Daddy Daughter Dynamic

A Collaborative Work By The Power 13

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Thirteen women share stories of how each traveled the road to forgiveness healing, self-awareness, and most importantly, self-love
Each heartfelt chapter will deep dive into thirteen Daddy Daughter Dynamic stories written by thirteen empowering women affectionately known as THE POWER 13. These women are from different backgrounds yet have similar experiences. Their stories will take you on a purpose-filled journey of introspection and self-actualization, from the untold inside chronicles of what they experienced and, to some degree, are still experiencing while sharing the good, bad, right, and wrong Daddy Daughter Dynamic explorations.

Sujets

• Santé et bien-être
• Confiance en soi et estime de soi
• Confiance en soi
• Confiance
• Personal Growth
• Self-Esteem
• Therapy
• Family secret
• Sexual abuse
• Forgiveness
• Healing
• Self-help
• Incest
• Therapy?
• Trauma

Informations

• Publié par: AuthorHouse
• Date de parution: 18 octobre 2022
• Nombre de lectures: 1
• EAN13: 9781665572972
• Langue: English
• Poids de l'ouvrage: 3 Mo

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DADDY DAUGHTER Dynamic
THE PATH TO HEALING







VOLUME I
A COLLABORATIVE WORK BY THE POWER 13





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Published by AuthorHouse 10/13/2022

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CONTENTS
A Special Dedication From The Power 13 Co-Authors
Introduction

Chapter 1 From Wounded To Victorious
Chapter 2 A Family Secret
Chapter 3 Where Is My Daddy
Chapter 4 The Decisions He Made
Chapter 5 My Daddy Died 4 Times: Family Secrets
Chapter 6 A Father To The Fatherless
Chapter 7 Real Or Reel: Two Sides Of Reality
Chapter 8 Second Coming Rebirth The Set–Up…. In The Beginning
Chapter 9 Evolution Of A Butterfly
Chapter 10 Trust No One?
Chapter 11 The Father Of Lies
Chapter 12 Lopsided: Balancing The Scales Of My Soul
Chapter 13 Shaken But Not Stirred

References/Tiffany Washington



A SPECIAL DEDICATION FROM THE POWER 13 CO-AUTHORS
We dedicate our stories to the little girl still inside of us who desired for our daddy to toss us in the air with laughter while we screamed, “Do it again.” To all of us who wish we could be a girl, dad in every sense of the phrase. You are enough, and you are lovable.
ADRIENNE CONYERS-BEY: To Pumpkin, Susan, Deja, Yanna, Jayden, and the late Robert Sanders.
DR. LIZ BLANDING: There is a seed of greatness in every adversity. With great adoration, I dedicate my story in this book to the great warrior women “seeds” of my great-grandmother, Hattie Odom.
ROBYN SMITH-HAYNES: To Gabrielle Christian, “Drummer Girl,” and Madison Peyton, “Rocky”
SAKINNA J: To the love of my life, George. Thank you for showing our Five daughters the true definition of “a Father’s love.”
FOCUS JAMES: To all the daughters whose fathers did not have the capacity to father, it was not YOUR fault or YOUR problem to solve.
BEVERLY LARUE: To our heavenly Father, the healer, and restorer of all his daughters with love.
DR. MARLENA SHERMAN LINTON: To James Bates (my grandfather), who planted the seeds, and James Landry Sherman (my father), who waters the seeds that God makes grow.
MAQUIRA OLIVER, LMSW-C: To Junia & Mekelee- My Luvbug, my Best friend/Sister
Also, to that person who keeps me grounded- You encourage me to live my truth.
BRENDA WARREN: To Minnie Lancaster, my mother, for ensuring I walked in forgiveness.
TIFFANY “CRISTENÉ” WASHINGTON, B.S., M.P.S: This work is dedicated to my daughter, Journey Lindan Bell. May God allow you to learn from Mommy’s mistakes yet teach from your own experiences. I love you! ”
DR. LATISHA WEBB: To two of my – Paternal aunts ‘who came for me,’ Hattie Crawford and the late Mary Bradford.’
CAPTORIA WILSON: To God and my brother, both constant father figures who taught me how to LOVE!



