New Era Proactive Parenting Guide

Jade-Kimberly Sterling

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A quick, reality-checking, handy-sized guide for anyone that is looking to make their parenting journey easier. If you are new to parenting or a veteran, you can still join in the ideas of proactive parenting. What to expect. Know the signs. Be proactive. The alternative methodology to parenting.

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• Publié par: Austin Macauley Publishers
• Date de parution: 30 août 2019
• Nombre de lectures: 0
• EAN13: 9781528967273
• Langue: English
• Poids de l'ouvrage: 1 Mo

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The New Era Proactive Parenting Guide
Jade-Kimberly Sterling
Austin Macauley Publishers
2019-08-30
The New Era Proactive Parenting Guide About the Author About the Book Copyright © Jade-Kimberly Sterling (2019) Acknowledgement Introduction Going Along with the Dream vs Being Smacked by the Truth Chapter 1 It Begins with You Chapter 2 Breaking down the Equation How to Look After Yourself – Start Training! -TLC Activity Time! -Sleep Well -It is Good to Talk. Chapter 3 Breaking down the Equation pt2 – Being Proactive Chapter 4 Proactive – Smart-Thinking of the First Few Weeks The Hospital Experience Your Physical Healing Cooking Culture Time the majority of your visitors. Visitors will ask you if there is anything you need. Time saving First time-saving strategy – Home delivery Second time-saving strategy – Tub with the nappies in all rooms. Third time-saving strategy – Strategic planning of household items Third time-saving strategy – In the kitchen. Chapter 5 Proactively Not Making Rods for Your Own Back-Weaning to Toddlers Chapter 6 Proactive Smart: Preparation for New Addition to Your Family Chapter 7 The Proactive Shopper 1# To draw up an Absolute necessary and a Secondary list 2# A proactive shopper knows babies literally grow within minutes 3# A proactive shopper knows to wait and research 4# A Proactive shopper knows when to cash in 5# A Proactive shopper will buy what is required for any emergencies. Chapter 8 The Proactive Parent Shares his Parenting Regrets to enable Others to be Proactive Chapter 9 How to Spot your Future Proactive Network Chapter 10 Proactively Looking to Help Others in Your Network Chapter 11 Let Us Summarise Chapter 12 Picking back up the Dream from Chapter 1 – Revised.
About the Author
Jade-Kimberly currently works in a secondary school in North London, teaching English. The youths in her school would say she is passionate, never gives up and is a mother to them all.
She has two darlings to take care of at home and loves researching on ancient civilisations and raising collective consciousness. Her aim is to create a proactive network to encourage children and adults alike to live life proactively, collectively.
She is obsessed with chips and Nando’s Mayo.
Her favourite mantra: Love is all.
About the Book
A quick, reality-checking, handy-sized guide for anyone that is looking to make their parenting journey easier.
If you are new to parenting or a veteran, you can still join in the ideas of proactive parenting.
What to expect. Know the signs. Be proactive.
The alternative methodology to parenting.
Parenting (Noun):
The emotional maternal journey of having or raising a child.
Proactive (Adjective):
(of a person or action) creating or controlling a situation rather than just responding to it after it has happened.
Copyright © Jade-Kimberly Sterling (2019)
The right of Jade-Kimberly Sterling to be identified as author of this work has been asserted by her in accordance with section 77 and 78 of the Copyright, Designs and Patents Act 1988.
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ISBN 9781528932950 (Hardback)
ISBN 9781528967273 (ePub e-book)
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First Published (2019)
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Acknowledgement
I give thanks.
A huge thank you to the universe for manifesting my dreams. I was a dreamer, but now I am an author.
To Kai and Amora, my loves, my never-ending sparks of light. Mummy did it! May I be an example to you of what love can achieve, as love is all.
To Steve Sterz – my knight in shining armour, your restlessness to accept anything sublevel propelled and inspired me constantly. Thank you for your listening ear, and answering constant questions with love and limitless patience.
To my beautiful Princess Kifah – your excitement and faith in me, and for this book, never wavered. Blessed be.
Finally, a huge thanks to ‘Just Dance’ that kept my darlings occupied many uncountable times so I could just keep writing.

