Discovering the Stages to Breakthrough

Roberts Mary

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Discovering The Stages To Breakthrough is a self-help book/workbook designed with high expectations to help the reader understand how words, emotions, addictions, control, and lack of self-control and morals are slowly destroying relationships. After working through each exercise, the reader will hopefully discover that true love, inner peace and happiness can only come when a person can fall in love with who they are. In order for this to happen, you must like everything about yourself. After all, the Bible says in Matthew 6:33 (New Living Translation)" and he will give you all you need from day to day if you live for him and make the Kingdom of God your primary concern." It also says in Luke 17: 21 in the King James Version," the Kingdom of God is within you." One's true identity must be discovered and the shattered pieces of life must be put back together before self can ever come to that place of inner peace.
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• Self-help

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• Publié par: AuthorHouse
• Date de parution: 27 mai 2005
• Nombre de lectures: 0
• EAN13: 9781463470852
• Langue: English

Extrait

Discovering the Stages to Breakthrough
 
by
 
Mary Roberts
 


 
 
 
© 2005 Mary Roberts. All Rights Reserved.
 
No part of this book may be reproduced, stored in a retrieval system, or transmitted by any means without the written permission of the author.
 
First published by AuthorHouse 05/23/05
 
ISBN: 1-4184-9548-4 (sc)
ISBN: 978-1-4634-7085-2 (ebk)
 
 
 
Printed in the United States of America
Bloomington, Indiana
 

 
 

Contents
About the Author
Introduction
Genesis
Identifying the Problem – Self-Analysis - Reality
Cycles of Verbal or Emotional Abuse (Source - Internet)
Emotional/Verbal Abuse
What No Man Sees
Emotions
Booby Traps
Survival
Shattered Lives
The Voices Within
Scientifically Designed
The Sergeant Major Syndrome
Code to Breakthrough
The Climax
Dispensations to Breakthrough
Out of Balance
Basic Training
Resistance
Helpful Hints from The Book of Proverbs
Ecclesiastes Chapter 3
Helpful Principles
Journal
Glossary
 
  About the Author
A day will come when you find yourself in a place of solitude. For her, that was a place where she wanted to die. She thought death would have been better. Little did she know, this was where she should have gone in the very beginning. This was a place where she was forced to look in the mirror and face the real problems in her life regarding all the wrong choices that she had made. This was a place of much pain and sorrow. Slowly, she began to realize that her problem was related to her childhood and her own passed-down beliefs and ideas about how she thought life and people were supposed to be. Realizing that her own unhappiness came from those false perceptions and beliefs, she was forced to look at herself and face who the real culprit was that was destroying her relationships and her God-given life, “herself.”
 
Looking back in time, she was always desperately on the search to find someone to love and to see good in her. Therapists call her a “people-pleaser.”
 
Not knowing the meaning of real love, she made many wrong choices, especially when it came to choosing her soul mate. Being the only love she knew was related to rejection, she chose someone very jealous and possessive. This type of love made her feel very special and very loved, but not for long, for this jealousy turned into control, and control into rape, and rape into emotional, physical, and verbal abuse. This type of love turned her into a robot.
 
Out of fear, she learned how to stuff her emotions. No one ever knew what she was thinking or feeling, not even her. She learned to take whatever was dished out. She didn’t dare discuss or try to find out why she allowed people to treat her in abusive ways. Out of fear, she chose to stuff her real feelings and to live with the abusive treatment. This became her way of survival. Not being able to stand up for herself as a child, she thought this was the way life was supposed to be. She was slowly becoming a robot with no feelings, being programmed by whatever was expected of her. After her husband was caught in affairs and theft, the so-called marriage finally ended. Once again, because of wrong choices, she ended up losing her two children, the only thing in her whole life that she had ever experienced real love from. She was not permitted to see or talk to them for nearly a year, and when she finally was allowed to see them, she found out they had been brainwashed by her ex-husband by playing tapes to them saying she left them for someone else and did not love them. After much heartache, shame, and guilt, she finally just gave up.
 
