How to Talk and Influence Anyone Effectively: Learn the Power of Words and Art of Connecting to People

Henry J. Parker

Description

Communication is an important aspect of today's society. With the constant change of technology and the popularity of online communication, offline communication has become an aspect of the past. Notice how difficult it can be for many people around the world to have a proper face-to-face conversation with each other without wanting to immediately walk away after three sentences. Yet, the hardest aspect of communication is an individual's ability to influence another through words.

Our goal in this book is to teach you how to communicate effectively with others. Having the ability to use your words to influence or persuade another individual also falls into this category. Whichever your reason may be, this book will set the foundation skills that you will need to know to be a great conversationalist. After all, words are the most important aspect of proper communication. How can you communicate with others without the use of words?

Sujets

• Santé et bien-être
• Développement personnel
• Communication organisationnelle
• Business
• Economics
• Marketing et communication
• Business Communication

Informations

• Publié par: eBookIt.com
• Date de parution: 05 août 2013
• Nombre de lectures: 36
• EAN13: 9781456619480
• Langue: English

Extrait

How to Talk and Influence Anyone Effectively:
Learn the Power of Words and Art of Connecting to People
Henry J. Parker
Copyright
© 2013 by Henry J. Parker
ISBN: 9781456619480
All rights reserved. No part of this book may be reproduced, copied, stored, or transmitted in any form or by any means, electronic, photographic, or mechanical, including photocopying, recording, or in any information storage and retrieval systems, without prior written permission of the author or publisher, except where permitted by copyright law.
Any information provided in this book is through the author’s interpretation. The author has done strenuous work to reassure the accuracy of this subject. If you wish you attempt any of the practices provided in this book, you are doing so with your own responsibility. The author will not be held accountable for any misinterpretations or misrepresentations of the information provided here.
The information contained in this book is strictly for educational purposes. Therefore, if you wish to apply ideas contained in this book, you are taking full responsibility for your actions.
Contents
Introduction
Chapter 1: Communication Understanding
Nice is not Permanent
Benefits of Communication
Commit Yourself
Chapter 2: Understanding Basic Communication
Judgments and Assumptions
The Two-Party Conversation
Chapter 3: Daily Communication Mistakes
Reassuring Others
Reasoning Over Emotions
Being the Adviser
Chapter 4: Labeling and Ordering
Labeling and Categorizing
Being the Leader
Chapter 5: Dealing With Negative Communication
Being the Critic
Giving Verbal Threats
Shifting the Conversation Around
Chapter 6: Communicating With Strangers
Speak Out Loud
Join a Group
Chapter 7: Additional Tips
Making a Lasting Impression
The Reviews
Conclusion
Introduction
Communication is a very interesting topic to discuss regardless of any present generation. It is ironic, however, that we are creatures born with the ability to verbally communicate with words, but we still fail to communicate properly among each other.
What’s worse, with the ever-changing society that is constantly producing results for better technology, our communication and human interaction have been greatly diminished.
Although communication is vital for any business or social interaction, the communication barrier between individuals have become thicker through time.
Nowadays, if people wanted to speak with each other, a simple phone dial or text message will do the job for them. There is no longer a reason for people to physically meet up and chat when it takes them less than a minute to communicate wirelessly.
The main issue, of course, is the fact that the quality of communication has greatly died down. Because people are no longer making the effort to communicate face-to-face, they are not used to it when the situation arises. That is why some people fear public speaking, or socializing in general.
It is always easier to speak indirectly with someone than to speak directly to them. If you are not used to communicating with others directly then you will stutter. You will say the wrong thing at the wrong time. People will hate you depending on what you say and people will like you depending on how you make them feel at the end of each conversation.
If you are a poor conversationalist then you’re most likely going to receive negative results at the end of your conversation.
So what this book is going to help you with is your overall communication skill. You want to know how to talk better with people. You want them to like talking to you, or at least feel great after speaking with you.
You want to use your communication skills to the best of your abilities. What’s important is that no matter where you are at in the world, communication will always be the same. It will work the same way regardless of the language. So what are we going to cover in this book?
We’re going to take a look at the basis of communication: how you can learn and what you would need to do. In addition, we’ll also be talking about how to avoid the negative aspects of communication.
Words can substantially alter a person’s mood for the rest of the day so you do have to be careful about what you say to each individual.
Before starting the first chapter of this book, you should acknowledge the fact that you do not know anything that has to do with communication. Try clearing your head, and pretend that you are learning something new, which you sort of are.
If you try to read this book thinking that you already know half of what’s going on then you will gain the minimum amount of knowledge that you wanted. Do not skip any chapter or section in this book even if you have some prior knowledge on it.
Some knowledge is not equivalent to complete knowledge. If you already know some ideas that will be taught in this book, just think of it as a review rather than a pain.
Also, do not try to finish the whole book in one day. You need to give yourself time to sink in the information presented. This isn’t simply an instruction booklet that tells you what to do and what not to do. This is an advice book that will help you improve your communication skills.
Remember, you should always be ready to interact and socialize with other people. Be ready to respond courteously when someone approaches you, and be ready to converse when you’re ready to approach someone. It’s all part of the living process.
We are social creatures. We cannot survive without the help of others. The only problem is the fact that we have a hard time enjoying the company of certain people.
Everyone loves to see a newborn baby because there is nothing wrong with him or her. So it’s always best to look at a person the same way you would look at a newborn. It makes socializing twice as easy.
Chapter 1: Communication Understanding
As of now, most, if not all, people in society are prone to destroying relationships with another person. It’s not simply a matter of personality or appearance since those aspects can be easily ignored.
The issue lies within communication. How you communicate to others and how you make them feel at the end of each conversation will determine whether people will trust you or not.
One important foundation in communication that you should never forget is listening. Listening is one of the easiest and hardest actions for anyone to do.
It’s easy because all you have to do is sit there and let the other person talk. Yet, it’s hard because you have to sit there and let the other person talk. Everybody has an egotistical self where they want their problems to be heard.
They want to talk about themselves when they’re happy, or when they’re sad. The difference is to what extent. There are some who will control their urges and choose to listen while there are some who will simply talk without care for the other party.
In order to break the communication barrier between you and the other party, you need to control your urges and let the other party talk. If they want to hear your side of the story then they will stop and let you talk.
It’s true that communication is a two-plus people factor. However, people will enjoy speaking with you if you show that you’re a great listener. Even in the case where you started the conversation, you do not need to do most of the talking.
Only talk when it is necessary to keep the flow of the conversation going. The rest will be up to your partner. Basically, communication is the only job where you won’t have to work hard to be liked.
You should also take into consideration that words are powerful. If you cannot communicate your thoughts properly to the people around you then there will be miscommunications.
By miscommunicating, you run the risk of hurting the other person, or offending them even if you don’t have any intentions to do so. By being the listener, you give yourself time to listen to what the other person have to say.
You have the opportunity to take in their words and see what type of person they are. It’s easier to communicate with someone when you already have some background information about his or her personality. By listening, you obtain that information easily.