the course of your dating. Being self-aware is an essential ingredient of developing your intuition.
After my divorce, I did the first smart thing in my life; I obtained help from a licensed counselor. I went in telling my counselor the problems with those horrible women, and I eventually finished the counseling three years later by learning that most of my relationship problems revolved around the child within that never grew up. Without going through this recovery process, I would not have been able to heal to the point where I could attract an emotionally healthy partner.
Until I received counseling in my late-thirties, I would describe the preceding time as the pre-zombie and after counseling as post-zombie. Why use zombie to describe the period before counseling? A zombie is a ghoul who has no feelings and cannot express himself without a basic grunting sound. The pain of my past life, which I will explain later, was so intense that my inner child was locked up in a prison, and with it all of my emotions, in order to defend my chattered soul against the onslaught of two parents clashing in my childhood. It was brutal, it was fierce, it was violent, and it was an everyday experience.
Thus, my inner soul defended itself from the painful surroundings by hiding my toxic (harmful or destructive) shame and emotional pain from my childhood. Therefore, I was not free to release my feelings because they were locked up in a prison deep within my heart. Due to my early imprinting 1 , I was destined for failure with love because, like a zombie, I had no outward feelings to interact with a woman. I learned about these hidden shortcomings through an introspection process, an honest look at myself.
Consequently, there are certain dating skills that will help us to attract emotionally healthy people. First is the quality being self-aware. Second is being perceptive or intuitive as we date and approach a possible relationship. Third is cultivating a small support group to provide encouragement and feedback to perfect our intuition. The book is first organized around these three important principles.
We will focus on developing the skills and exploring the process that leads to an emotional healthy relationship. You cannot get to this outcome without the requisite capability developed initially through self-awareness and on-going recovery. Moreover, these processes will help you apply what you have learned to infinite circumstances that no book could fully address. Use what works in your unique situation. In time, you will become the very person you are trying to attract.

Developing the Master Relationship Plan, by Edward A. Dreyfus, Ph.D., Self-Help and Psychology Magazine, May 29, 1998. ↩
Section One

The Quality of Being Self-Aware
As I previously stated, it can be difficult to honestly assess our own life. One reliable fact about a mirror, when we look into it—it never lies about the reflection. Ergo the importance of therapy and a look at our past life that shaped our current self.
You probably had the experience of having some crumb on your face after you ate a meal. When you looked in the bathroom mirror, you experienced embarrassment wondering how the people at the restaurant saw the ‘crumb’ on your face. You probably would have given anything