She was now with her new Prince Charming, you know that perfect man, or so she thought. He waited on her hand and foot, helped her with the housework, brought her flowers to work, and all the girls thought she was the luckiest woman in the whole wide world. Sadly, she did too, until they moved back close to her family. He then became jealous and possessive, making threats to hurt her family, not allowing her to go anywhere unless he was with her. She became so accustomed to this lifestyle that she made herself believe that she had the most awesome husband and life.
 
She was a person nearly destroyed in the church, the place she thought she was going to find love and acceptance. Little did she know, she was to lose it all right inside that house of God. Her husband left her for another woman, and of all places, guess where he found his new love—singing in the choir. She sang like an angel and could prophesy like a prophet, and she moved him right into her apartment.
 
After several affairs, and twenty-three years of marriage, they finally divorced.
 
All her life, she had been told what is in the past, leave in the past, it’s dead and gone—leave it alone, and just get over it. But she could not forget the past after all; haunting memories and thoughts kept playing like a tape player in her head, controlling her every thought and emotion, forcing her to try to understand what she was doing that was so wrong in her life.
 
She now understands and agrees that you must put those things behind you and move on—but she also realizes that you can’t put anything behind you until you know what you are putting back there.
 
A life spent looking for love but only finding rejection. Her desire is that this book will help a person to a place of understanding. Until a person reaches that place called surrender, and realizes that there is only one way for real happiness and that is to fall in love with themselves. After all, God created all things in His image, so how can you love anyone or be loved until you love the God in you?
 
After reading each story and completing the exercises, you should begin to experience a new type of freedom, and a sense of serenity.

  Introduction
Who and what is “self”? Self is one’s memories, attitudes, ideas, values, morals, and beliefs regarding life and society. Self can rise up unexpectedly and make a person say, feel, or act in disturbing ways. When self reacts in negative ways it suddenly becomes a self-controlling, destructive force that attacks one’s mental stability.
 
When the burdens of life and everyday living arise, you must always be in control. Making negative choices and failing to use self-control will lead you down a self-induced, self-destructive path.
 
Unwillingness to accept the fact that negative decisions, negative behaviors, negative attitudes, and negative communication can result in loneliness, failure, divorce, depression, anger, suicidal thoughts, unwanted addictions, sickness, feelings of rejection, feelings of not being loved, feelings of fear, pain, and unhappiness.
 
Self needs certain things to survive and feel secure. For certain people, it may mean someone to share their life or time with, others nice things, and others just a sense of good worth about themselves. People need security both emotionally and financially, in order not to live in fear and worry regarding their future. These natural instincts drive us continually, trying to force us into becoming a person we like and can be proud of.
 
Self needs sex, which is a God-given, natural instinct and a driving force that is necessary for survival. Sex outside of marriage takes a person on a detour in life and off their intended path, which leads them back down a self-destructive course.
 
Self needs to be ambitious and must have goals in order to achieve its highest potential and to obtain its desires. Self needs to know that there is nothing outside its reach if he or she is willing to make the necessary sacrifices.
 
Self needs lots of self-determination and must be willing to be on a self-training and self-discipline program in order to see results for any type of change.
 
Since birth, self has been programmed and influenced with many different ideas regarding morals, values, religion, and toward society. These are passed down differences and/or similarities that have to be evaluated to determine what is true and what is a lie. When people begin to put a value on themselves and make a positive choice to change, they will discover the stages to breakthrough and significance of their own self-worth.
 
Everywhere I go, I see shattered lives and shattered dreams. I see people using drugs to go to sleep, to wake up, for energy, for nerves, or to lose weight, desperate for any way to survive or escape anything, to keep them from facing their own fears, failures, and/or disappointments.
 
I see Sodom and Gomorrah all over again and everyone pretending not to see and not to care. I see people’s homes as places of addictions, control, manipulation, prison, and slavery.
 
I hear the cry of God, “Let my people go!” God’s desire is for self to be conquered! Once this has been accomplished, His death will have been successful in your life. Redemption meant taking away your pain and giving you back a life with dreams and a hope toward the future.
  Genesis
Discover who you are and why you say, do, and act the way you do. Discover the genetic material from your DNA that is responsible for transmitting genetic information in the form of genes from one person to his or her offspring, replicating itself.
D N A
 
(Deoxyribonucleic Acid)
 
 
DNA is a genetic material of all cellular organisms in most viruses that carry the information needed to direct the protein-combining of separate elements or