Summary of Bari Tessler's The Art of Money

Everest Media

Description

Please note: This is a companion version & not the original book.
Sample Book Insights:
#1 Money can help us heal from shame, but it can also create new forms of it. We must be wary of the ways in which money can bring us down, and work to understand how to use it to heal from shame.
#2 Everyone, regardless of their background, experiences money shame. It’s important to recognize that there is a way out, and it starts with understanding money shame.
#3 Money shame is the feeling that you are unworthy of, or not good enough with, your money. It can show up in the form of anxiety around talking about money, fear that you don’t have enough saved for your future, or self-criticism.
#4 Some forms of money shame are intense and all-consuming, like the case of Suzie, who bought a house and then experienced a financial crisis that led to the house having to be foreclosed on. Other forms are more subtle, and we may only experience brief pangs of it here and there.

Sujets

• Business
• Economics
• Money Management
• Personal Finance

Informations

• Publié par: Everest Media LLC
• Date de parution: 08 mai 2022
• Nombre de lectures: 0
• EAN13: 9798822502642
• Langue: English
• Poids de l'ouvrage: 1 Mo

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Insights on Bari Tessler's The Art of Money
Contents Insights from Chapter 1 Insights from Chapter 2 Insights from Chapter 3
Insights from Chapter 1

#1

Money can help us heal from shame, but it can also create new forms of it. We must be wary of the ways in which money can bring us down, and work to understand how to use it to heal from shame.

#2

Everyone, regardless of their background, experiences money shame. It’s important to recognize that there is a way out, and it starts with understanding money shame.

#3

Money shame is the feeling that you are unworthy of, or not good enough with, your money. It can show up in the form of anxiety around talking about money, fear that you don’t have enough saved for your future, or self-criticism.

#4

Some forms of money shame are intense and all-consuming, like the case of Suzie, who bought a house and then experienced a financial crisis that led to the house having to be foreclosed on. Other forms are more subtle, and we may only experience brief pangs of it here and there.

#5

Money shame can feel like anything from a tightened jaw to a queasy stomach to sleepiness, anxiety, or grief. It is important to recognize it when it arises, and then call it by its name. By noticing, naming, and honoring even this challenging emotion, we crack a doorway into other, more reassuring states of mind.

#6

We were not taught how to make sense of money, and as a result, we project our feelings onto it. We conflate money with our identity, our sense of worth, and our definitions of success and maturity.

#7

The path out of money shame is not to get smarter or work harder. It’s to finally put down that lash and release those unrealistic standards. Tough love is not an effective way to heal emotional wounds.

#8

There are many types of financial shame, and they vary depending on where you grew up. You might have been given so much money that you feel like you don’t deserve it, or that you’ll never be able to accomplish enough or make a big enough difference in the world with it.

#9

We often keep money shame to ourselves, even with those we trust the most. It can be difficult to discuss money, and we often only discuss the good stuff.

#10

The trip was far more challenging than expected. We were scheduled to fly home to Boulder the next morning, and my nervous system was still haywire from our epic work-travel journey. I was dreading the return to normal life and work, but I knew we desperately needed a few days of beach, rest, fun, and chill-time.

#11

The Body Check-In is a technique that helps you get clear about what you want, quickly. It helps you remain present, empowered, and conscious when things get tough or when things are so fabulous that you can’t believe it.

#12

The Body Check-In is a simple practice that helps you become aware of your emotions, physical sensations, and thoughts. It can help you understand what you’re feeling and help you make better decisions.

#13

I knew we could afford to stay in Santa Cruz for another three days, but my husband was afraid of spending more money. I knew we needed to stay connected through this decision, so I encouraged him to let go of his fear and doubt and trust me.

#14

The Body Check-In is a practice that helps us get back into our bodies when we are stressed or overwhelmed with emotion. It helps us understand ourselves and transform ourselves.

#15

The Body Check-In is a practice that helps you become more aware of your inner experience. It is a way of honoring your emotions and yourself. It sends the message that you matter and what’s arising inside you deserves attention.

#16

The Body Check-In is a way to fully experience your emotions, and it can be just as difficult to feel positive and expansive emotions as it is to deal with your stress and fear. However, allowing yourself to feel your emotions helps them move through you, and leaves you more informed and whole than before.

#17

Deep money issues aren’t about the numbers. If you make more money, they don’t go away. Making more money won’t heal them, but awareness will.

#18

The Body Check-In is a practice that helps you bring more love and awareness, honesty and compassion, smarts and empowerment to your relationship with money. It helps you move through your emotions more quickly with less self-shaming and more self-love.

#19

When we access our earliest memory of money, freeze-frame it, and really examine it, we will inevitably find that we made a decision about money at that moment. This decision, however irrational and unconscious it may be, drives and shapes our money relationship for the rest of our lives.

#20

I remembered the car I drove to those job interviews: my father’s dream car, a black Mustang that I got to drive. The upside of my financial upbringing was that I always had enough, and there were nice things in my life. But the darker side of my relationship with money was that I was scared to apply for those jobs.

#21

The first seeds we plant in our financial lives are our money memories. They are the focal points around which whole ecosystems grow. It is up to us, as adults, to determine how much attention and care our Money Garden needs.

#22

When Amy, an emergency room nurse, went digging for her earliest money memory, she recalled herself at eight years old, holding a small, treasure-filled blue box. She flipped the secret switch to unlock it and pulled out a carefully folded stack of cash: many months’ worth of allowance, birthday money, and earnings from shoveling snow from neighbors’ driveways.

#23

Your Money Story is the entirety of your relationship with money, from the smallest details to the major events. It’s as unique as your fingerprint and includes the whole shebang: the historical facts of your financial life, inherited patterns from your family of origin, and how you take on or rebel against them.

#24

When we can clearly see the past and its influence on our present relationship with money, a whole new world of choice opens up for us. We can sift through our histories and distinguish the facts from our subjective experience, interpretation, and the meaning we’ve made of them.

#25

Our Money Stories are often formed from moments at the dinner table or half-heard phone conversations from the other room. They accumulate over generations, from our family of origin back through our cultural heritage and seemingly into the very strands of our DNA.

#26

I eventually became an entrepreneur, and I love how my father pushed me to work hard and pay my own way. But I also hated the ugly underbelly of business, at least how I judged my father’s version of it.

#27

When it comes to money, we often act like children. We forget that we are adults when it comes to other aspects of our lives, and when a financial stress arises, our wits and emotional maturity fly out the window.

#28

When we stagnate in a young or immature phase with money, it can take a dramatic act or crisis to spark change. When we stagnate in a mature phase, it can be because we’ve stopped learning and growing, and instead just repeating old patterns.