INTRODUCTION
The Daddy Daughter Dynamic
Is the past the past? Or is it right here in the present, destroying your future? If you don’t heal the hurt, you will repeat the pain. Then, you won’t be capable of getting the love you want or having the life you love.
In this amazing book, thirteen powerful women share their Daddy Daughter dynamic experiences that have radically changed the trajectory of their lives. The healing part of their journey was just as revolutionary. Read the stories of the Power 13 and see how many of these memoirs resonate with you.
Are you the neglected little girl, the hurting tween, the starving-for-attention teen, the damaged young woman, or the unloved, hurting mature adult? Maybe, you are all the above?
No matter where you find yourself, it’s time to draw a line in the sand and begin your healing journey. Here’s an eye-opening visual bringing to light many dominating factors in your life, whether you are aware or not. To demonstrate the many parts of our lives affected by the Daddy Daughter relationship, look at this “Wheel of Life’’. We’ve added some effects we have experienced in our lives to open your mind to understand WHY now is the time to take care of yourself and heal. Which one of these remnants of your Daddy Daughter Dynamic do you see still controlling life?












CHAPTER ONE
From Wounded to Victorious
BY ADRIENNE CONYERS – BEY
My dad was a chef. Cooking is not my favorite thing to do, and I would much rather cook with someone, but when I do cook, I listen to my ancestors for how much seasoning to use and guidance for when the food is done. Maybe my dad contributes to that cooking help in some way. My dad was an artist. I loved to draw as a young girl and teenager. As a young adult, I found myself to be artsy at times.
My mom tells me my dad was musical. Although I love to sing, I took keyboard lessons as a teenager, which was my go-to whenever I was bored or sad. I also sang in a children’s and youth choir and my college choir. At some point, I began to sing less, dance less, and play the keyboard, less. However, I express myself creatively through singing, writing, and dancing.
It’s just not a side of myself that I shared with everyone. Although, as I grow older, I am becoming less inhibited. I guess you could say I get my creative side from my father. During one of my conversations with my dad (when he was healthy), he told me I would write a book and asked me what the title would be. I did not put serious thought into what he was saying at the time. But here I am, at least a decade later, contributing a chapter to a book about daddy-daughter issues.
My earliest memory of my father is when I visited my paternal grandfather’s home. As I entered the front door and proceeded to walk through the living room to the kitchen, I could hear someone playing the piano. That someone called out, “Adrienne, Do you know who I am?” I replied, “No.” and kept walking. I vaguely remember him calling me over and telling me he was my father. I do not remember how I felt or responded.
I can only imagine the pain he felt, having his daughter not know him. The lack of memory of my feelings at the moment signifies a numbness I felt throughout my early childhood and as an early teen. That numbness did not take voice until my later teenage and young adult years.
I remember having a tantrum as a young girl crying out in my bed, “I want my dad or daddy.” I vaguely remember having some disagreements with my mother, which resulted in me retiring to my room. I chose to chant those words until I fell asleep. This would be the beginning of what I now know as my escape to a phantom father or night and shining armor who could/would come and save me when I needed comfort that I could not receive from my mother or someone else.
I remembered a few conversations on the phone with him at that young age. I remembered receiving a letter from him in which I received my first $20 bill. The following sum of money I would get from him would be when I was an adult due to his passing. That money would later be used as a down payment on the home I live in today. It was not until I was in my (a lady never tells her age) that I realized that my father did provide me with something. I thanked my Heavenly Father the moment He brought it to memory.
However, Robert Sanders (my father) was not a steady presence in my life. I can count (on one hand) the number of conversations we had and the number of times we were in each other’s presence. His absence led me to question why he was not in my life as a little girl. At eight years old, I reasoned with myself that he was not in my life because he did not love me, nor did he find me important enough to be in my life.
That belief system transformed into “I am not important, I am not loveable by a man, I am not wort