Summary of Steve Magness's Do Hard Things

Everest Media

Description

Please note: This is a companion version & not the original book.
Sample Book Insights:
#1 Toughness is typically defined as the ability to overcome obstacles, and for the most part, Knight’s teams lived up to that definition. However, not everyone was thriving.
#2 We have a fundamental misunderstanding of what toughness is. It exists in many forms, from the basketball courts to the playing fields, and it dominates far more than just the basketball courts.
#3 The four main parenting styles are authoritarian, authoritative, permissive, and neglectful. Authoritarian parents don’t trust their children to make good decisions, and they rely on fear and threats to ensure that they make good choices.
#4 The just right Goldilocks fit occurs when expectations are high, but so is support. High demand accompanied by warmth and understanding. When there is an extreme mismatch between demand and support, problems arise.

Sujets

• Gestion de carrière
• Business
• Economics
• Employabilité, métiers et formations
• Personal Success

Informations

• Publié par: Everest Media LLC
• Date de parution: 23 juillet 2022
• Nombre de lectures: 0
• EAN13: 9798822546929
• Langue: English
• Poids de l'ouvrage: 1 Mo

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Insights on Steve Magness's Do Hard Things
Contents Insights from Chapter 1 Insights from Chapter 2 Insights from Chapter 3 Insights from Chapter 4 Insights from Chapter 5
Insights from Chapter 1

#1

toughness is typically defined as the ability to overcome obstacles, and for the most part, Knight’s teams lived up to that definition. However, not everyone was thriving.

#2

We have a fundamental misunderstanding of what toughness is. It exists in many forms, from the basketball courts to the playing fields, and it dominates far more than just the basketball courts.

#3

The four main parenting styles are authoritarian, authoritative, permissive, and neglectful. Authoritarian parents don’t trust their children to make good decisions, and they rely on fear and threats to ensure that they make good choices.

#4

The just right Goldilocks fit occurs when expectations are high, but so is support. High demand accompanied by warmth and understanding. When there is an extreme mismatch between demand and support, problems arise.

#5

Our definition of toughness is broken. We’ve confused it with callousness and machismo, of being manly and stoic. The old model of toughness is represented in the Bobby Knight school of coaching, authoritarian parents, and the callous model of leading.

#6

The extreme workout in the name of developing toughness is alive and still causing harm. It leads to lower independence, more aggressive behavior, and a higher likelihood for substance abuse and risky behaviors. It even fails in places where it seems like it would be successful, like the military.

#7

The old-school model of toughness is to push yourself to the limit when no one is watching, and it is proven to create fragile and dependent individuals. There are better ways to develop toughness.

#8

Real toughness is not about blindly powering through adversity or pretending that punishing yourself yields results. It’s about experiencing discomfort or distress, leaning in, and paying attention. It’s maintaining a clear head to be able to make the appropriate decision.

#9

Real toughness is about providing the tool set to handle adversity. It’s teaching. Fake toughness creates fragility, responding out of fear, suppressing what we feel, and attempting to press onward no matter the situation or demands.

#10

toughness is about navigating discomfort, not bulldozing through it. It is about having the grit to act under discomfort, not just the ability to grind through it.

#11

The Don Bowden Mile is an endurance event that requires participants to run a four-minute mile. The first lap goes by in sixty seconds, and the magic of a four-minute mile is that it requires very little math.

#12

I was a runner, and I prided myself on my toughness. I was notorious for throwing up after every race, pushing to the point of exhaustion. I had a diagnosis of paradoxical vocal cord dysfunction, which is when the muscles that control your voice become weak.

#13

The vocal cords are in the larynx in the throat, and they play a role in making sounds as well as respiration. They open widely when you breathe in and partially close when you breathe out. They also have a third function, protection. They shut to protect the lower airways from any objects that may attempt to pass through.

#14

We have to understand where we went wrong in order to fix it. We have to understand why we are so used to seeing toughness as a special attribute reserved for the talented. It’s attainable to all.

#15

In 1954, Texas AM was a cow college, meaning it was the only college for men only. When football coach Paul Bear Bryant picked up and left the University of Kentucky for Texas AM, not only was it a surprise, but it provided hope for the university’s fledgling football team.

#16

The Junction Boys team, which was the first team that Bryant assembled, was a symbol of how he developed toughness in his players. However, the team’s results that season were abysmal, and they barely won any games.

#17

The Junction camp was a success in that it eliminated players after a coaching regime change. But did it develop toughness. The immediate performance gains, or lack thereof, suggest otherwise.

#18

The old model of toughness, in which people are thrown into the deep end of the pool and expected to swim, is not how the military develops soldiers. The military instead develops soldiers who can survive extreme adversity.

#19

SERE training is based on the concept of stress inoculation. It prepares soldiers for anything they might face, before they even get into the woods or a simulated POW camp.

#20

The military has realized that stress inoculation doesn’t work unless you have acquired the skills to navigate the environment you will encounter. As sports psychologist Brian Zuleger told me, you must teach people how to relax before they can be told to relax.

#21

The military has learned that toughness isn’t about putting people through difficult situations and forcing them to cope with adversity. It’s about teaching them how to navigate the discomfort they’ll soon face.

#22

The best of the best are able to maintain clarity when faced with adversity, and they all want to quit under extreme levels of discomfort. They all face an inner battle between persevering through and throwing in the towel.

#23

The key to toughness is navigating this biological and psychological cacophony. We’ve all been there, men and women alike. It started innocently enough with an expectation that our lover would text. From there, it spiraled down until we became an irrational mess.

#24

We experience some sort of sensation or feeling while our mind is busy thinking about all sorts of things. We often quit so that the unknown becomes the known. We seek out a solution that moves disorder to order, and we often choose the easiest path.