This guide will use the term ‘parenting’ and ‘parents’ loosely throughout.
However, this is a reference to any sex/gender that is parenting, within any kind of loving family unit/structure you are bringing up your Darling(s) in. The text does refer to new-borns; however, there is more than enough ‘food for thought’ that could be applied to any small-aged child.
This book will refer to all babies and children regardless of status i.e. to be adopted, adopted, to be born, just born, toddler, infants and very young children simply as ‘Darlings’. Not only is it my favourite word for kiddies, but it is a term of endearment.
Last note: Many sentences start with ‘And’. I am fully aware this will be seen as an atrocity within the English language and literature world, however it allows me to flow. So please forgive me. Today we are keeping it simple, keeping it cute, and calling it a form of literacy enjambment!
Introduction

Going Along with the Dream vs

Being Smacked by the Truth
Tiny hands and feet. The soft heavenly bundling fabrics. The lure of the baby powder smell. The celebrations. The gifts that make you ohhh and arrrr . The beautiful nursery painstakingly designed. A new world enveloping you and that precious bundle that now belongs to you.
If you already have had kids, do you still remember that feeling? If you are pregnant or thinking of adopting, I am sure you have caught yourself in the clouds romanticising something very similar to the above.
Let’s dream deeper. You or your surrogate are heavily pregnant, or you could be at the final stages of adoption. Regardless, it is time to now prepare for your new arrival. You start the fun bits first – spend that cash! You are literally walking on fluffy clouds in the holy grail of baby land – mother care. The shopping trolley going from an empty mass of metal on wheels to laden with white boxes with various pictures of newborns and toddlers in the midst of blissful feeding or playing. Then, like a cherry on the top, the trolley is draped with miniscule outfits that are more for your visual pleasure than the comfort of your little pending Darling. You will go to all the other popular shops, find new gadgets, and even go back and refund others to find better, cheaper versions and, of course, heap on even more tiny clothes. You look at a stroller that costs half a monthly mortgage payment because you have envisioned your mini-you snoozing comfortably whilst you stroll around town. Don’t forget – if you’re a fusspot like me, you have to have the bag to match the stroller too. Next, your eyes turn to many hours researching a car seat. You want one where her majesty’s army tank could roll over it, and your Darling still will be there gorgeously cooing and holding up arms in the air for a cuddle, but the price is equivalent to stocking the fridge for 2 months. Mental memo: shopping done. Tick, all ready to go.
Next task. Set up baby’s corner or room. It just has to be perfect. Everything is either pale-coloured or gender inspired. Pending Darling has so many soft toys – they will be 8 years old by the time they get to the giraffe at the back of the stack, but hold on – it makes you a happy pending parent. You set up a little changing hub which contains everything you need – nappies, wipes etc. – all the essentials in one place. The room is decked out in coordinating curtains and bedding, and is worthy of thousands of likes on an Instagram post. Mental memo: Baby’s room done. Tick, all ready to go.
You have spent hours looking over your birth plan. You have been to all the antenatal classes. You know how to breathe perfectly like a meditating Buddhist monk. You would like a beautiful, spiritual water birth, accompanied by slow relaxation music. You want everyone who is in the room to be calm, only speaking in low hushed tones. And you most definitely do not want any painkillers – women were made to give birth, right? The show One Born Every Minute is so over-exaggerated, right? Your friend’s sister-in-law pushed without any interventions, right? You know you can do it. Mental memo: Birth plan done. Tick, all ready to go.
Then you need to make sure your hospital bag is packed. You have the midwife’s recommendations already. You ensure the holy grail of all hospital bags are packed and are by the front door. The best route to drive for each quarter of the day mapped out, tucked in the side pocket. Mental memo: bag sorted. Tick, all ready to go.
All you have to do is wait, right? You have prepared yourself. Let’s recap the mental memo:
shopping: nappies, wipes, clothes, jacket, blanket, entertainment,
Midwife appointments: all up to date, all attended,
Baby’s room: bedding washed and laid,
hospital bag with birth plan: packed and ready at door way,
A copy of your Proactive Growth Reflection Journal (bit of a mouthful!).
Are you asking ‘what is that’? No one told you to have one? No one told you that YOU actually come first, even before that swaddled Darling that is about to take over your entire existence?
Well, let’s get this straight and correct this immediately. You come first. Before you become a parent, you need to mentally and physically prepare yourself for the challenges that will – I repeat WILL – arise. These problems can cause unlimited conflicts within the existing family structure and can cause chaotic stress. So we need to actively exercise to be proactive parents to safeguard our family unit.
The truth is, no matter what we hear from o