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Publié par | Balboa Press |
Date de parution | 17 novembre 2021 |
Nombre de lectures | 0 |
EAN13 | 9781982276461 |
Langue | English |
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Bringing Richard Home
PAT SPONER PAHOLSKY
Copyright © 2021 Pat Sponer Paholsky.
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ISBN: 978-1-9822-7642-3 (sc)
ISBN: 978-1-9822-7647-8 (hc)
ISBN: 978-1-9822-7646-1 (e)
Library of Congress Control Number: 2021922224
Balboa Press rev. date: 11/11/2021
To my beloved Richard
Contents
1 The Ending
2 The Beginning
3 Year of the Funeral
4 The Fifties
5 Harbinger
6 The Sixties
7 First Day in the Hospital
8 Cross-Country Moves
9 Days 2, 3, 4
10 Moving to the Farm
11 Days 5, 6, 7
12 The Seventies and Eighties
13 Days 8, 9
14 Retirement
15 Days 10, 11
16 Our Son Dies
17 The Last Day
18 Coming to an End
19 Back Home
Epilogue
Afterword
Dear Reader,
I began writing this as an homage to my husband, about whom a friend would often say, “He breathes in and she breathes out.” We were one. Now half of me was gone, but I gratefully realized later, only physically.
After I finished writing, I felt this would be a great model for anyone suffering a loss. If you keep a journal, you are halfway there. If you are not the journaling type, set aside an hour or so every day in a special writing corner and reminisce about all the memories that made up your life. Then feel your heart soar with gratitude that this person was in your life and how blessed you are. These short vignettes, over a period of time, will remind you of more memories. It is truly healing to put down on paper that which will be lost when you die.
I wish you peace.
And time remembered is grief forgotten.
—Algernon Charles Swinburne
Chapter 1
The Ending
T he day before we drove into Michigan, I carried Rich up to our hotel room. With one hand. Told him that was the first time I could do that. The funeral home had put his ashes in a black leather urn and then put that in a cloth tote. Pam and I wanted to see what his remains looked like. We took the lid off the round urn and undid the twist tie holding him together. He was a fine powdery gray, and after I picked some up, I didn’t think it would be right to wipe my fingers with tissue or towel, so I licked my fingers. It seemed more dignified than depositing part of him in a hotel wastebasket.
It was the third day of driving from Arizona to bring Richard home. It was February 2018, and there were winter storms moving along with us. We started off with icy roads and another ten-to-eleven-hour drive. We had hoped to reach Indianapolis but instead pushed through to Fort Wayne, Indiana, which left us about five hours the next day to get back home. We had a relaxing dinner at Don Hall’s Pub and Tavern.