Summary of Heidi Grant Halvorson's No One Understands You and What to Do About It

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Please note: This is a companion version & not the original book.
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#1 There are only weak correlations between how others see us and how we believe we are seen. And while we don’t always realize it, we are very likely operating under two very flawed assumptions: first, that other people see us objectively as we are, and second, that other people see us as we see ourselves.
#2 You are difficult to read, and you don’t do enough to make yourself knowable. Your emotions are not as obvious as you think, and your face is not as expressive as you think it is.
#3 To be more judgeable, you must make information about yourself available to others, and it should provide evidence of the particular qualities you are trying to convey. People who are more judgeable are psychologically better adjusted, and they are happier.
#4 The second reason those core assumptions - that you are seen objectively and that you see yourself the way you see yourself - are flawed is that the information other people get from you and about you is always given meaning through interpretation.

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• General officer
• Economics
• Business
• General

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• Publié par: Everest Media LLC
• Date de parution: 24 mai 2022
• Nombre de lectures: 0
• EAN13: 9798822520240
• Langue: English
• Poids de l'ouvrage: 1 Mo

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Insights on Heidi Grant Halvorson's No One Understands You and What to Do About It
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Insights from Chapter 1

#1

There are only weak correlations between how others see us and how we believe we are seen. And while we don’t always realize it, we are very likely operating under two very flawed assumptions: first, that other people see us objectively as we are, and second, that other people see us as we see ourselves.

#2

You are difficult to read, and you don’t do enough to make yourself knowable. Your emotions are not as obvious as you think, and your face is not as expressive as you think it is.

#3

To be more judgeable, you must make information about yourself available to others, and it should provide evidence of the particular qualities you are trying to convey. People who are more judgeable are psychologically better adjusted, and they are happier.

#4

The second reason those core assumptions - that you are seen objectively and that you see yourself the way you see yourself - are flawed is that the information other people get from you and about you is always given meaning through interpretation.

#5

There is a lot of disagreement about the character traits of public figures. While all your fans see you similarly, the haters each hate you in their own, unique way. It takes nine months of living together to start seeing each other the way we see ourselves, and even then, our perceptions are not always accurate.

#6

There are differences in perception between spouses, and these differences are highly predictable. While married couples may have a negative bias towards each other, friends and lovers often have a difficult time understanding each other.

#7

We are hard to understand because we are not open books. Our actions are always subject to interpretation.

#8

The cognitive miser is a metaphor for the tendency among humans to only think as much as they feel they need to. We rely on simple, efficient thought processes to get the job done, not so much out of laziness, but out of necessity.

#9

The most common assumption that guides perception is that when other people look at you, they see what they expect to see. This is called confirmation bias. When people have reason to believe that you are smart, they will see evidence of intelligence in your behavior, even if there is none.

#10

The primacy effect is the reason your parents still treat you like you are twelve even when you are forty. It is also responsible for the fact that sometimes, we can do no wrong in someone else’s eyes, while at other times, we seem to be screwed no matter what we do.

#11

The first task was a game of general knowledge trivia, with difficult questions like How high is Mount Everest. and How many people live in Tokyo. The rest reads like an episode of Whose Line Is It Anyway.

#12

We use stereotypes to categorize people quickly and easily. We categorize people by gender, race, sexual orientation, ethnicity, profession, and socioeconomic class. We have beliefs about these categories, and they are often positive or negative.

#13